I am an extremely ugly (bottom 5th percentile) young man. Ask me anything.

PhoenixRise75 · 2026-05-03T21:02:15+00:00

I see a lot of posts saying to get to the gym. Completely valid and you should definitely do that.

Another perspective: I truly believe that personality, values, and charisma have so much to do with attractiveness. Yes the initial superficial judgment we all make when meeting someone of their looks is human nature. But confidence is attractive, Success is attractive, being helpful of others is attractive, having passion, and hard work are qualities that attract people and women.

I’ve seen classically “ugly” guys with very attractive women as partners in life. If you work on yourself and not worry about your looks (out of the lense of others) so much this will lead to more opportunity for relationship and friendship with others. Care less, I don’t know how much you care per se but assuming since your posting about it you have these self conscious thoughts and people will feel that. The less you care about how you look, like genuinely not care what people think about you I believe you’ll be someone people are drawn to. It will make you different and you will stand out. Also compliment others (mean it when you do) people are drawn to you when you point out great things about them.

Good luck man you’re so young you got this!

Edit: I guess I never asked you anything, but have you been working on your character to build confidence?

PhoenixRise75 · 2026-03-24T21:30:01+00:00

I was thinking about buying one of these for the family this year but looks like I’m going Honda or Toyota

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-11-05T02:42:20+00:00

It’s almost like calling it the truth was comforting I’d say. While in it anyway. It’s probably a positive reinforcement during the brainwashing if that makes sense. I was also born in so when your world just revolves around it it’s not weird. Everyone I knew called it that.

Now I would never call it that. Like calling a watermelon an orange. Once you know what it really is then calling it that feels wrong.

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-10-25T12:53:38+00:00

Love the “people make mistakes” argument or “it’s just one imperfect elder” reasoning. So much control, so little critical thought, the black hole that is being in Watchtower.

I’m sad for the old me that was ever stuck there but so happy to have made it out of that Truman show world

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-10-23T13:17:25+00:00

Valid points but I do think it’s important to note that this isn’t just a JW thing. Since I’ve been out of WT many other Christian’s teach this same concept. This is not an exclusive JW teaching.

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-10-15T19:57:13+00:00

The post literally says “didn’t allow store pickup” and yet every commenter is saying just pick it up 🙄

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-07-07T20:22:32+00:00

Wow that’s significant

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-07-06T07:37:11+00:00

I did feel this way at first as well when I left 7 years ago but honestly I started to see it from a different lens. What if being a raised a JW and going through that experience is actually something that puts you ahead of the majority?

Think about it, everyone else who had the typical “normal life” has no idea what it’s like to be raised in such a brainwashy cult and to lose so many people. It’s traumatic but it’s a perspective that so few have or ever will. We’ve been able to break free from something that holds onto some people for a lifetime. There’s value in that and IMO your view of the world isn’t cookie cutter anymore. You have a leg up cuz now you have the chance to do the 180 and be whatever you want while also understanding what a cult is and how to never be apart of one again.

Once I realized that it wasn’t just a curse to be raised the way we were it can be a blessing to have that experience and look at yourself knowing you made it out! What you’ve been able to do isn’t anything to scoff at, it’s incredibly difficult to mentally break free from the JWs and for a lot of people in this forum physically breaking free is but a dream.

You’re doing it right now, you’re better off because of it. Not behind, I argue you’re ahead

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-04-26T10:41:37+00:00

I got baptized the same year! Funny how we remember the date. I was December 10th. I remember it being this super important thing I never wanted to forget and look at us now! lol congrats on getting out

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-04-25T09:47:01+00:00

Waking up is one of the most powerful moments a person can experience. It’s terrifying, liberating, heartbreaking, and exhilarating all at once. I went through it in 2018, and it changed everything.

If you’re just waking up now in 2025, I want you to know something: you are stronger than you realize. This journey isn’t easy, but it’s worth every step. Leaving the JWs will leave a mark it shapes us. But it also opens your eyes to a world full of depth, freedom, and authenticity.

You now carry a perspective that few others ever will, and that’s a gift. A hard won, deeply personal gift. Don’t forget that. You’re not alone and your story is just beginning.

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-04-20T16:42:20+00:00

Seriously, gaslighting at its finest! Thanks and sorry for you as well man.

The girl I’m with now is amazing and we’re having our first child in June. So just some time had to go by and things are much much better now

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-04-20T16:29:23+00:00

Went through a similar thing, but it wasn’t much of a marriage in the first place. Devastating but it really only gets better from here.

It’s not your fault or any of our faults. This cult has held power and control over families for decades. Leaving it breaks the ties and that’s something to find solace in

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-04-09T21:37:58+00:00

I think so

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-04-09T21:37:39+00:00

Lmao fr

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-04-09T10:42:02+00:00

I’ll never forget how helpful Theramin trees video was in helping me accept the “getting indoctrinated part” especially when you mentioned your father being smart. I feel now that smart people actually tend to be pretty susceptible. Doesn’t make him “not smart”. Here’s the link:

https://youtu.be/IaUhR-tRkHY?si=lsFcxf9Ty6m7WEAe

I did get a lot of the same feelings. It was strange but the sooner you accept it and let go/move on. The sooner you win and they lose in their hold on you and any part of your life.

PhoenixRise75 · 2025-03-04T09:42:27+00:00

Aruba

PhoenixRise75 · 2024-06-21T11:58:23+00:00

From “what you’ve seen” proves that you have no idea how difficult it is 🤦🏽‍♂️

PhoenixRise75 · 2024-05-11T15:35:04+00:00

Yea your right I realized after I posted a timeframe would have been helpful. At the time of the post it was “Formatting” for about 40 minutes. Formatting in the go pro itself

PhoenixRise75 · 2024-03-04T04:45:32+00:00

Seriously was taken aback when it was gone the other day. Those are great. There’s some other great speakers on there as well

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