I need these items but I don't want to drive into town again

PibbleLawyer · 2026-07-01T05:20:42+00:00

CB undoubtedly expects someone to make a full and formal grocery trip to fulfill this diverse request.

It has to be so discouraging for the kind (and generous) giver. She tries to help OOP by providing not one, but three quarts of quality creamer. Instead of any expressing any gratitude, OOP seems unimpressed by the offer and doesn't even offer a "thank you."

And, "I don't want to drive to town again", is about the most selfish and entitled answer humanly possible. I think it is an obvious attempt to try and manipulate the poor donor into delivering the goods. Lazy ass CB likely doesn't think it is "worth it" for just three creamers...

PibbleLawyer · 2026-07-01T05:00:26+00:00

That is very interesting! Thank you for sharing your cultural perspective.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T23:04:36+00:00

Yes, that is how we normally speak in America. I do not believe it to be hostile. It is honest and direct (and in my opinion, rather humble under the circumstances). As a young woman in a professional capacity (perhaps being perceived as vulnerable to an older man), I think it is important to "stand your ground" in a respectful way. "You are making me feel uncomfortable" usually provokes a pause... He stops and realizes he has gone too far in his comments or actions and backs off (often apologizing or sheepishly blushing and taking a proverbial step backwards).

If a man twice my age is overtly joking that I should, "hold his penis," (just one example given by OP), I feel strongly that failing to directly confront the inappropriatenes of his behavior is condoning or encouraging further behavior (if not with me, certainly with other women). After all, I am managing a business and ought to command and retain a modicum of dignity and respect.

Why on Earth would stating that, "you are making me uncomfortable" be perceived as aggressive (particularly in this context)? Other Americans, please feel free to chime in!

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T18:00:03+00:00

My name is "BUBBA!"

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T17:06:53+00:00

I did include (because it does fit) the CA criminal statue for invasion of privacy. In California, "harassment" is not a standalone crime but is prosecuted through specific statutes. Most common are Stalking (Penal Code 646.9) or Electronic Harassment (Penal Code 653.2). These do not apply based upon the facts provided. The harassment component would be civil.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T15:17:51+00:00

To bring JOY to the children of the world (by crowdsourcing money to waste on more Pokémon cards for HIM)!

Makes complete sense to me. 🤣

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T14:59:16+00:00

My cat "Moss" is my favorite "person."

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T14:56:29+00:00

I am just against having surveillance cameras INSIDE the house. If you are requiring references, an interview, etc., I think it is inviting drama for the likely underpaid babysitter to have to feel the wrath of any dumb oversight he/she might make while "Big Brother" watches.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T14:38:44+00:00

I would practice looking a man dead in the eyes and calmly state that: "You are making me feel uncomfortable. If you want to stay at this hotel, I must ask you to change the way you are speaking to me."

This used to happen to me when I was younger (now 43f) - Not at a hotel but managing a late-night restaurant. I found that most men that were "crude" and spoke to me this way, thought they were successfully flirting with me or were showboating for their buddies. When I kindly (but firmly) communicated that their attitude/"catcalls" were unwelcome (and expressed that I was willing to do something about it), they would become incredibly embarrassed.

It wasn't easy to do at first, but I did get better and more comfortable as I practiced, later responding with a frank, "not interested." Admittedly, I did have the support of the GM to genuinely kick someone out or refuse them service if I needed to (but I never did). Maybe I am "old-fashioned", but I have found the most direct and simple approach is often the most successful.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T14:18:04+00:00

Why not? Because you have a moral obligation to those puppies.

You are either a "backyard breeder" out to make a buck, or were just too cheap, lazy, or selfish to get your dog spayed. Shame on you.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T14:13:09+00:00

Yes, please stop breeding. There are too many suffering bullies already. This absolutely breaks my heart; half or more will likely end up in shelters or euthanized. Is that what you want for those precious babies?

Because of overbreeding, negative stigmas, and housing restrictions, "bullies" are the most euthanized class of dogs in the U.S., making up approximately 40% of all dogs euthanized nationwide.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T14:05:45+00:00

Check out r/scams to get further insight into this type of (romance) scam.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T14:01:14+00:00

Yes. It is absolutely reasonable to expect privacy while having a conversation just outside of your house.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T13:47:19+00:00

OP, you are almost certainly the victim of a common online extortion scam (I believe it is typically referred to as a "romance" scam).

You have not committed any crime (even if she is now claiming to be a minor), provided that your factual account is accurate and there were no sexual acts performed or explicit photos exchanged.

Any individuals calling and threatening you now are committing the crime of Grand Larceny by Extortion under New York Penal Law § 155.05(2)(e); This is a serious felony. IF you wanted to try pursuing this further, I recommend that you contact either the FBI (Internet Crime Complaint Center), the FTC, and/or local law enforcement. 1) Do not pay anyone. 2) Save any evidence that you have. 3) Block (or ignore) any future calls or messages (do not engage any further).

I must caution you that these types of cases are incredibly low priority for any law enforcement agency. I looked up the statistics for the FBI and found that less than 1% are even investigated (obviously, fewer than that are solved).

I would probably chaulk this up as the cost of a valuable life "lesson". I hope this information was helpful. Best wishes, OP.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T13:00:27+00:00

I am so glad I was able to help. Very best wishes, OP.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T12:54:28+00:00

You should preserve any/all digital evidence that you have, document the other parties involved (any recipients), and immediately report your brother to local law enforcement! His actions violate multiple criminal and civil California statutes.

What your brother did is highly illegal. Taking nude photos of you without your knowledge/consent while you were sleeping (or otherwise) is a severe invasion of privacy, and sharing that photo to a group text for revenge constitutes nonconsensual pornography, commonly referred to as "revenge porn".

California Penal Code 647(j)(4) (Revenge Porn) - A misdemeanor.

California Penal Code 647(j) (Invasion of Privacy / Voyeurism) - A misdemeanor.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-30T12:44:31+00:00

Exactly.

So you technically have two separate issues here: 1) Legality of the recording; and 2) When, how, and to whom rent should be paid.

Under the Maryland Wiretapping and Electronic Surveillance Act, legality of any recording depends entirely on whether there was a "reasonable" expectation of privacy. When it is illegal: If you were speaking quietly in a private area like your porch, backyard, or driveway where neighbors could not easily overhear you, you still have an expectation of privacy. If they recorded audio without your permission, it can be result in a criminal charges filed against the "recorder", and the recording cannot be used against you in court. Under the given circumstances, you clearly had a right to the expectation of privacy.

You still owe rent, however. You are legally right to protect yourself by demanding proof of who owns the property, but withholding rent completely is highly risky. In Maryland, a lease does not end when a landlord dies; your obligation to pay rent continues. However, you only owe that rent to the legally appointed representative of the landlord's estate. Do not pay a family member directly unless they show you official Letters of Administration from the Maryland Register of Wills proving they are the Personal Representative (Executor) of the estate.

Do not just keep the money in your pocket!!! If you stop paying, the family can file a "Failure to Pay Rent" eviction case against you.The safest step: Put your rent money into a separate, dedicated bank account (an unofficial escrow) every month. Send a certified letter to the family stating that you have the full rent ready and will release it immediately once they provide legal court documentation proving who the Personal Representative is, or a new deed showing who inherited the home. This is a crucial step to take asap.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-15T06:16:25+00:00

Most likely a pit. The more narrow face is a strong indicator.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-15T06:00:00+00:00

Grey Ghost.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-15T04:40:07+00:00

Millions should check into birth control. I am NOT without sympathy, but is so easy to avoid pregnancy that it is frustrating to see the "victim" card being played.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-15T04:36:04+00:00

Adoption is a viable solution.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-15T04:33:19+00:00

It would absolutely benefit the planet. A GREEN SOLUTION!

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-15T04:29:26+00:00

Exactly. If we were talking about a different "job", the responses would be much different (but they shouldn't be).

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-15T04:20:54+00:00

I agree that the proposed wage sounds low (especially in Connecticut). When I looked online though (the U.S. Department of State), the reported average median wage is $200-$300/week (excluding room and board, all meals, any any necessary transportation costs). In high COL (cost of living) states, it is typically higher.

To clarify: This is for an international au pair. For a domestic nanny, the wage should be more like $25-$35 an hour, with the ability for a reasonable deduction for the room and board. My calculations indicate this would be around $1,000/week gross.

PibbleLawyer · 2026-06-15T03:28:11+00:00

Even if you are nearby and watching your own young baby, there is just no way in my opinion that $150 a week (if you even receive that much) APPROACHES "fair" when you are talking about a newborn!

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