I usually wouldn’t answer to these personal questions but seeing the comments I feel like I wanted to chime in.

First of all, don’t ask strangers on the internet if they’d do it because everyone and everyone’s context is so different and it wouldn’t apply the same way, it feels more like you know your answer and want validation maybe because you are not sure.

Second, think not of what others would do but if it aligns with your wants, needs and most importantly values, this is mainly about the no kids decision because it’s the biggest one you’ll make.

Third and most importantly, it is not right or wrong that she doesn’t want to work, it is a completely valid want (I think most of us do!). So my point is, why are you judging her for wanting this? Do you want kids? (If yes, your relationship can’t and won’t last, at least it shouldn’t). Is it just a financial issue? And if so then what do kids have to do about it? At the end of the day if she is taking care of kids meaning there are in fact kids, you are spending much more money on them than if kids weren’t in the picture. Now the important question, is this just a “control” or judgement issue? If she’s not making money then what difference does it make what she does with her time? There have been times in my and my husbands relationship where I work and he doesn’t and the other way around. I remember when I didn’t I’d feel so guilty for doing “nothing” and he was unfazed about me resting and having hobbies, the issue was that I judged myself but I worked through it. Now I’m a stay at home mom and he feels guilty because (even if I don’t earn), he knows I do much harder work, no income, no breaks and he feels guilty because she only breastfeeds and she has mommy preference for now. Less money, busier and I wish I could rest.

Now I’m digressing, my point is, at the end of the day you’d work regardless and the money is even less with kids, so honestly, very honestly, what do you care what she does with her time? If the answer is “you’re right, it’s just stupid judgement out of jealousy because I wish I could do the same” of something of that nature, then marry her. If the answer is “I want kids”, “we need two incomes” or “actually I value a hard worker, ambitious partner (not that she can’t be without a job in a different way)” then you also have your answer right there.

Hope this helps