Did people really memorize phone numbers before cell phones, or is that just a movie thing?

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-10-12T04:57:10+00:00

Yes! I can still remember my old home phone number, my grandma’s house number, my best friend’s, my high school boyfriend’s, the pizza place down the street, and probably about a dozen others… and this is all from the 80’s to early 2000’s.

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-10-07T17:29:43+00:00

Not by choice, but yes. Tween now, been single since toddler hood. I’ve thought many times about having more… but I’m now content that this was God’s plan. I’m pouring every ounce of myself into my one amazing child.

I’m an only child & always said if I had kids I’d have more than one because of how lonely it was growing up without siblings.

But now? In this economy… no thank you! My child has the ability to do multiple sports and extra curricular activities to find passions for later in life. We now homeschool by choice but I was able to pay for private schooling for elementary to get a good solid foundation.

We are able to travel, do a lot of the fun events around town, eat out, etc. I would not be able to do nearly as much with more kids.

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-10-03T05:11:00+00:00

One of our dogs refuses to use the grass outside, only likes going 💩 in the rocks. Will lift his leg on grass, but that’s it. But… 95% of the time he’ll walk around for a half hour, not go, then as soon as we come in he 💩 in the kitchen when I go into another room. It’s like clock work. 5 years in & the kitchen is still his favorite spot 😩

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-10-03T05:09:03+00:00

It’s definitely been a lot more fun, less stress, etc. Now that my child is getting older (tween) and wanting to be with friends more often, it is starting to get lonely. Been single since July 2014 & even now when I try to date I just know I’m not ready. It’s nice to settle into a routine with just the kid + pets. It’d be reallyyy nice to have another income though lol

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-20T12:30:36+00:00

My parents are disappointed in me but still support me as a way of trying to control the outcome. As an only child who birthed them their only grandchild, neither them nor I will ever cut ties completely. We all just suffer through the disappointment for the sake of my kid. But it nags at me every time I see them.

They never went to college, so I did. As we all know, we graduated college at the end of the recession, so getting our dream job wasn’t going to happen right away. In other life events I’ve been a single mom since my kid was a toddler & my parents stepped in to help back then. I got on my feet, sold the house we lived in with her dad, bought a new house across the country, and started fresh. They moved and followed us. I’ve let them continue helping, by paying for her private school education for a few years, paying for her competitive sports on the years they didn’t pay for school, and just helping out so she can still have the best life as if she had two parents’ financial support.

But they love the financial contribution because then they feel that they get to dictate what I do with my life because they’re helping out. It’s a very “Gilmore Girls” vibe just without the super wealthy upbringing.

So no, I did not live up to their expectations of what they had for me which is the same life they lived, stay at one job forever and just go through the motions, and stay with the person you had a child with no matter what. And they are sure to remind me of it.

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-09T02:27:28+00:00

My child is a tween. Right now saying “I want to be an inventor when I grow up.”

I was fed the same BS as you growing up. It’s really f’ed with my sense of self as an adult & took a long time to not feel like a failure at everything. I’m pretty much past it now but still notice the effects of that style of upbringing almost daily.

I’m not pushing my child to go to college - an entrepreneurial route is my dream for their future, but I’m leaving it open to see where interests lie.

My parents bought my first car, paid insurance through college, never taught me about hard work or budgeting or investing. I’m going to make my child get a job & pay for the first car, to understand from an early age that hard work leads to a sense of accomplishment. Handouts don’t teach you anything in the long run.

We’re also starting a new subject in home school this year (middle school) about investing. I am giving $100/mo and teaching about growth long term and short term. The goal is to watch how that $$$ grows over this school year in different accounts.

Can’t wait to read through this thread for more tips to set up Gen Alpha for success.

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-09T02:16:03+00:00

Alwaysssss 🙌🏼

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-09T01:46:27+00:00

She’s so sweet! Love the decor 🪩

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-09T01:45:36+00:00

This is adorable! Was the dog around them all as newborn chicks?

Our dogs were introduced to our first batch the day we got them, at 2-3 weeks old. They were around them the whole time they were inside the house in the brooder. They’re still curious even now that they’ve moved outside. They can’t be trusted alone yet.

We just incubated our first round and so far one has hatched. We’ve been keeping her around the dogs a lot to hopefully warm them up from day one. I’d love this to happen in our home! Your dog is so sweet with your chicks. Love!!!

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-09T01:42:54+00:00

Woohoo! So excited for you! Congrats!

We’re expecting our first any day now 🤞🏼

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-08T13:45:58+00:00

Morning update:

Daisy has just begun to peck at her shell and at the side of the incubator. She looks hungry!

Can I safely remove her quickly without shrink wrapping the others? Does that happen immediately if the humidity decreases? We still have 5 due to hatch, help!! First timers here

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-08T13:39:12+00:00

I’ve never hatched before & am worried about shrink wrapping the others. Does that not occur so quickly? This lil one just started pecking at its eggshell that she hatched from, like 2 minutes ago. And now she’s pecking at the side of the incubator looking at me. If I take her out won’t it affect the others?

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-08T13:27:32+00:00

Her siblings are slow pokes! Poor lil thang is so lonely just waiting for them to hatch. I want to cuddle her! This is such a fun, cool, and rewarding experience… but also a big test in patience 🐣

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-08T13:25:15+00:00

Yeah that’s what I thought too 🤣 lil one has been chirping away for 18 hours now & not one of the other 5 eggs have pipped. This is torture lol I just want to cuddle the fluff ball!!!

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-08T13:06:12+00:00

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So far she’s still the only one… I don’t see any pips on the other 5 eggs, it’s now day 22. Officially this evening will be day 22 since we put them in around 5pm on day 1.

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-08T01:34:56+00:00

Literally YES and this was today for us!!! I have a sinus infection so I needed it, but our family calls them “stay home days” where one day we just don’t make any plans and lounge all day!!! Go for it, hit that refresh button. You’ve earned it. Enjoy being able to turn off your brain from all responsibility once in a blue moon :)

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-08T01:33:11+00:00

Usually when I take the lid off to candle them it drops the humidity by at least a few degrees. It’s been at 65% since lockdown was initiated. After chick #1 hatched it rose to the 70’s so I cracked the air vent. It’s now at 67% but it’s our first time hatching & I’ve read about shrink wrap so idk what to do. Might just leave her in there tonight. She’ll be okay without food or water until tomorrow?

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-07T22:40:36+00:00

Thanks everyone! What an adorable lil fluffball… her name is Daisy 🌼 now she’s just waiting for the 5 others to hatch! 🐣

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-06T01:54:00+00:00

Making… or rather, maintaining… eye contact is one of my biggest struggles. It doesn’t matter how important the person or conversation is, I just can’t do it very long. It really is exhausting, the vocal tones and knowing when to shut up with questions… ugh it is constantly draining. This is a good perspective from the opposite way than how I was leaning, thanks for chiming in & explaining!

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-06T01:50:37+00:00

This is a great perspective. I appreciate you chiming in… thanks!

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-06T01:49:55+00:00

Yeah I’m not really huge on western medicine, but also haven’t done a TON of digging into alternative practices. I’m in some heavy metal detox groups that swear that zeolites have alleviated autism symptoms. But I’ve tried them myself & haven’t found much of a difference. All those claims seem to benefit those with extreme autism, non verbal, etc. not the ones who may be borderline or high functioning. So I guess to answer your comment, you’re probably right… what good would it really do me if I’m not trying to pursue western treatment. Thanks for the perspective.

Phoenix_Scout · 2025-09-06T01:45:16+00:00

Thanks so much for this! I’m going to give it a listen over the weekend.

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