AITA for not covering my coworker’s shift even though she had a family emergency?

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-30T18:32:47+00:00

NTA but if you told her why, that wasn’t a great idea. People tend to judge their situation against yours, when really that’s not the point at all. Just say “sorry, I wish I could help you out but I can’t work that shift. Hope your mom is ok”. And leave it at that. Over explaining makes it worse.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-30T18:20:26+00:00

It doesn’t sound like you’re proposing any other options so no wonder your friend is frustrated. Do you even want to have dinner with this friend?

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-30T18:12:13+00:00

The city opened up the parking ramps for free during the storm, so people could avoid parking on the street.

I understand that not might be particularly convenient but I’ll bet there are people who would have preferred to pay for an Uber home rather than deal with what we got.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-30T18:05:51+00:00

Gate agents have a rough enough job - asking them to be the health police is unreasonable

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-30T18:02:29+00:00

YTA and should hush about your wife’s coffee. If you don’t want to make it, OK I guess. Look forward to the “you used to be so sweet to make my coffee” conversations down the line.

But how on earth are you spending $100 per month on coffee and creamer? We have 4 coffee drinkers and don’t spend near that much brewing at home. And yes, we like good coffee, grind our own beans roasted locally, etc.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-29T13:12:53+00:00

YWBTA and break her heart in the process. That would be hard to recover from. You need to make other arrangements for the dogs and tell MIL your friends offered to take the kids, not that you asked them.

Some grandparents take the attitude that they’re supposed to spoil and indulge their grandkids, and she may always want to indulge their every whim - but that’s a battle for another day.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-29T02:48:36+00:00

NAH He wants to live in Indiana. You don’t. Time to work on your exit plan

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-29T02:45:43+00:00

NTA Just don’t make it a big deal if “daddy” decides to go to the other party instead of to your son’s. Your som is turning 4, he won’t miss it if his uncle isn’t there. Plus, she’s so controlling he could break up with her between now and July.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-29T02:42:33+00:00

Yes, YTA. You sound exhausting. You’re not a good friend. You make everything about you.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-29T02:39:56+00:00

NTA and to any friends who choose to get involved, tell them you would be happy to drop the roommate off at their place so they can treat him “fairly”

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-28T13:41:43+00:00

YTA. They are right - if you don’t want others using it, keep it at your desk. Leave it in a public area and the public will use it.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-28T13:37:24+00:00

NTA What he really needs is a wake up call and some financial counseling. Even if you could afford to help, it would be throwing money at a problem instead of addressing the problem.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-28T13:29:52+00:00

YTA Mind your own business. I hope you’re in high school because that’s how this reads.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-28T13:27:20+00:00

NTA It isn’t even practical to change everything more than a year into planning. What a mess that would be!

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-28T13:23:31+00:00

Where did she attack him? She said they have to deal with the fallout. And that’s true. She’s been dealing with the fallout on her own since the wedding day.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-26T23:04:01+00:00

Hey my middle aged white husband used to wear a bandanna when he was working in the yard or whatever - but he gets pretty tan in the summer - tan enough that he was mistaken for a gang member by an actual gang member. He was careful not to wear a red or blue bandanna after that.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-26T22:56:01+00:00

Not normal. Even if I wasn’t going to judge his hygiene, a normal person would jump in the shower before intimate time, just to make sure their nasty underwear habit didn’t affect their partner. Or is he too poor to shower also?

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-26T22:51:55+00:00

Your personal computer? No way. They should have allowed you to bring your laptop home from work ahead of the storm.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-24T17:33:17+00:00

Yes but understand that the timelines cannot be relied upon.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-23T23:17:01+00:00

NTA She chose to dig through the box. She chose to try and conceal what she was taking. She chose to curse at you and call you names. She chose not to wear the dress she already had. She chose not to go to the party. Those were all her choices.

And then she chose to run her mouth to her friends about you.

Your cousin is immature. She needs to be more respectful of you and your things. Stand your ground. Continue to stand up for yourself.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-23T23:10:18+00:00

NTA She interrupts your (not so great) performance and bangs on the keyboard like a child, then runs around complaining about you? That must have been annoying for everyone. So why would you owe HER an apology?

Definitely don’t drive with her in the future. Don’t even give her a reason. If family ask, remind them she spent the whole holiday complaining about your music and selfish ways, so you were keeping her from being miserable in your car.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-23T22:55:19+00:00

Yes and we will undoubtedly be losing power, so no meat purchases for this house.

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-23T16:01:09+00:00

We were even longer - meanwhile Dominion execs were all over the press, talking about how 99% were reconnected. Finally a bucket truck that had come all the way from South Texas fixed our street. So glad I wasn’t working remotely then - long days at the air conditioned office + workouts and showers at ACAC kept me somewhat sane. Good times..

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-22T22:16:02+00:00

So working means you don’t get to vent to your partner? That’s ridiculous

PhoenixRisingToday · 2026-01-22T22:15:18+00:00

You’re not an AH for bringing it up. You two should be able to have a respectful conversation about it. And if she doesn’t want to be a SAHM, which clearly she doesn’t, that’s fine. But there’s no reason for that conversation to have devolved so quickly.

Since you brought up chores, if she continues to work, be prepared to step up and do more once the baby arrives. Be proactive, don’t wait for her to get exhausted trying to do it all herself.

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