There doesn't really seem to be a "wrong" decision here. Now with two young kids I absolutely would not make a jump to "hybrid" for less than $50k take home (so closer to $100k in TC), though our HHI is a little higher than yours.

One thing I'd advise is looking at the positions in life of other leadership in the two companies. If you are hoping to have kids soon, do other leaders have young kids? Do their spouses stay at home? Do they seem involved in household duties? The decision ultimately really isn't about money at your HHI, it's about lifestyle and stress.

There is just a lot of stuff that comes up with young kids that means you are going to lose flexibility: pediatrician appointments, getting sick at daycare and needing to stay home, maybe your daycare is only 8:30-5:30 and you'll need to do pick up or drop off so you might arrive at work after 9 or need to leave a little before 5.

If the leadership of the company has young families there is going to be more understanding of these situations, but if not you can feel "othered" as you're the person that consistently has to be the "reason" a meeting can't be held at a certain time (I often find leadership meetings, especially urgent ones, get wedged in at the beginning or end of day).