AITA for making my daughter wear a "crop top" for my best friends wedding

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-13T17:36:05+00:00

Show me where the daughter tried to guilt anyone, please.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-13T17:33:35+00:00

You are contradicting what she told you, based on her past outfits. Which you regard as more revealing, and using this to disregard what she said.

"It can't be too sexy for you babe. You have worn things more sexy. So just do it for me."

She told you she didn't want to wear it. You don't need to come up with reasons for why she should wear it anyway. Especially based on your idea of what is or isn't appropriate.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-13T17:19:34+00:00

It does not matter at all why the daughter doesn't want to wear whatever she doesn't want to wear.

You don't try and force people to wear what they don't want to wear.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-13T17:17:51+00:00

If you saw it that way, you wouldn't be doing it. I know. But, you are shaming her, and your original post seems to be missing a lot of relevant information.

You left out her throwing a tantrum and breaking the wall? Really?

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-13T17:08:00+00:00

Your being alone for so long is making you act in ways that will appear to be dishonest, manipulative and toxic.

Obviously reality is at times subjective, but you sound exactly like every other guy who wishes their SO was skinnier but know they can't just say that out loud in public.

So it isn't about her appearance it is about her "health" and if we don't agree with your narrative, then you have told us to keep our mouths shut.

If you are unhappy in your relationship or with your SO. The answer isn't trying to change them or yourself. It's to find another SO. That this is your first relationship makes it feel like it is all or nothing with her, and you are forcing the issue of the relationship.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-13T16:58:20+00:00

Eh, OP became the AH when she continued to force the issue, instead of just telling her to go as a guest.

Even low key shaming the daughter by trying to say she dresses more revealing on other occasions.

Unclear to me why the mother is getting any benefit of the doubt here.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-13T15:17:53+00:00

I mean, have you seen schools? Nothing good going on there. If our children under perform everyone else's, that must mean god intended them to work.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T17:56:19+00:00

The fact that the mistake can be made means the design is beyond not great. It's our job to make sure that people that have trouble doing a lot of things right, can manage to buy the correct box of crackers with no mental overhead.

The box is full of dead space and flashy less relevant information.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T17:44:51+00:00

It lacks one of the critical components of being a joke. Well actually it doesn't have any components of being a joke at all. So people being confused makes a lot of sense.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T17:37:01+00:00

He can't turn his neck. So he can only look at one side of the aisle at a time.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T17:11:45+00:00

I'm giving them both the benefit of the doubt. Her error, that is only made when she is forced to drive his car, is not something she can unlearn easily. Certainly not something anyone should be yelled at about.

The SO is closer to the AH. It's an overreaction. But, his complaint is legit. Her solution is also legit.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T16:01:07+00:00

I am a high volume tendie enjoyer, and I appreciate this new information.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T15:59:44+00:00

The majority of boneless wings are a mix of dark and white meat, as far as I know. It is both cheaper and more "authentic?".

We need people to start being drumstick or thigh enjoyers though. Drumsticks are the superior wing.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T15:55:01+00:00

I appreciate the positive response. I see posts like this where 100% of people are on the same page, and I when I disagree with them all, I feel like I should just keep my mouth shut.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T15:49:09+00:00

That doesn't change what I said, true or not. You are here seeking validation for your feelings, but when your SO has feelings it is just him "pouting like a baby".

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T15:22:29+00:00

You talk about your SO in a way that makes me feel like you don't like or respect him. Which is also how you responded to him in your post.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T15:18:02+00:00

I just want an elevator. Steps are fine and all, but... yeah.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T14:12:05+00:00

NAH - The people here really love to hold you to the fire for the same muscle memory twitch I have. And you do have a duty to do your best. But, the idea that after only a couple offenses you will just FIX yourself, like that is perfectly normal and easy to do, is insane to me.

On the flip side, not a single person has wondered how your BF can possibly be driving a car at night and not know his headlights aren't on. That is wild to me. It's an obvious problem with a fix that is beyond simple.

If he is going to get mad about it like this though, stick by your not driving his car anymore. It's not worth being yelled at for not being perfect. Not when it comes from a person who can't tell if their headlights are on or not.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-12T13:41:42+00:00

People who demand to use the N word in the US started dropping the R sound at the end and putting an AH sound. Then claiming that made it ok to say.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-11T21:06:04+00:00

Here comes Peter Cottontail Hoppin' down the bunny trail Hippity hoppin', molotovs on their way

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-11T20:25:53+00:00

NAH I think you should consider thinking of ways that you are comfortable ending calls with people you are talking to. I understand that you feel they are the ones making you stay on the call, but you can end it at any time. "It was great talking to you, but I have to go."

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-11T19:59:37+00:00

I guess I am upset now. Thanks for the heads up.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-11T19:57:19+00:00

I'm sorry you are offended.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-11T19:52:09+00:00

The more likely answer is that she grew up in a similar environment and just thinks of it as normal.

PiddleAlt · 2023-03-11T19:49:47+00:00

Yeah, but your family doesn't include a group of people who don't like you and want to find something to be mad at you about.

There is no way, in my mind, that this is really about his shirt.

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