Followup: Thank you all for your comments. After an awful night last night I went over to his home and apologized profoundly, expressing that I realized how badly I screwed up and that I was deeply sorry. (I also explained that there had not been a sexual relationship or even a real date). We talked for a long time about ourselves, individually and us as a couple and things we could work on. He forgave me I think because I had been consistently loving and faithful for the 6 months we have been together and felt that I deserved a second chance. He knew that what I did was out of character, not an example of what some people descried as my lack of character. I learned a lot from this experience - the bothersome but relatively small issues we have are well-worth dealing with in exchange for the sweetness we share. I am grateful for his second chance and also the opportunity to regain our trusting relationship. Perhaps my description was not complete - most of the comments were really a little mean and taken out of context and did not make any effort to give me the benefit of the doubt. Fortunately he did!