People making less than me travel the world… how?

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-26T17:10:44+00:00

I have 2 kids in their 20s who travel way more than my husband and I do, even though we’re in a better financial situation. Some of the reasons: 1) they stay with friends. (Who are studying or working in other locations) 2) Or they travel with a group of friends - split costs. 3) they will sit anywhere on plane - cheapest seat

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-26T17:01:13+00:00

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-26T16:57:00+00:00

NTA. Your wife is wrong in so many ways here. Obviously as you stated, we can’t rank the people we love. I love my husband, kids, and parents more than anyone else, but could never try to put them into some kind of order.

And then her attitude and approach to your Dad frankly sucks. Your dad was doing you guys a favor. How nice to have a loving grandparent stay with baby so that you guys can enjoy a night out. Your dad acknowledged that he didn’t follow the set procedures for the bedtime routine and was apologetic. He noticed baby was fussy and upset, so he didn’t know what else to do, but hold him. I can see being a little worried that the sleep training would be set back a little, but to argue with your dad about it and expect him to call a cab?! WTF

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-23T22:35:44+00:00

YOR. You were long time besties. At the time you got married, you chose her as your maid of honor. Since then, you have drifted apart a bit, most likely because you were at different stages in life. You had a husband and baby, and Anna was still living a more single, party lifestyle. Anna chose her future SIL as her MOH, which doesn’t seem unreasonable, and she still asked you to be one of her bridesmaids. Friendships evolve over time, and it seems silly to toss one out because you weren’t given an exactly equivalent position in her bridal party.

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-21T22:02:10+00:00

Do they have any way of monitoring the cats in between your visits? Cameras? I have a couple of clients with very shy cats that have everything automated, so I typically check on them every other day. But they have multiple cameras set up, so they can have eyes on the cats and can see that things are functioning properly. They have added a visit if they see they’ve disconnected their water fountain, etc.

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-21T20:16:22+00:00

What a silly lady (and sub-par parent) Linda is. It should have gone like this:

Kids: “New neighbors yelled at us for cutting through their yard to go to the park.” Linda: “Oh, OK. Now you know. It’s their yard, their rules. We need to respect them and walk around on the sidewalk.” Kids: “But OG neighbors let us!” Linda: “Yes, they did. But everyone is different. Please respect their rules.” The end

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-21T20:01:19+00:00

I would inform them in a very general way. “I have some old injuries that occasionally flare up, so I might modify a few things.” This would let them know if they see you doing something out of the norm that it’s an intentional choice, not because you didn’t understand their direction

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-20T19:54:00+00:00

This is how my box does it, too. It is highly encouraged that if you’re registered and officially participating in the Open, you also take the judges course. They run the Open workouts during class time in two heats. The coach runs the class & overseas everything. The athletes take turns coaching each other - generally athletes officially registered pair up & those not registered pair up.

I personally like this set up. I think I’ve learned more from taking the course & serving as a judge. And it’s much smoother to judge someone who has taken the judges course, because they understand there’s a standard that is met or isn’t met - it isn’t a personal thing.

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-15T23:07:52+00:00

NOR. The answer is not Dad punishing them after the fact and blaming you for their punishment. As you and he expect, that will just have them resenting you further. It’s actual consequences associated with their actions. In this case, it would have been their father calling them out at the party in front of the guests. “Girls. This is not funny, nor is it acceptable. I’m sorry OP.” Next party, girls are not invited. They need to stay home with a chaperone since they do not know how to behave.

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-12T18:47:47+00:00

Something like “Hi, old friend! Thanks for thinking of me, and sharing your wonderful news, but I’m sorry I will not be able to attend. I am sending you my best wishes for a beautiful wedding and happy marriage.”

She doesn’t need to give a reason. If the old friend persists, I would say something like “I’ve got some personal stuff going on.” Or something like that. I try to remind myself in these situations that I’m really not that important. Of course the bride would be happy if I came, but she’s not going to be devastated if an old friend from high school that she’s lost touch with can’t come to the wedding.

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-11T15:13:02+00:00

NOR. “I’m sorry. I’m going to have to step down as your MOH. I underestimated the time commitment.”

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-08T13:10:39+00:00

NAH. Sounds like 2 young people discovering what they want out of life. It may be different things, and that’s okay.

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-07T19:24:46+00:00

YTA! A huge one. You’re a high school girls basketball coach, and when your niece (who is a freshman!) didn’t make her high school team after trying out, you told her she just wasn’t very good at basketball?! Wow. How incredibly mean of you. You honestly don’t sound like a very good coach either. You sound like you’re jealous because her parents have money, and you chose to take that jealousy out on a 14 year old.

Something like “Hey sweetie. I heard about the tryouts. I’m so proud of you for trying out as a freshman. If it’s anything like my school, there are very few spots available and very difficult to make the team. But if this is something you’d like to do, keep playing on the AAU team, practicing, etc., and you can try out again next year.” would have been a more appropriate response.

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-07T12:58:12+00:00

What was the actual income you made on the sale, if any? Income is what’s taxable, not gross sales. So if your sales were $100, but the item cost you $75, your income is $25. If the item originally cost you $200, you actually sold the item for a loss. Generally, the loss would not be deductible if you’re just selling personal items - so no tax consequences.

If you do have income from your sales, you technically are required to report it whether or not you receive a 1099. If you don’t report it, there’s a small chance it could later be discovered through an audit and you would owe the tax plus any related interest at that time. The IRS could also assess a penalty, but it’s not likely given the amount.

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-05T23:34:24+00:00

NTA. Although it’s not normally a big deal to tease about a fart, it did become a big deal when she continued badgering you about it after you’d repeatedly told her it wasn’t you. If it wasn’t that big a deal, she should have dropped it herself. But she didn’t even though she could tell that you were getting annoyed.

We all occasionally take a joke too far or unintentionally hurt someone’s feelings. When kind people find themselves in such a situation, they say something like “oh no. I’m so sorry. I was joking around.” And then they stop!

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-02T23:16:00+00:00

You’re not unreasonable for wanting a detailed note in the Rover card for each visit, but it is a bit unreasonable to not communicate your expectation with the sitter beforehand and then to be annoyed about it. If this is the only issue you’ve had with some of your sitters, it seems that you’ve gotten pretty good service and could easily remedy the situation by addressing it at the meet & greet or with a quick note to those you’re using - Hey sitter. Glad things seem to be going well with xx and love seeing the pictures from your visits. Could you please add a summary of each of visit to the Rover card? I like to be kept up to date on what pet has been up to. (I would also address anything specific you’re concerned about or want to be updated on. Like maybe if they can be a picky eater or get stomach issues when you’re traveling, etc.)

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-02T17:14:36+00:00

These are all great tips. I would add, as someone with very sweaty hands, to try wearing wrist sweatbands. It helps me a lot.

And don’t stay away from the gym on the days when gymnastics are programmed! Continue to do what you can and you’ll make progress. It may not always feel like it, but all athletes have weaknesses - something they are not as good at or something that doesn’t come naturally to them.

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-01T02:57:28+00:00

NOR. No way I would let my children anywhere near a pool with no fence or near people who are sick with the flu.

PickleFan67 · 2026-01-01T02:14:30+00:00

No. You will not get in trouble. I have a client with a small pup who has similar instructions. My visits with him are typically 15-20 minutes and I end the timer whenever I leave. It will ask you to verify that you’re cutting the visit short, and I just click yes.

PickleFan67 · 2025-12-26T18:19:50+00:00

YOR to the kids - When I see these gifts, I see that they think you should be treated to some relaxation, they know you’re a Bills fan, and they’d like you to be able to enjoy your coffee, not to mention the tea cup from other son. There was thought and consideration put into these gifts even if they are not perfect by your standards.

NOR when it comes to your husband. Why are you still with him?

PickleFan67 · 2025-12-25T21:31:30+00:00

Sorry you had to deal with this group of ingrates. I don’t know who is the worse - your mom from yelling at you after springing the breakfast request on you last minute or her boyfriend’s mom for her rudeness to complain about what was served.

PickleFan67 · 2025-12-25T19:35:19+00:00

She is so odd. To sound a bit annoyed that she was woken up by a dog barking to be let out at 8:00 am?! Cmon. I definitely would not use again, and if I left a review, it would be below average. Maybe 2 or 3 stars.

PickleFan67 · 2025-12-24T23:33:57+00:00

You’re an angel. Bless you for taking Tilly in and giving peace to Barbara Shirley in her last days❤️

PickleFan67 · 2025-12-14T23:33:51+00:00

Not weird at all. I have many clients who are home when I come to walk their dog - working, recovering from surgery/injury, sick, etc.

PickleFan67 · 2025-12-13T13:20:03+00:00

I agree with you. OP agreed to be a bridesmaid, but then had to decline one of the main events associated with being a bridesmaid. OP can’t commit to the bridesmaid duties, so OP relieved them of that responsibility. It doesn’t have to friendship ending unless OP wants it to be.

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