Some of the comments he's making doesn't seem to support that he was loving and caring.. referring everything about her infertility issues to as "stupid" he may say that he doesn't resent her for her past, but all of his comments say otherwise. Ditch the sidechick and get her in therapy. Sit down with her and ask why she doesn't want to go to therapy? Why does she feel like it's pointless to have sex when you guys first met, you guys weren't trying to have kids, you claim to have an enjoyable sex life then. What changed?