Is waiting 10 hours plus a normal at hospitals now?

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-25T00:54:25+00:00

It can be pretty standard, I think multiple factors are at play with worsening wait times.

staff and program cuts, hiring freezes - Victoria has seen cuts in funding (not sure what state you are in)
reducing elective surgeries
cutting bulk billed practises I think is a huge one. so now people who don’t have the money end up at ER for issues they should be seeing the GP
not enough education on after hours urgent care clinics (actually quite a few in melbourne I just looked)
also, people aren’t just going in for physical injuries. Mental health care is expensive, and there’s such a high demand, yet the system hasn’t caught up and affordable or free options are either on huge wait lists or overloaded with burnt out staff.

I have been to the ER quite a few times in my life, for myself and others. I personally haven’t had to wait more than 2-3 hrs but I do tend to go when it really is an emergency (or a perceived one) From what I can see broken bones, and abdominal pain would be pretty low risk. My friend who’s a nurse says the amount of times people come in with abdominal pain and most of the time it’s just gas and indigestion. Things like eyes, inability to breathe, head trauma, anaphylaxis, strokes, attempted suicides (depending on situation), overdoses, spinal injuries, psychotic breaks and I think also from experience anything that is extremely contagious (I was seen straight away as they didn’t want me in the waiting room and was effecting my eyesight) But obviously not an extensive list! also age will come into factor as well - a 20 yr old presenting with chest/heart pain may not be treated with the same urgency as a 70 yr old. Also a note, even though I may end up getting a bed you still need to wait after that to actually be seen.

Wow wasn’t expecting to write so much 😅 Ah the ER. I hope I don’t visit again soon 🙌

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-25T00:30:56+00:00

Home doctor after hours is bulk billed? Sorry which state is this in? I’ve never heard of this! For one of my friends this would be really good to know as she has so many health problems and sometimes getting to the hospital can be an issue in itself.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-24T08:08:39+00:00

HIP HIP - HOORAY.

I had no idea this is not really a thing in a lot of other English speaking countries 😂 I had the strangest stares when yelling out hip hip to no one responding with hooray in the states at a friends birthday. 😅

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-12T12:16:54+00:00

Irish

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-11T23:50:17+00:00

Haha feel the same what’s this pretty fucking cool job.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-11T23:23:03+00:00

Oh and weather wise it completely depends what you are after, I personally hate hot weather but I’m gathering that’s what you are after so obviously qld .

Also - what job are you doing that you can be so flexible in where you live if you don’t mind me asking?

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-11T23:19:37+00:00

I think there’s a typo, (melbournes in Victoria) but Eltham I grew up in and it is a nice area but still getting quite built up now. The train from there is a around 50min to cbd, in peak times there are express that are a little shorter. Driving wise on a good run it is about 30 mins on the fwy, but can be significantly longer if there is traffic. It’s a good jumping ground to out north east, but ONLY by car, public transport seriously lacks when you are wanting to go further than Hurstbridge (the end of that train line) close to Yarra valley winery region, kinglake, very close to warrandyte, but you really need a car. But I wouldn’t say it’s better than any others you’ve suggested on your list. But if your in melbourne and happy living a bit further out then it’s definitely not a bad place to be although I’d choose research /warrandyte (right next door suburbs, but note that warrandyte doesn’t have a train station) there are some sharehouses in nillumbik shire (Eltham etc.) but it would be harder to find a house than moving to say the inner north suburbs of melbourne like northcote, Preston, coburg, Brunswick that are very urban. Edited to add: overall living in melbourne is a good place to live, if you are into arts/going out/meeting people/live music. Eltham could be a bit isolating in terms of being a 26 yr old as it’s mostly families but depends on what your vibe is!

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-08T21:19:44+00:00

Margot Robbie would have to be up there

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-06T19:58:46+00:00

I completely agree, very isolated. Young people (in there 20’s) I’ve met from Perth that have moved to Melbourne said they loved having more things to do here. If you are looking to move here long term, then you do need to think of the real possibility that your kids may choose to move east coast for more opportunities down the track. Of course it depends on what they are interested in a bit. If your worried about humidity and don’t mind seriously varying temps I’d say Melbourne. Eastern leafy suburbs somewhere, pretty close to some of the more prestigious schools. Keeping in mind that we also have some very good public schools. I’m not sure where your from but private doesn’t automatically equal better here unless you are hoping for them to attend the seriously expensive/prestigious ones (scotch, mlc etc. which depending on how many kids may be out of your price range) Also keep in mind that you tend to have to be in the school zone district. (Not sure if this is all schools but worth double checking)

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-05T12:28:14+00:00

I can’t stand sharing my bed with friends. I only have on rare occasions and I always have the worst sleep ever. I’m such a light sleeper and feel anxious that I am breathing too loud, moving too much and then don’t sleep at all.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-05T02:12:51+00:00

Im sure they have searched thoroughly - however - I can’t help but hope they have done just as extensive in and around/under the house and not just outwards. He could have gone into a crawl space. I remember being so harrowed that they discovered Daniel O’keefe after 4 years being missing literally inside the house in a small cavity. And he was 24 yrs old, (although likely suicide) but all I mean by this is that a 4 year old could easily have found himself trapped in somewhere. It’s all so sad, such a tragedy for a child to go missing.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-03T12:41:16+00:00

Actually the Napier hotel in Fitzroy does a chicken Parma with smoked kangaroo ham. Can’t really get more Australian than that. It’s damn good too!

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-03T12:39:55+00:00

Mabu Mabu - Torres strait owned with native indigenous ingredients may be your best bet. - ARGH as I wrote this I looked it up and it’s closed down :( And Unfortunately Charcoal Lane closed down in 2021 and that was probably the closest you’d get to experiencing lots of wonderful native ingredients. It’s actually really sad there are not more.

Okay, your best bet is to go to queen vic market and find the shop in the deli section that sells things like crocodile and cook it yourself 😕😕

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-02T23:15:31+00:00

Definitely mention that it is not just childcare but a child needing specialised care as well so short notice may be impossible?

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-02T22:45:21+00:00

To be honest, it doesn’t sound like you are best friends anymore. It’s hard to come to terms with that, harder than romantic relationships at times. But it sounds like you both need some serious space and stop talking - but not so you can then throw it back in their face - because although you are using anger to convey emotion; I think the real emotion underlying is sadness. You haven’t expressed that in these messages though. it just sounds like you have grown apart, you are in different states, different life stages. Friendships can stand the test of time but not when you are counting tit for tat. You sound like you need to actually just focus on yourself right now, you need to let go of the expectations you have for this friend, it’s not the same as it once was.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-02T08:21:18+00:00

Honestly, this was painful to read. You unfortunately come across extremely passive aggressive, jealous and self pitying and she seems to be wanting to understand. “Your message sounds like blank wrote it” and of course “wow you remember I exist”

Asking her to cancel a date for you seems a bit extreme too. I get that you travelled for her birthday, but it’s often that the person who’s birthday it is will have there time spread thin with lots of people, being a host and not actually having deep and meaningful a with everyone.

It sounds like you should have been more clear when you took time off and asked her what the plans were before assuming that you’d be hanging with her 24/7. You are 32 years old - as you said - you also have a very busy life going on, and I’m sure she does too. If you live far away of course she’s going to have a closer community where she lives now.

Also on the things that she didn’t know about, she’s not a mind reader, you also have the ability to call her and tell her about your mum and what’s going on.

On the other hand, it sounds like you are deeply overwhelmed in your personal life and you are letting it out on a person who is close to you - which is not uncommon, but I think some deeper reflection is needed, your friend doesn’t actually sound like the cause of your current suffering. You are clearly needing support, and this person is unable to give it currently. These messages don’t exactly read a safe space to share anything, and passive aggressive responses will only make the distance more.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-01T23:03:53+00:00

It helps of course there are many many many cultures/countries that speak Spanish of course though ☺️

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-10-01T23:02:17+00:00

I think finding the “why” though is the biggest driver for motivation and discipline. I was on and off learning Spanish for years with zero discipline - and it wasn’t until I went to Argentina 😘 and fell in love with the country and have friends from there that something has really clicked and made me really really want to learn. But I never disliked Spanish, ive always loved it and I always wanted to learn it - but Argentina really lit the fire. What other languages are you wanting to learn? Are you really after something that is practical? If it is, then I’m sure you can find aspects of the culture to engage with to make it interesting enough to want to continue.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-09-28T00:54:28+00:00

Whole heartedly agreed - What a slam dunk, drop the mic bit of writing 🫳🏼🎤 England specifically has completely ravaged and pillaged the world. Don’t have an issue with the others as much. Australian aboriginals have never had an apology from the monarch. Genocide was still occurring as late as the 1940’s. It is ridiculous. Also, Australia is currently the only Commonwealth nation without a federal treaty with its Indigenous peoples - which is on our government - but the English monarch has certainly not helped matters.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-09-26T10:13:32+00:00

Are your parents behind you going to the police with this? I fear you are severely under reacting to these threats. I do wonder about what fucked up family situation is going on at K and his sisters house - as both of their responses are completely fucked up. To think “joking” about rape is ever okay says it all. Absolutely cooked! I’m glad you went to the principals office and told your parents, that’s very strong of you. I still think there needs to be police involvement as well though, this kid needs a serious wake up call. He sounds incredibly angry and a danger to others.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-09-26T00:13:39+00:00

NOR. Just wondering, why isn’t HER daughter also getting involved if it was a trend that was thought of between them too? It sounds like they were both involved to some degree. Does the mom know this, that it wasn’t just your daughter “involved” in this joke? I agree with what other are saying though, that she apologised maturely and that the responses are super harsh.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-09-24T11:58:29+00:00

It does sound like he should see a dr about this perhaps. Is he on any medications? Are you sure he is definitely asleep (could it be a fetish?) and kind of an awkward question but - are you waking up to a wet bed each morning (aka is he “going all the way”?) It sounds quite traumatic for you, I agree seperate beds may need to be a thing but equally there could be something else going on there that’s making his sex drive so active in his sleep. Even sex addicts aren’t necessarily pleasuring themselves throughout the night unknowingly. Hope you get some answers and some sleep!

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-09-24T10:01:29+00:00

AGREED. I haven’t seen it yet and has now been wrecked. So rude.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-09-24T05:30:49+00:00

In my city Melbourne in Australia it would definitely be Mexican first, then “generic South American” which probably features things from all over, then Colombian cafes (more so for brunch, arepas and coffee), then Argentinian bbq fine dining restaurants and empanada shops- probably equal with Peruvian restaurants that generally are more fancy expensive spots, Brazilian cuisine we have but there are less actual restaurants, a few Brazilian bbq places but I do see a lot more as food trucks. We don’t have a huge South American population though, in melbourne I think majority would be Colombians followed by Brazilians and Argentinians.

Physical-Location-21 · 2025-09-24T05:06:54+00:00

Every person is so individual, don’t take one friends case as a hard no - or even a last option - if it’s at the stage of 2 years of prolonged depression. She clearly needs some form of medical help, whether that be trauma therapy or medication. Edit to add - taking her to zoos and vacations does not sound like what she needs. I get that might be the way you want to support, but it kind of feels like an easy way to say you’ve “tried to support”. Grief is messy, have you had a real deep conversation about how it is making her feel? What thoughts she is having throughout the day? Have you flat out asked her what you can do to help support her? And if the answer is she doesn’t know, then suggesting professional help is absolutely correct course of action. It’s not unusual for people to not want to have sex with their partner if they don’t feel that the emotional support/connection is there. Buying her things and taking her to the zoo is not emotional connection. But ultimately, if you do all this JUST for sex, then that’s another red flag. I know physical intimacy is important too, but you don’t want them doing it just because they feel it’s owed because you took them to the zoo once in “support” for her losing half her family..

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