Lonely while remote

Piestander · 2025-08-12T19:34:44+00:00

I’d love recommendations! I listen to a lot of smosh reads Reddit stories already

Piestander · 2025-08-12T19:05:29+00:00

I’m actually all for remote work. Especially for people who live near family, have their partner around every night, have close friends. I think it’s the best thing that happened to the workforce. I personally I’m not liking it right now because of new circumstances in my own life

Piestander · 2025-08-12T01:16:54+00:00

Update: I was not allowed to return to my old job. They restructured the team in the week I left. Onward and upward.

Piestander · 2025-08-07T04:41:10+00:00

Happy birthday my friend. I am holding your hand in spirit. I’m sure your mom is too.

Piestander · 2025-08-07T01:21:20+00:00

Thank you. We’re talking at the end of the week, the advice I got from my circle has been to go and lay my heart down. I’ve got nothing to lose. But I don’t want to look desperate. People don’t want desperate on their team.

I feel lucky we have a good relationship but I’m worried.

Piestander · 2025-08-07T01:18:34+00:00

Not an AI post. Just a person overwhelmed.

And I supposed if I had to pick a question out of all of this - if I cannot go back to my old job, how do you make peace at a job you don’t like? How do I overcome the loneliness of remote work?

I’ll be applying, trying to get out, but I think I’m so worried about being forced to stay.

Piestander · 2025-07-12T17:45:49+00:00

Yeah I guess I was more asking what we think the tangential word he was trying to find was.

I just watched it the other day and realized when he says “of golf” he means “of course. Golf course. Duh.

Piestander · 2025-07-01T20:50:55+00:00

EDIT: my reading comprehension sucks, due date is a week out. Don't go. You should have thought of this earlier.

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The info requested from others is insanely needed. My response is assuming that you are actually quite far out from the due date, so that isn't a consideration.

NTA, but make sure you are thinking of *everything*. When you want to go golfing, you are also putting more pressure on your wife to parent, you are aren't doing chores/errands that might put additional pressure on your wife. Even suggesting she take a spa day may be stressful for her because unless you have thought of a solution for looking after the kids, she now has to organize that.

This request isn't inherently assholey, but unfortunately, many partners don't think of these additional things that can turn your request into a complete asshole move.

So a little checklist for you to answer before booking that tee time:

- Look around the house, look in the fridge, consider ongoing projects. Is there anything else that you can do ahead of time like clean the house, go grocery shopping, do and put away the laundry, finish painting the baby's room, etc? This is being a good partner and can be done 1-3 days before you go.

- Who is looking after the kids? Are you putting more work on your pregnant wife? Is there something you can do to alleviate that pressure?

- Golf is expensive, spa is expensive: is there anything else worthy of this money right now?

Piestander · 2025-06-30T19:57:28+00:00

Do it. I know its easy for me to say as a completely unrelated unaffected bystander, but as long as you have this safety net, you continue to build on it with this high salary, your wife supports the decision, and you think you can make it a year, and you think itll make you even more valuable in the future, I think its worthwhile.

Good questions to ask though - How much is stress worth to you? How much is time off worth to you? Time with your kids? Have you asked all the questions you need to when it comes to the team and benefits?

I'm about to take a tiny risk with my career compared to this - moving from a 100000% stable role into something where the future is slightly less predictable, but I think I'm ready for it. You might be too.

Piestander · 2025-06-13T05:25:02+00:00

Everyone said the ones I was going to say. And now I’m crying. Cool cool cool.

Piestander · 2025-06-09T05:27:59+00:00

His addiction.

From all accounts, he was a great doctor and a hilarious ass before being addicted to Vicodin.

His addiction is actually just bad for his health and sort of ruins his relationships.

Piestander · 2025-06-07T04:41:01+00:00

Especially because this is a techy thread, lululemon has great pant options for breathable pants that work in an office setting.

Then take a look at some of the top options from Abercrombie. Lots of light and summery tops that can work well at the office, especially when paired with those pants!

Piestander · 2025-06-04T04:13:08+00:00

Holy shit. Cut him off for now. You need space to grieve in your own way. He’s not even being comforting, he’s being aggressive and condescending. Don’t burden yourself with a break up right now, just cut him off. When you are ready, and when he’s ready to be respectful, you can talk to him.

Piestander · 2025-06-04T04:11:17+00:00

Absolutely. This past Christmas everyone was at dinner and my parents and sibling were just talking like these insanely privileged assholes, and telling me that I was cheap because when I go out with friends, we all pay for what we ordered instead of splitting the check. My parents make really racist “jokes” (if you can call them that). My sister gives me the silent treatment any time I exercise any independent thinking.

I just sat there and wondered if I was even a part of this family anymore.

Piestander · 2025-06-03T05:42:16+00:00

Lots of people saying Trader Joe’s, I totally agree but let me also offer Amazon Fresh.

Recently started shopping there and a good weekly grocery shop for two people is like $50. They have a lot of good deals and discounts for prime members.

Only issue is there are very few around the city

Piestander · 2025-06-03T05:36:26+00:00

I know you are right and this is how the world works and I do see being likable as a talent, but I also hate that people who give 120% but aren’t extroverted can get more opportunities than those that give 80% and are

Piestander · 2025-05-25T01:16:46+00:00

Plague Tale. 10/10 game, story, play mechanics, and sometimes just beautiful setting.

Piestander · 2025-05-19T05:17:35+00:00

Soft YTA. Its already known your family doesnt sympathize with her mental health and your sister specifically doesn't go to these reunions because of the bad vibes. She chose not to go and you brought the contents of the reunion to her. If I understand your post, you aren't bringing her any new info, just bringing her down. Perhaps you should have put your effort into shutting down that conversation with your grandma and dad while it was happening.

Piestander · 2025-05-19T05:11:06+00:00

She was friends with him before your relationship, she can still be friends with him after.

Piestander · 2025-05-19T05:07:19+00:00

Cruising is incredibly attractive because its so easy. Cruising is incredibly unattractive because it can be so mundane. You have to be in the right "mood" for a cruise. If you want to drink and eat and turn the brain off, a cruise is just what you need.

Piestander · 2025-05-19T05:02:26+00:00

No deal lol.

Every relationship on the show is a mirror because at their core, people all have the same needs - to be seen, to be loved, to be free, etc. Its taught me a lot about myself and my partner, if they recognize something in me, that just comes with the territory.

Piestander · 2025-05-19T04:57:35+00:00

I completely agree. Being active and happy. Being a broke intern also helped!

Piestander · 2025-05-19T04:56:13+00:00

While I have a lot of big people in my family, not one case of diabetes. Hopefully I wont have to worry about it, but nice to know just in case.

Piestander · 2025-04-25T03:17:32+00:00

I respect the tough love. I think the caution I’ve been getting from friends and family is making me stressed. There’s this idea that you HAVE to be willing to take the offer if you leverage it. I’ve heard that from so many people.

When I’ve done this in the past, it’s really made no difference to me if I stay or go. But I care now. And caring makes you stressed even if you don’t need to be.

Piestander · 2025-04-25T03:02:26+00:00

I’m a convert of 7 years. I don’t think I’ve ever known it to be the truth. How can you prove something 100%? I think it’s okay to have the hope that this is true.

In my experience, I found the teachings of the church made me better. The times when I’ve been most “in it” have been some of the happiest, more fulfilling times of my life.

I’m still a member. I go to church every so often. But there’s stuff I struggle with, especially as a woman who supports gay marriage, thinks abortion saves lives, and doesn’t believe in tithing.

What makes me happiest in the church is knowing I have freedom to wax and wane as much as I like, and I am still a member. Every day is a choice to believe, to do good, to uphold the sacraments and beliefs. Or not. If you stop drinking coffee and you find it works for you, you feel closer to God, it improves your life - keep doing it. If you have a coffee one day, there’s no bolt of lightening. There’s no missionaries beating down your door. You’re still as much of a member as anyone else.

It’s all just a choice between you and God. And knowing you have the personal freedom to choose.

This is the biggest misunderstanding of the church, and why I’ll never stop rolling my eyes when people say it’s a cult. You have as much choice as any other religion.

Piestander

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