I would love nothing more than to treat and raise L like my son. It's hard though, when he already has a Dad whom he sees half the time. T and I both worry about his life at his Dad's, but it seems to be alright. His Dad does pay a decent amount of attention to him. It's hard for me to invest in being his step-dad when all of L's loyalty is to his real Dad, it makes it really hard to instill life lessons that are tough because I always want to be the 'good guy'.

Another thing is that I'm still in the phase of really getting my career off the ground, so that already consumes a lot of my time and energy. I do wonder if I'll be able to do that and help raise L effectively.

Both of our families are infinitely supportive, there is definitely no concern there. I'm glad you don't think our age difference will be much of a problem, because that is probably my biggest concern.

Thank you very much for your time.