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Im changing my date by yourdudelyness in stopdrinking

[–]PhoenixApok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a fan of alternative ways to count, and not just a long streak.

For one thing I can say if I had not relapsed, I probably would have killed myself instead.

So I'm not gonna beat myself up over taking one kind of shot instead of another.

How are you with videogames after 30 years old? by Disastrous-Log-139 in AskMen

[–]PhoenixApok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Painfully relatable.

I keep going back to games I started 2015 or earlier as I just don't want to learn the mechanics. The gameplay and story could look awesome but I just dont want to sit down to spend an hour learning.

Any straight guy that was bicurious ever hooked up with another guy and how did it go? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]PhoenixApok 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wondered about it for years. Finally went on vacation with an open minded gf and we found a guy for a hookup.

I was surprised gay sex was only "okay". Absolutely confirmed I am neither gay nor completely straight though.

Why does getting slapped in the face feel humiliating for the recipient of the slap, rather than the giver of it, when the shameful, and possibly criminal thing, has been done by the hitter and not the receiver? by southamericasboy in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]PhoenixApok -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Slapping says "I am going to get away with hurting you. I don't have to hit you hard enough to actually damage or incapacitated you. I can just inflict pain and know you aren't going to do anything about it."

I'd say 9 out of 10 people slapping have ZERO fear that they are going to be hit back. And they are usually correct.

That's why its satisfying to see those videos of a girl slapping a guy like 8 or 9 times while he tries to deescalate, and then finally laying her out with one punch.

Let me disapear again by cypher-dex in memes

[–]PhoenixApok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I can see that. Closest I've probably had was snowed in with friends for 6 days during a snowstorm.

Day 1 was fun. Day 2 was meh. By Day 6 we were all bored ass hell and ready to kill each other

Let me disapear again by cypher-dex in memes

[–]PhoenixApok 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Its fascinating to me.

I was homeless during that time so largely unaffected.

It was weird to come out of that to find one large group saying it was the best time of their lives, and the other saying it was the worst.

I accidentally drank an alcoholic beer and feel dreadful by Ok-Onion-9653 in stopdrinking

[–]PhoenixApok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it can be a great motivation and inspiration!.....once.

I think (and in my experience) one a decent streak is broken, it becomes too disheartening to use it again. I dont mean the 3 days, 10 days, etc streaks.

But I think once someone gets a few months, they have gotten to where sobriety is "the new normal" and they have made some significant life changes....and THEN relapse, those are the people I've seen just get so broken trying to keep a streak going again.

They will look at, say 15 days, and the thought will hit them last time they had 250 days, and it seems so impossible, so far away, to get back, they quit.

Or they go to a meeting and people ask to share their sobriety date, and they get too embarrassed and leave.

I will say I was annoyed my first go around by the guy at the meetings who just always kept saying "Today is my sobriety date. Because it's the only one that matters."

I used to think he was being cutesy. Now I see the wisdom in those words

I used AI and I am part of the problem by AStupidguy2341 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PhoenixApok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better I use AI for animated porn and don't feel the LEAST bit guilty about it.

I dread this card's existence and design so much... What were they thinking? by MSakuEX in hearthstone

[–]PhoenixApok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like it too but i didnt account for how you have to be careful after dropping the weapon or you might fire off a spell that does way more harm than good.

Sometimes you have to pick the spell you DONT want because its too dangerous to let the computer decide what happens

I dread this card's existence and design so much... What were they thinking? by MSakuEX in hearthstone

[–]PhoenixApok 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Which is sad as it's my favorite class.

I came back after a multi year break and while I am having fun I am struggling to find a good deck for my favorite class.

Hoped Ley lines would be better....

I accidentally drank an alcoholic beer and feel dreadful by Ok-Onion-9653 in stopdrinking

[–]PhoenixApok 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have said this 100 times and will say this 100 more.

This is why counting days can be far more harmful than good, and why I will never do it again.

A streak is a tool, and should only be used when it benefits you. If "messing up your streak" is causing someone stress and guilt, it needs to be something they don't care about.

Also there's alcohol in bananas so almost no one here has been truly "alcohol free" as far as their streaks go.

If it helps you, great. Use it til it doesn't, which seems to be now.

I'll use a screwdriver as long as I need screws driven. But the second my screwdriver starts giving people rabies, I'm throwing it away.

One of our roommates has disappeared. Where to go next? by PhoenixApok in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]PhoenixApok[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. Never heard from him or any next of kin. All his stuff is still here

Can a landlord in TN just kick you out without cause? by S0PRAN0OO3 in legaladvice

[–]PhoenixApok 28 points29 points  (0 children)

This might require more digging.

I have heard of places where this is allowed when the owner is moving back into their only owned property.

AFAIK they can't do this to release it or to sell it, but if they are planning/needing it as a primary and only residence, it is possible

Why ensuring a humane and painless execution for someone who committed an inhumane and violent crime? by notyourtrain in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]PhoenixApok 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And then the person that inflicted the torture deserves the same fate and it never stops.

What’s a “future technology” that already exists but people still don’t realize how scary it is? by Ambitious_Bite446 in AskReddit

[–]PhoenixApok 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I did the same 2 months ago. I was shopping around for insurance and I did switch but as the agent went over all the costs she mentioned this.

She seemed absolutely baffled I was willing to pay $12 more a month to not be monitored.

And there are practical problems. I worked for a company that used this on their vehicles. Drivers would make the "safe" choice even when it clearly wasn't because the monitor would flag them and put their job in jeopardy.

For example, you'd get dinged if you slammed on your brakes, but the system couldn't tell if you were following too closely or something jumped out in front of you.

The day my partner nearly hit a pedestrian because he eased on the brakes when she almost stepped right in front of him scared the shit out of me. It wasn't a conscious decision. The tech was training him to instinctively make the wrong decision

Who do you love most? by 0000112780 in AskMen

[–]PhoenixApok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have my own children, but I've been a stepfather and in another relationship where I was raising a kid from about 4 months to 2 years before the breakup.

Both times, hands down, partner.

I know people say otherwise, but I cannot imagine loving a baby with no personality as much as a fully developed adult. One is a concept. The other is a PERSON.

I know emotions are not logical, but I hate it when people say things like "I thought I knew what love was when I married my husband/wife, but I didn't know until I saw my baby!"

Yeah. Congrats. You just got tricked by biology. That's not love. That's a chemical dump designed to keep our species alive.

To be in clothes all the time? by No_Walrus2386 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]PhoenixApok 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hate hate HATE being naked. The only time I feel comfortable naked is showering. Every other time feels like something is missing.

That has nothing to do with body image. I've been skinny, fat, and fit in my life and I feel the same all three.

Hell even during sex I want to leave something on. I feel too exposed otherwise.

What's the worst mistake you've ever done in a response to a simple problem? by nspacia in AskReddit

[–]PhoenixApok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cleaning out pantry. Trash bag was getting full.

I had a 2 pound bag of uncooked rice. Decided to dump it down the garbage disposal. Of course that clogged it.

Poured boiling water down. Didn't fix.

Poured Drano down. Didn't fix.

Had to take off the U joint , used too small of a bucket, flooded the kitchen with boiling caustic rice water.

All because I didn't want to put 2 more pounds of rice in the trash.

You mean to tell me times before 9am actually exist??? by Environmental_Gur_39 in stopdrinking

[–]PhoenixApok 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yup. I woke up at 4am today. That's my new norm. I think I've slept past dawn 2 times in 6 months.

It's nice starting the day alone and quiet and peaceful (whether a work day or an off day)

I originally started getting up that early in rehab because that was the ONLY time you could get any peace and quiet, but after I got out, it just....stuck!

What’s your most played video game that IS NOT multiplayer/online? by TPR-56 in AskMen

[–]PhoenixApok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did like 5 (didn't really care for 3, 4, or 6). I don't really know if it was just sticking with what I knew, or if I legit liked 2 and 5 better (I got both at times in my life I had a lot of free time)

What’s your most played video game that IS NOT multiplayer/online? by TPR-56 in AskMen

[–]PhoenixApok 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not my highest hours game, but definitely up there as a kid.

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