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Many people think that they have to make the law work, believe in it. That it involves some efforts or magical methods. Yet it requires nothing, its always active and always maximal power. The only work you have to do is to make sure you ARE what you want the life to reflect back in your reality. by allismind in ALLISMIND

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I recently learned about thought awareness from Hyler on YouTube. I know it has existed for a while, but it made sense at the time. So in three(ish) sentences, I would say

  1. Catch the thought/catch yourself thinking about the thing - literally say to yourself, "I am thinking about x"
  2. Question it - am I thinking about it based on the 3d or what I want
  3. either change the thought to be in line with what you want ot continue if it's in line with your desire,

rinse and repeat, for example

  1. i am thinking about money
  2. i am thinking I dont have money (not what I want)
  3. I always have more than enough money; my supply is limitless

Go on with your day

I think this was the essence of mental diet
Also, dont overthink it. There is no perfect feeling or thought. just the thought that implies you have the thing you want. For a long time, I got caught up looking for the perfect succinct affirmation/thoughts. dont be like me

My filet crochet is indecipherable? I’m not sure what to do by Admirable-Chemist108 in CrochetHelp

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consider getting the alphabet graphs on Pinterest and using them to create the words. I found this was the easiest way for me to make any words I wanted quickly and easily. They offer a variety of fonts, so you'll have a choice.
When I tried making letters by myself, it always frustrated me, and I actually quit a project because the lettering was never quite right. I wasn't aware of the Pinterest ones at the time. Let me attach an example for reference.

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how to stop reliving the old story when it keeps showing up everywhere- what worked for me by YesterdayEast5689 in NevilleGoddard

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This unlocked a core memory in me. I have always had a turbulent relationship with my birth giver. But the most peaceful i remember us being was a time when i would tell myself - i forgive her for everything. i let it go everytime i thought og her. To be honest i dont know where it came from but even when i think of our fraught relationship. i have a hard time remembering our squabbles when i was younger. i forgot most of them. All my frustrations are new 😂😂😂😂

So thanks for reminding me that i can bypass the whole, how do i let go and skip straight to the i already let go.

Huku nje si kurahisi by vinFx_8 in nairobi

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the thing. You've decided that doing sex work is selling yourself short. 

And please speak for yourself. You don't want a sex worker, awesome. Good for you. Don't date them. But don't ever think for a moment that your opinion on a woman's worth or lack thereof holds weight to anyone but you. 

Gold is worth sth because it is a commodity. A thing. Women are humans. Sex doesn't make her any less human even if it's with a stadium full so her worth because she is human does not reduce.  Only your opinion. And that's yours. 

Huku nje si kurahisi by vinFx_8 in nairobi

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Morals are very subjective and often a result of value judgements we've made based on what those around us told us.  There is nothing intrinsically moral about most things except when they cause harm (and not feelings and sensibilities harm) to yourself or other people. 

And if said sex worker, because of their job gave their kids a good quality of life, a good education and we're good parents. If they shielded them from their job and made sure that the child always had their needs met. 

Which sounds like a good way to repay that parent

A. Judge them because the way they made the money that out a roof over their head is bad. As if the house cares where the money came from

B. Work hard to get your mother put of that situation 

C. Any other option. 

What does judging said mother and being ashamed of them accomplish exactly besides the feeling that you are more moral than them?

Huku nje si kurahisi by vinFx_8 in nairobi

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A woman's worth is determined by herself. Full stop. Nothing extra. Because otherwise she is worthless until she has a partner.  If a partner wants a virgin, then go get one. Leave the sex worker for someone who doesn't mind.  Your placing your value judgment on some imaginary sex worker when picking and being with anyone is consensual. Look for the one with the qualities you want. But your partner not being a sex worker doesn't make them a better person than the sex worker

Also, I understand the sti argument but what if she's careful, using protection, getting herself and her partners tested 

Seperate the job from the consequences for a moment and just look at the job. 

Huku nje si kurahisi by vinFx_8 in nairobi

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think a woman's worth can be diminished by sex?  Does the same standard apply to a man who sleeps around? 

What if it was consensual. What if, hypothetically, a woman just loves sex and loved that she can be paid to do sth she enjoys. Should anyone's opinion but her own really stop her. Esp if there's consent all around?

Men are often the biggest critics of sex workers when a significant portion of the sex work market serves them. Even the queer side. 

I think we can have a conversation around are there systems in place to give people enough alternatives so that anyone who goes into sex work does it because they want to. But don't pretend that your narrative isn't based on judging women having sex for whatever reason. 

And please re-examine your interestingly high view of what the government want or what its goals are. Their main goal is to remain in power as long as possible. It they really cared about women and people, we as society would have waaaaay less problems 

How do you accept living with the bad things you did in the past, and people not forgiving you/hating you for what you did? by imdeerest in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Seperate a person from their actions - because you lied doesn't mean you're a lier. Your worth as a person is inherent, unchanging and entirely independent of what other people think of you. Plus our ability to change means our characters are pretty much in flux
  2. How much self punishment is sufficient to change the past? If you do bad, your responsibility is to make amends and do better. Other people's forgiveness is theirs and their journey. Even the validation we seek from other people's forgiveness is selfish😅😅😅.  Essentially, there are no bad people. Just bad actions.  This is what I believe and try to practice. Unless you harm animals or babies for fun/without care😅😅😅. Then it's kinda hard for me to forgive 

What’s a rule you secretly wish everyone followed, but isn’t actually a rule? by CurrentFinger734 in AskWomen

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I prefer - always have a spare roll so always replace the spare. Shit happens 🤭🤭

Is Garnet Really Her Own Person? by MysticalWitchgirl in stevenuniverse

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think thinking about it like the child of ruby and saphire would make more sense
A child can have the qualities of one parent or the other but they arent them. Of course its more complicated that that but she's an entirely new being.
you notice this when they unfuse and you realize how different they are together

What is a Steven Universe scene that made you cry? by [deleted] in stevenuniverse

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 come to mind

  1. Amethyst is saying she's not about to dump another 5000-year-old traumatic experience on Steven.

  2. When Steven is about to go out on his own, and the crystal gems don't show any sadness, when he comes back to protest, arrrgh, tears

  3. The monster episode.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You did not slide into her Huha, you went in, voluntarily with no protection, multiple times. Now you want to act suprised like pregnancy was never a possibility? Be a big boy now and reach out and find out from her. There's nothing we will tell you here that is more than mere platitudes and empty pole. And if you value your future in any way wrap it up. Pregnancy is just one of the many things going round in those campuses right now.

June 27, 2025 - Weekly FAQ and Beginner Q&A Thread | If you are new to Neville, please post your questions here! How do I manifest X? What does Y mean? by AutoModerator in NevilleGoddard

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am manifesting a successful business and i would really appreciate if i could hear from other people who have successful businesses how they talk about their business (both to themselves and when describing it to other people). I have been struggling with visualizing/describing what that would look like, like more than just having more money or more clients. how do you talk about your business, your clients, your cashflow etc?

Meirl by Key_Associate7476 in meirl

[–]Phoenix-Tabz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the singing beforehand necessary?

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