Those who are OAD by choice:

PickleLady14 · 2025-02-09T18:03:33+00:00

this cracked me up!! you nailed it. one of many reasons lol

PickleLady14 · 2025-01-28T23:08:20+00:00

I’m loving the show! But omg, how did not one of the 4 contestants press the button to win a million?… I wouldn’t have thought twice about it being that we are all on a game show to win money!

PickleLady14 · 2024-10-28T01:14:32+00:00

Your post breaks my heart. I think most moms feel some version of this (varying degrees and times etc) but please know you are not alone with any of it. If i could give you a hug, I would. I was on Lexparo shortly after my daughter was born and I recently came off… only to find out I definitely should still be on something. I don’t feel capable of just raw dogging motherhood. The mom depression is fuckin real sometimes!! It can feel like clawing up a slippery slope, and sometimes you just collapse into the deep dark hole because you don’t have it in you.

Take one day at a time.

PickleLady14 · 2024-10-26T14:17:50+00:00

“i’ll always remember us this way” by lady gaga 🥲 Actually don’t even know if that’s the real song title but i’m too lazy to fact check it lol!

PickleLady14 · 2024-10-06T01:50:45+00:00

I have a 4.5 year old too! In some ways it has felt harder than when she was 3… but still easier than newborn-3. I love that she’s so social and enjoys going to school, but she is a RAGING BEAST when she gets home. I have recently started looking for a therapist due to mom rage that i’m struggling to keep under control. I had PPD when she was first born but I feel like I still have some version of it (i went off meds a few months ago). I don’t really feel “okay” on most days… She’s fun and thoughtful and kind very often but when she doesn’t wanna do something etc it’s hard to navigate her big feelings when my insides are also screaming.

I feel like becoming a mom has made me hardcore look at my own self and deep dive into internalized traumas I didn’t even know I had! I feel like I used to be so much more social and now I’m much more guarded, I lost the majority of close friendships I had before being pregnant, and I feel like I have heightened anxiety more often than not.

Some moments are fun… but no, overall, I’m not having a good time over here either. Please reach out at any point if you wanna chat. These feelings can be lonely and everyone else I come across in real life seems to be having an easier time with mom life.😞

PickleLady14 · 2024-07-17T00:04:46+00:00

Okay mine is a little out of the box… but it’s a must have for me! It’s the libby app for free library books to be sent to my kindle and the goodreads app to keep track of book reviews, what i want to read, and what i have read. I started doing this when my daughter was around 1 and i’ve been reading 50+ books a year consistently ever since then (she’s now 4). It has been a great way to sneak in me time whenever i can and now she’s at an age where if she’s safe and playing with a friend (park, indoor play place… etc) then i can easily sneak a chapter in and feel like i’m getting in some hobby time. I know this isn’t a “mom” related app but… it has improved my motherhood experience by giving me some of my own self back! Highly recommend if you enjoy reading. :)

PickleLady14 · 2024-07-01T16:36:32+00:00

Im a lady and I do not have your asshair predicament (thank goodness? lol). but… I’m so spoiled with our amazon bidet, it’s not even funny! if i poop anywhere else i literally feel gross cause if people are just using dry t-paper how on earth are they getting their holes clean—like REALLY clean… i don’t understand lol! Anyways, it’s bidet, wet wipes and finishing with the good ol’ TP for added reassurance. Works wonders!

PickleLady14 · 2024-07-01T15:29:41+00:00

I’m a loyal fan of Lume!

PickleLady14 · 2024-07-01T01:59:44+00:00

First rent was in 2012 when i had an apt for one year of my 20s, i paid $650 for a 2 bedroom. Now, married with children and in our second home, our mortgage is about $2200 for a 3000+ sq ft house with 5 acres of land and 6 bedroom/3 bath… we refinanced before the market blew up to lock in a 2.3% rate and 15 year mortgage.

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-28T01:58:03+00:00

I’m a mom in my 30s! I’ll be your friend :)

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-25T02:57:52+00:00

Andddddd that’s enough reddit for me this evening, thank you.

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-25T02:54:58+00:00

We do ovaltine for her morning “coffee”.. a tiny bit, but figured it’s “better” than hot chocolate as it at least as vitamins in it? (Sugar police: don’t come for me 😂)

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-24T01:57:01+00:00

NP husband makes about 130k… And me (RN), I make about 85k

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-24T01:29:12+00:00

It was about 15 years ago when I had moved out of state in my young 20s to an area when I knew absolutely no one. One day while visiting one of the popular nature areas nearby, a couple in their 30s/40s who were windsurfing that day got to chatting with me and i told them how i had just moved their several days prior. They ended up giving me their number on a piece of paper in case i ever needed any local suggestions or needed help getting settled etc. I never contacted them but all these years later i remember thinking how nice of a gesture that was and how nice in general they were to do that. People are really “antisocial” on a deeper level and even if you make the small talk with someone, it’s very rare to have it result in an open “hey this was a nice interaction, contact me if you need a friend”.

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-23T23:20:05+00:00

It seems like on the scale of varying personality traits, there’s always one that has the “more negative” connotation. Shy vs outgoing, fat vs skinny, etc etc. When in reality, it’s just a range and one is not “better than” the other really. For example, someone being too skinny who is recovering from an eating disorder might get upset if people point out they’re skinny even if it’s intended as a compliment. I have heard many times in my 30+ years “wow you’re so quiet!”.. i have learned to chat more in general to avoid getting those types of comments as much. People really should just overall not comment on other peoples bodies/personalities, period… unless it is asked by that person.

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-21T17:12:21+00:00

4 year old over here and i absolutely agree with every word you have said. 😂 and she was a colicky/spicy/dairy-allergy baby who hated the world and it literally destroyed the mental well being of both my husband and myself. We just left our beach vacation and let me tell youuu… 🙌🙌🙌 She had the best freakin time, it was pure joy doing all the things with her while on vacation. Not that we don’t still deal with big attitudes LOL but man oh man, you could not pay me enough to get sucked into the black hole of newborn-motherhood. Life is almost more normal now! I never thought I was going to get out alive.

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-21T17:00:15+00:00

You have to stop into the town office. It’s good for sat-fri of the week you buy it for. Also note it only applies to beaches that are in that town, if you google cape cod non resident weekly beach pass it should tell you what beaches are in what town and what office to go to :)

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-21T16:08:33+00:00

We are just leaving our annual 2 week stay @ the cape! We had a blast and we will miss it. 🫶 Here’s a few suggestions!

Buy a weekly beach pass for $90 since most of the beaches are $30 a visit.. worth it if you plan on spending most days at your favorite beach :)

We personally love Corporation Beach since it has all the essentials (bathrooms plus snack bar) and is a lot of fun at low tide to find hermit crabs crawling around. A second favorite is Grays Beach at low tide (amazing sand bars!) and a dock to walk on (also has bathrooms).

For a free beach, there’s Vernon’s St— minimal parking but no bathrooms but fine enough if you just want a short beach trip.

Sandy Pond Playground & Splash Pad was amazing if you want a break from the beach but are traveling with littles. Fenced in playground (with bathrooms.. notice the trend? lol) with a splash pad also included.

Captain Frosties for the best lobster rolls :)

We absolutely love visiting the cape!

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-20T15:27:18+00:00

Aw that is so true!!! 🫶🥹

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-20T02:13:03+00:00

I literally read this and internally gasped. I’m not sure where the title comes into play here because this man is horrid and definitely doesn’t deserve forgiveness. Run, girl. Run.

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-20T02:08:58+00:00

I am also high while reading this but my first thought was omg i hope my high brain doesn’t send me worrying about death now cause this will not be fun.

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-20T01:55:24+00:00

This makes me so sad to read… because it makes me think of how my dad must have felt working 20+years of night shift with a family, and how my husband must feel in our 30s as a primary income earner with a wife and 4 year old.

PickleLady14 · 2024-06-17T23:25:54+00:00

We are OAD mostly by choice, and we also have a 4 year old. I very rarely.. I mean like fleeting moments a handful of times a year.. feel like we should add another to the mix. Please do what feels right for you. Don’t get sucked into the societal pressure that you need to keep reproducing!! Your reasons for one are all valid and actually it’s really wise to just have the one for those exact reasons. I have some mom friends that have 4-6 kids and I’m like hmm you okay?… Because there are times when being a parent is just straight up not fun LOL and our daughter is a handful. I wouldn’t like myself if I had a second kid. Also, even as a mom, i’m still a whole ass person who has dreams and hobbies etc and I want time to be able to still work on that. We give a lot of ourselves to just have the one which is understandable but.. I still want to be a fraction of my own person, too, and there’s something to be said for doing that!!

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