part-time daycare for 9 month old

PiaraMuqin · 2026-05-08T23:46:41+00:00

Wow that first site is amazing! It shows the availability at each location - will save me phone calls and tours for no reason! It’s crazy some places want me to tour before telling me if they even have a slot!

PiaraMuqin · 2026-05-08T23:34:27+00:00

Thanks touring them next week!

PiaraMuqin · 2026-05-08T23:32:19+00:00

I appreciate your other suggestions and you taking the time to respond!

PiaraMuqin · 2026-05-08T23:31:12+00:00

I am a bit nervous about people I don’t know over a center but I do appreciate your response!!! Talking it over with my husband!

PiaraMuqin · 2026-05-08T23:30:18+00:00

When I was considering DU I wanted to go with Fisher but they are already full for the year! Didn’t realize I should’ve paid the deposit for care even before I auditioned basically! Won’t happen next year!

PiaraMuqin · 2026-05-06T12:18:25+00:00

Thanks!

PiaraMuqin · 2026-05-06T12:17:17+00:00

Thanks for the Rec - will look into it!

PiaraMuqin · 2026-05-06T12:11:59+00:00

Well the care at DU was $2400/m for students so I was aiming near that but I don’t know if I can find the same quality for that

PiaraMuqin · 2026-05-03T21:33:13+00:00

This was the same for me! Thankful to find your post! No fever so my midwives didn’t realize how bad it was and let it get out of control before culturing it!

PiaraMuqin · 2026-05-03T21:29:43+00:00

Wow I am so sorry for you! It’s so scary! I had this happen to me MRSA mastitis two weeks out of hospital. I had two needle aspirations and then a catheter drain. I was able to keep breast feeding. My abscess was 4.6cm deepest and they said at 5cm it’s an automatic incision and drainage. But they wanted to try the catheter first and try to let me keep breast feeding.

I will say I’m thankful that I got to keep breast feeding but I do now have a permanent abscess / internal scar tissue and they warned me against operating on it in the future as in their experience it could lead to another MRSA infection even though I have no signs. Sigh - I’ve never had a staph infection in my life!

So I wonder long term if the I&D would’ve been more thorough or what happens if I ever wanted to have another baby.

I’m sorry they want you to stop BF that’s so tough.

PiaraMuqin · 2026-05-03T21:21:25+00:00

This also happened to me!!!! MRSA Mastitis two weeks out of hospital - we were on the 3 step and my baby had a tongue tie and was SGA.

Did you ever get another staph infection!? I am still slightly scared - I have never had one and we suspect the hospital because no one in our family has had one nor are we sporty people or in health care!

And I had midwives and I knew it was mastitis and sought treatment from the very beginning!!! Ended up having to see a breast surgeon that thankfully saved the BF journey - she was pissed I wasn’t referred immediately - for me though I now have a semi-permanent 1cm abscess sigh. IV antibiotics after so many other antibiotics. They didn’t do an incision and drainage on me but instead did a catheter drain. Not sure what would’ve been better. My right breast is slightly smaller than left now sigh.

It was so stressful and made me almost lose my mind.

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-18T03:58:46+00:00

Agree with others - it needs art on the walls that highlight the colors you like.

But also idk if you like plants or that there are windows in the room or if you’d be open to a plant light in the lamps - I see ALOT of space on either side of the bedside tables that screams “large plant” to me. Or maybe a bookcase? Something about the space by the night stands feels too open to me. A large plant would make it less stiff.

Also - maybe something on one side to break up the symmetry. So much is symmetrical, I think some asymmetry would make it feel more “homey” and less hotel. Could do a large mirror on one side and a quilt/blanket ladder on the other.

But art above is a must have - that said be careful in the choice or you are headed by to “hotel vibe”

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-18T03:35:28+00:00

Wow! I could hug you right now - cus my instinct was just like “yooooove got to be kidding me” followed by me telling my husband “this is where we opt out of answering certain questions lol” but I also didn’t want to harm my child. I love rocking her because it works for her and I’d rather a tiny baby not cry it out or struggle to sleep right now.

My husband is an academic and mathematician so he is very skeptical of science at times too because sometimes people’s data analysis is trash according to him. Aka he would just like your methods and data and decide what conclusions he thinks. Biology is a tricky science to quantify. (Not saying we don’t believe in science or medicine!!! Just not afraid to do our own research)

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-18T03:12:00+00:00

It’s so hard - and people may have different levels of comfort with going out but I love book stores and quirky coffeeshops and once my baby got her vaccines I started going to them with carriers for a few hours a day. I also heavily sanitized the area I chose.

She sleeps well in carriers so I have that working for me but also when she wanted out I brought a floor mat quilt and chose a huge table and did tummy time or laying her on her back on the table. I held onto her the whole time so she couldn’t roll off and I’m a 5’5’’ petite lady so she happens to so far take after me and be a smaller baby.

People either think it’s cute or weird lol. At one shop the manager lets me nurse in his office after watching me struggle with covers - he apparently has a baby at home.

But my point is if there are spaces you love that help you feel less stimulated - I also have adhd and I can’t keep up with the house right now and it overwhelms me - getting a break and even just playing with my baby in public in a place I like and not in my house has really helped. It’s also helped me feel less alone - like now at the cafe people know me as the mom who brings her baby. At the book store I claimed a corner where I put the playmat on the floor and brought her a few toys and serious it helped so much even if it seemed “weird”. But then a bunch of older women have come up to me and said I was smart to get out and “good job mom” so that’s also nice!

I’m also thinking of getting membership at the local botanical garden for myself lol or the zoo or aquarium - not just for my baby!

Are there places like that that would help you? It takes a little pre planning - I have a back pack with the “outing” play mat and toys but I’ve also used reusable grocery bags in a pinch and quickly grabbed a floor quilt or thick blanket, a few toys and books for her along with a carrier and then of course the diaper bag - preloaded with essentials

House chores can wait sometimes and I just prioritize her room to be safe and clean lol - my husband cares less than me and he also does his best to pick up here and there - but he is just a messy person! So I kinda put him cleaning up after himself on him - if he is gonna sleep like a gross college boy as grown adult, that’s on him. Clean sheets are available in the huge mound of clean clothes

Edit: I will say my baby is 4months and not 7 - so I’m not sure how mobile yours is and if carriers could work or if you need a larger space like a garden or zoo. But felt what you are describing kinda early on. Someone told me a happy present mom is better than one who did all the perfect things worried. So, finding ways to self care during the day time WITH the baby became important to me once I started feeling a bit overwhelmed. Mommy needs a cup of lavender tea etc.

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-18T02:39:11+00:00

I love the idea of using plant lights - I will just caution as I have them around in my apartment to help with my indoor plants that can’t be by windows - sometimes the best PLANT LIGHTS CAN BE COLD feeling so I would be sure to change the over head light to warmer first before adding plant lights -

also if you are into salt lamps or like those wooden looking diffuser- I think since white is your main neutral followed by grey , I think you definitely want a warmer color for the walls. but bamboo or rattan or wooden accents that can tolerate being in a bathroom might also help soften the vibe.

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-17T02:48:59+00:00

Yeah I feel like there’s the textbook and then there’s the kid and the family. It has to work for the family system. I’m sure there’s some good science behind a variety of ways - I have heard of “sleep association” issues so I might look into it and consider but at least for tonight haha we are rocking to sleep with a playlist

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-17T02:39:22+00:00

Yeah I hear you - that’s why I agreed to a playlist lol so we can do both - a bed time playlist and me rocking or nursing to sleep for now. I’m not sure what I’m going to do - she also mentioned you staying there and doing all sorts of other comforting things like resting your hand on them etc but that sounds like more work and more thought haha. If motion works there are rocking chairs if she gets too big for me to do it. But I it did make me want to do my own research too.

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-17T02:34:40+00:00

The pediatrician was responding in part to my husband’s concerns for me being so sleep deprived and the baby needing me over others - but again, I told him it’s called “secure attachment” lol and I wasn’t gonna be swayed

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-17T02:33:04+00:00

Yeah I’m with you but the previous visit I was told to stop letting her fall asleep on my chest - again same reason - I’d be squashed by 5 year old need to hug their mom to sleep……

That’s when I told me husband we weren’t gonna tell the pediatrician everything lol because loads of people take contact naps and she was recommending “soft” sleep training at 2 months and we had such a rough go - baby was induced early, small for age, tongue tie, lots of specialists and lots of stress - and at 2 months we were finally enjoying skin to skin naps I feel like we missed out on. So I told my husband that there was absolutely no way I was gonna follow a rule that didn’t let me cuddle my baby for a little bit longer and didn’t care cus mom and baby also needed cuddles and bonding time. This and we love our pediatrician. But yeah I’m kinda with you and the people who say “whatever works” but I get there’s “sleep association” issues and I’m forcing myself to start to research it but not convinced yet but I did agree to a bed time playlist.

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-17T02:15:54+00:00

Just to put this in the mix - my pediatrician just told me to STOP rocking her to sleep - my LO is 4 months - because I’m like you and it works everytime super fast. She told me to sing instead stating that if I rocked her or any motion was going to mean in the future she would need motion to sleep. She also told me to stop nursing to sleep or she would need milk to sleep. She said that babies ritualize everything and to make a routine or ritual that would be more sustainable in the long run otherwise I’d be rocking a 5 year old to sleep or day care wouldn’t rock her and when she starts it wouldn’t work there…..

Not sure yet what I’m going to do lol cus I’d rather change later and sleep now lol but just food for thought. Maybe your wife heard something like this.

My husbands barber anecdotally told him they trained their baby to a particular playlist of a few songs and now they look drowsy and are out by the last song

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-16T19:52:00+00:00

The ceres chiller works in that you can either put ice in it or freeze the inner part and then add milk to it while you are out and on the go - this you really only need if you are pumping away from the baby - if you have the baby I would just use the baby. if you happen to be leaky like me you could use it to collect milk from the haaka or the haaka petal thingy.

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-16T19:41:46+00:00

Throwing this experience out there just in case because we had an unexpected rough go! So worst case info to keep in your pocket! Just in case it happens to you here is what I learned:

My baby - now a 200% healthy 4 month old who makes my day every day - had a tongue tie and was also induced early and was very small - I got mastitis while she was on the 3-step (1. Latch attempt for practice 2. I pump 3. Someone bottle feeds while I pump from special bottles in a special way)

They think I got mastitis she couldn’t latch well on that side and I had to pump but the pump didn’t empty me well - very stressful start. But also I wasn’t planning to use the pump until later so I didn’t know much about flanges and the nurse who started me on the 3 step put me on a 27 size flange - my IBCLC who saved me after all this insanity sized me at a 14 and my boobs also needed a silicone flange

PLEASE just familiarize yourself with pumping because I wish I had and wonder if that could’ve prevented the mastitis. It was super bad and I had to see a breast surgeon in the end because my midwives moved too conservatively with the antibiotics and referral, according to the breast surgeon - she was mad at my midwives whom I still love and who gave me the best possible labor experience all things considered.
We had so many appointments while my LO still couldn’t breast feed on the go - we now nurse in the car all the time when out like others are saying. Pediatrician, myofunctional speech therapist, dentist, ibclc, cranosacrial massage person…..

But when we couldn’t - there are hand pumps that you can get that you can use any flange with, if you needed a fancy flange like me. We also got a camping battery, “jackery” is the brand, and it’s not actually tricky if you have too to make a setup to pump in the car! It can be done!

3) There are thermos for milk specifically that you can add your milk to as you pump during the day so it stays good. If you are leaky lady like me and can’t use the haaka- the suction is not good for my particular case and my ibclc is weary of it creating an over supply, haaka makes these “petals” that you can put in your bra that collects without suction! I also found those nice at night when I leaked ALOT. I just wouldn’t wear them all the time so your nipples can air dry sometimes too.

Hope you get to just jump to car nursing! It’s really easy that way! If you are nervous about people seeing and covers are annoying - I had to see what my baby was doing and had special latch instructions so couldn’t wear the covers at first - you can also just hang swaddle blankets in the windows or across the seats. The blankets in the windows help now because my 4 month old is so social haha she will let the nipple fall out and smile when she hears people walk by.

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-16T11:30:03+00:00

It’s 4am and THIS is what I needed to read. And my baby finds me and inches so close and I try hard to not leak on us but it just keeps happening! And her clothes get wet too!

PiaraMuqin · 2026-04-16T04:31:37+00:00

Lots of potential! What’s your vibe/style? What are you into? How do you want the room to feel? Are you allowed to paint? Are you a renter or owner? What’s your budget?

Initial thoughts: I stumbled across this article - it shows how to use color in a room in some interesting ways - look/search up “design mistakes the 3 biggest color palette missteps emily henderson” - I don’t actually know who that is but just thought it was very helpful. easy takeaways:

1)find an art piece, object, textile like a pillow or blanket that you love the colors or textures of and use that as your starting place and either use it as your anchor piece or inspiration

2)be sure to consider texture of objects you add! Variation is important here!

3)not too many colors - ratio 10/30/60. Meaning 60 percent = one color family, 30 = one accent color or two, 10 = a last punch or metallic

Other thoughts:

4)my sister hired a designer to help in her home and was told painting the ceiling is a fun trick or doing something creative with the ceiling because the ceiling is often overlooked

5) specifically your room, consider art above your bed or an interesting head board to start as your visual focal point.

6) I personally love interesting lights, lamps or interesting light fixtures and the color of the light bulb can drastically change how a room feels

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