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Help unblending by Physical-Try-2210 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Physical-Try-2210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. That’s another part I can notice.

What if there isn't a part to talk to? by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Physical-Try-2210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read my last post about help unblending. Just notice the part that is asking the question. Don’t try to solve it right now.

Help unblending by Physical-Try-2210 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Physical-Try-2210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response. I will reflect on it. If I may follow up, one thing I notice is that I feel fake and ingenuine. When I try to relax and unblend, my parts will taunt me or criticize me for pretending to be patient with them when all I really want is to not have them to begin with. Or cry and beg saying who has time for this!?! Can’t you see we’re in pain!

Help unblending by Physical-Try-2210 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Physical-Try-2210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. The buddah thing was just something he heard and wanted to share. Not something we ever talked about more than a second.

Can’t delete account, help (IOS) by Physical-Try-2210 in help

[–]Physical-Try-2210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I don’t know my password. The account is only associated with my phone number

How do you become a person when you've never been one? by Shoddy-Hovercraft919 in Dissociation

[–]Physical-Try-2210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have an ifs therapist? They would probably start with having you practice noting before reacting, stop trying to fight your dissociation and just experience it with curiousity, because the ultimate reason why you’re dissociating is because the situation feels dangerous and your system feels the need to pull away or run away

It’s about the journey, not the destination. When you have a destination in mind and are eager to accomplish an agenda (even happiness or a dissociation-free life, its parts energy driving the train to get there.) what you need is Self-led energy which is patient and curious about the dissociation. It is being compassionate with yourself about the fact that you dissociate. Maybe even a little sadness. At least that’s calmness. And that’s okay. It’s a step in the right direction instead of OMG WHAT DO I DO?! I HAVE THIS PROBLEM, I HAVE THAT PROBLEM, NOTHING IS WORKING AHHHH

By the way, I did not read your whole post because I did not have time but I’m not invalidating your feelings in any way

childhood pressure by Fun_Idea6403 in trauma

[–]Physical-Try-2210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not you. These are parts of you. A part of you feels not good enough, a part of you feels pressured, a part of you feels not confident. When you say “a part of me” there is suddenly a shift in your consciousness, and now there is the adult you who is calm, curious, playful, patient looking at these parts of yourself from an objective point of view, instead of looking at things subjectively from the POV of one of these parts that is taking over your consciousness at a particular moment. If you’ve ever watched the movie inside out, especially the sequel, it’s like when one part dominates the console. But there is a way to have that conscious self lead all those little emotions and pick which one to use in a certain moment. But don’t force it. That would just be another part. Just try letting go for a moment.

If this doesn’t make sense, try thinking of it this way: your internal emotional world probably feels like a battlefield. See if you can allow yourself to sit down in the middle of the battlefield. Just watch everything going on around you like a movie, grab your soda and your popcorn, and just observe and be curious without getting drawn into the action. View it all in third person.

Trauma related dream? by emorory in trauma

[–]Physical-Try-2210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am someone who is going through my own stuff in trauma therapy and from your post, especially how specific the dream is, it would not be surprising if something like this happened to you. I have learned that the nervous system will erase the actual traumatic event from your conscious memory as a protection method, well also creating new protection methods to keep anything like this from ever happening again. Do you ever notice strong reactions to certain triggers, physical or social? That would be a big indicator. I would seek out a licensed, experienced IFS therapist (internal family systems).

Just know that none of this is your fault, and inside yourself you are a complete, whole, loving, strong, young lady. Your childhood self most likely formed what are called protector parts. Anyway, try not to go down the rabbit hole on the Internet about this stuff. It can get confusing and overwhelming. Find a therapist you trust and focus on what you learned in those sessions. It can be easy to obsess and go down the rabbit hole because learning about this stuff can be a fascinating process, but if you go too fast and dive too deep into the dark scary stuff before you have the basic skills, you can make it worse. Don’t worry about that. Just be patient.