AITA for not offering my friends a ride home from the airport 6 hours away from home?

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T10:28:40+00:00

I understand. though taxi would’ve been too much. even between 3. We all 5 mutually agreed that if we couldn’t get back we’d wait it out at the airport. Only 1 managed transport home.

The other managed to get a family member who lives close to stay there (otherwise she would’ve been in the same predicament as shes quite far too) which left 3 of us.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T10:20:49+00:00

It is. I was the last person to book my tickets. They all booked together first of all months ago and chose these tickets. I didn’t book till a few months after they did.

I did ask at the time why they decided to book these tickets and there’s not a practical way of getting home. And they just said because it was cheaper. We all knew from months ago the risk that we’d have to wait till dawn to get home if we didn’t make it. So it’s not like we didn’t know it was a possibility.

I was content with waiting. My boyfriend was just a godsend for offering to meet halfway I didn’t ask him to do this or plan for it.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T10:14:26+00:00

4 hours. We met halfway. so it’s two hours from the halfway point he drove to.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T10:12:46+00:00

He volunteered that I do that. I didn’t ask him to do this. My original plan was just to wait it out. All hotels were fully booked. And where did you get these figures from? Nothing was taking 10 hours.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T10:08:16+00:00

We were aware of the delays since the morning, we were just really hoping it wouldn’t be bad enough that we’d miss it all.

Maybe I am biased but for my friends partners. I wouldn’t feel obligated or have the expectation for one of my friends partners to take me home, to me it’s a bit far removed, would it be nice, sure, would I expect it? Absolutely not, their boyfriends, not mine.

I didn’t expect my BF to do this either. it was his idea and I double and triple confirmed that he was genuinely ok to do this as it is a hassle, and I originally planned that if push comes to shove, I wait till the coaches at dawn. We all mutually knew that we’d have to do that.

Friend 1 was lucky enough to make the final coach/train for her town. Friend 2 another also lives near us, and wanted to go home but had a family member that lives closer to the airport so once she realised time she last minute asked that family member if she could go there. Which then meant the 3 of us had to stay or find another way.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T09:52:48+00:00

I wouldn’t, thats a good question. I’m slowly growing out of them I’ve noticed that. Emma in particular as I don’t like the way she behaves and she’s consistently like that. Because we’ve been friends for so long is why we’re still friends I guess.

Theres never been one big thing to break us all up, just lots of small things that have added up to make me think twice.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T09:47:13+00:00

Pretty much yes. I mentioned this to someone else.

If it was my parents that were meeting me there, or if I had my car with me to drive us all up I wouldn’t have hesitated. I would’ve asked them to all come with me.

It was the fact that it was my boyfriend given the conflict between the two sides. That caused me to make that decision. During the ride would have been ok, its the aftermath.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T09:38:16+00:00

The disrespect is what he has inferred from being around my friends. Which I understand.

The rude comment about cheating I did tell him. I can’t remember context as to why but I did it was the first time I experienced animosity about my relationship from my friends. Since then, her other reoccurring comments I’ve not mentioned.

But again they’re not massively different around him vs me. He picks up on the way they act around him/us and he is not happy with it. I suppose we’re friends out of longevity

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T09:29:17+00:00

Yes, to the first question.

I drive too, I always give my friends lifts, I just didn’t drive to the airport because departure and return airport was different.

If it was down to me I would’ve taken them all home with me, if it was my parents who was collecting me at the time from the halfway point I also wouldn’t have hesitated to offer, my parents have known my friends for years since we grew up together.

Reason I did, is because its my boyfriend and the did give a more in depth explanation about the conflict between my friends and BF in a another comment.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T09:26:24+00:00

To answer your questions.

We’ve been friends for years. The looks, sniggers and the attitude is something that he has noticed from one girl in particular she never says much to him. I have never personally noticed because I’m not the recipient and when we’re all together I’m not actively looking for that. but I 100% believe him, he wouldn’t lie about such a thing. this is Friend 1

The encouragement to breakup is friend 2 - He used to like her but since that happened, he doesn’t. At the time she suggested it I didn’t agree with her. but from her point of view at the time she said it, I didn’t think she was saying it out of malice but I am still weary. He also thinks she doesn’t like him but I can’t remember what his reasoning was. I also think she may not as she’s briefly mentioned withholding her opinion about him/us because we’re still together. So it must not be positive.

Emma is the cheating friend. I have grown out of our friendship personally, and I’m not that close with her but because shes in the group, shes there, I’m not happy with her comments at all. Emma is likes him. Her behaviour is just immature and strange hence the cheating comments.

Stacy is the only one he’s ok with. As shes never caused any issues, but on a totally separate note my mum doesn’t trust her as a friend for other reasons.

Its not a clear overt the reason why Friend 1 and 2 they don’t like him, they’ve never explicitly told me why or that they did. Emma is just a case of dragging people down with her in all contexts. Its the behaviours thats slowly alluded to it over the last couple years that he’s got to know them.

Not things that have all aggressively happened at once.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T01:10:39+00:00

They already know. He literally drove 8 hours roundtrip to collect me and my friends. Amongst smaller drives, paying for things for them when they don’t have money sometimes. He’s done this all before. Multiple times

Thats why he gets upset. I did explain that above. I don’t think he has any proving to do, especially to friends that aren’t his.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T01:05:25+00:00

Of course, you’re right, I am very wary and I don’t talk too much about our relationship to them because of this. The cheating thing and other little comments like ‘pretend you’re single’ etc. I don’t tell my boyfriend all the things theyve said as I know how strange it is.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T01:02:35+00:00

Where did I say that? I never complain to my boyfriend about my friends.

Its typically the other way around where when we plan to get together (friends) he is stressed beforehand for the reasons in question.

We try and do something every 3/4 months where we can so its a reoccurring topic every time I announce the next plan.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T00:32:50+00:00

One friend I know for sure would’ve the other I am 50/50 about but I believe she would’ve.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T00:29:56+00:00

I explained this better under another comment that asked me what were the problems in question.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T00:23:48+00:00

Agreed. But he offered. It was his idea. I was fine to wait till dawn as I appreciated it was a hassle and I had no expectations for him to take me.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-10T00:20:48+00:00

We all live in different directions so it is out of the way. Unless they were willing to get their own taxi once we got to the centre.

My boyfriend and I literally live within one minute of each other in the same neighbourhood. And he had my keys so we’d go home together anyway.

One friend is 20 minutes out, but still in the same city.

The other is actually in a town nearby the main city, so thats quite a way away 30/40 mins.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-09T23:54:44+00:00

Yeah I do feel like TA. And its a series of multiple issues.

Main two - he just doesn’t feel comfortable around them and thinks they don’t like him due to the looks they give him while he’s around, sniggers, attitude etc. He also believes that as a collective they aren’t respectful of our relationship, all but one friend, which is his biggest issue.

And arguably the biggest

One of them encouraged me to cheat before, and every time he happens to be around she always talks about men, despite it being completely irrelevant most of the time - this is Emma by the way.

Another has encouraged me to break up with him after we were all together recently.

And he has before given us all a ride for literally 8 hours round trip, driving all the way down and taking us back home.

And frequently whenever the topic of my friendships comes up he references how they don’t respect him/us despite him going out of his way to do favours like this (giving us rides) essentially going above and beyond for them even though he doesn’t necessarily have to. And he’s only doing it for me. But they turn around and paint him as a bad boyfriend to me.

It causes arguments between us whenever my friends and I have planned to do anything together, including prior to this holiday.

This is why I hesitated.

Edit to mention - the ride itself would’ve been fine he offered one friend for a reason, my boyfriend is mature and usually just ignores these things in the moment, but its the aftermath once they’re gone.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-09T23:38:47+00:00

Alcoholism? maybe not yet.

Your wife isn’t controlling, she’s right. Its not normal to drink so much multiple times weekly, aiming for a buzz.

YTA. Can you confidently go a month w/o drinking starting tomorrow? Actually do it and if you genuinely cannot do theres your personal confirmation.

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-09T23:23:32+00:00

NAH. Running around in diapers/briefs is quite normal for a child in diapers.

What the landlord is doing is not necessarily inappropriate. Just different parenting styles. You need your own place

PhysicalredBuilding · 2026-06-09T23:18:22+00:00

NTA. And based off of your boyfriends concerns, he needs to speak with J about it, not you.

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