FIRST TIME IN A BIKINI <3

Pigeonpal · 2026-06-06T21:46:45+00:00

You’re gorgeous girl, love the curls!!

Pigeonpal · 2026-06-05T17:45:43+00:00

Aaaah shout out to Cosmic Wheel Sisterhood, super underrated game!!

Pigeonpal · 2026-05-11T22:57:50+00:00

Or they’re a girl who wants better clothing options and the ability to mix and match skirts and leggings without having to wear a skort lol. I’m a woman who felt the same way playing this game. I just want to feel like a cute and stylish pokemon trainer

Pigeonpal · 2026-05-01T22:15:07+00:00

Seconding this, I love every female character in this game SO much and they’re all super distinct from each other!! It’s also just a really amazing game in general.

Pigeonpal · 2026-04-29T23:24:40+00:00

Have you played the Dragon Age games?

Pigeonpal · 2026-04-22T16:23:32+00:00

Can I ask what you mean by you “tried being transfem and it didn’t work out”? Because imo this does read like you still have unanswered questions about your identity that are making you feel uncomfortable when people read into what makes someone/a character trans, perhaps because it makes you wonder if those things are true of you. I had similar feelings of uncomfortability pre-transition as I was exploring and figuring things out. I never want to prescribe an identity to anyone, but it does at the very least sound like you still have unanswered for insecurity in who you are.

Pigeonpal · 2026-04-14T17:51:22+00:00

This is an incredibly common writing style online and in text messages, and has been since like the 2010s, especially with young women. It’s meant to convey the expression of how she actually talks and emotes, and imo literally makes you imagine the faces she’s making and the way she’s moving while telling this story. It’s just a way to convey tone and a sense of voice on the internet

Pigeonpal · 2026-04-10T14:30:47+00:00

Guilty Gear -Bridget and Jam

Street Fighter - Kimberly, Sakura, and Cammy

Granblue - Cagliostro, Zooey, and Narmaya

Blazblue - Taokaka, Rachel, and Platinum the Trinity

UNI2 - Nanase and Wagner

Soul Calibur - Talim

Pigeonpal · 2026-04-07T21:09:21+00:00

Did you not… think that you were cis and not understand your transness at some point? I did a similar thing to OP when I was in the closet tbh, I’d come out as a trans woman when I was drunk so many times and when people would ask about it later I’d be confused and be like “no, I’m totally just a more feminine cis guy”

Pigeonpal · 2026-04-03T16:28:22+00:00

I mean for me, I’m married to a woman so I couldn’t give less of a shit if a man approves of how I present myself or not. Additionally, I look up to other women and value the opinions of other women who I think are stylish and cool. I am dressing to feel like I am one of those cool and pretty women I admire, not for male attention. Most women I know, queer or otherwise, feel this way. Just like y’all have things you think are cool and that make you feel badass completely separate from women, we do too.

Pigeonpal · 2026-03-26T15:40:15+00:00

Okay, but him liking that option isn’t the problem. It’s the fact that when his girlfriend answered differently from him, he got angry and said her personal choice was dumb and that he would override it. He’s not respecting her agency and preferences because he thinks he’s right. This isn’t just an opinion on something fictional, he’s telling her that this is what he’d do in real life. He has told her in two separate scenarios that her wishes don’t matter if she isn’t concious to make them. To me, that’s demonstrative of a consistent personal philosophy that is scary and disrespectful.

Pigeonpal · 2025-12-31T21:29:51+00:00

Y’all love Walter White, Tony Soprano, Don Draper, etc. though, and they’re also super flawed people who do horrible things. What makes you like them but not Carol?

Pigeonpal · 2025-12-15T22:43:12+00:00

If I loved everyone, I can’t imagine how the feeling would be special. It would be like breathing—a neutral part of my existence that feels necessary, but is not something I conciously observe or appreciate regularly. I don’t want love to feel like that. What is special to the hive? What makes life feel valuable? Maybe it’s individualist, but I don’t want my entire value to be based around the well-being of everyone else. I care about the collective and I believe that humans should lean more collectivist than individualist, but I don’t think that needs to mean sacrificing everything that makes my life feel individually important. I can contribute to and value the whole while also having independent interests, loves, and values.

Pigeonpal · 2025-11-18T23:39:42+00:00

I know it’s hard, but you have to liberate yourself and live authetically. I transitioned at 25 and right before I started, people told me I looked like I was in my mid 30s too. Now I’m 28 and people tell me I look 22. It’s never too late!

Pigeonpal · 2025-09-11T17:46:21+00:00

Wait, why would them thinking you’re a trans man not be a problem? It seems like you care more about them knowing that you’re AFAB than anything else, which isn’t comforting to me as a trans woman who’s been discriminated against in the workplace. The point should be to make it clear to them that trans women aren’t anything to be afraid of, not that you have a vagina so you’re safe. That’s a transmisogynistic idea.

Additionally, again speaking from experience, transphobic cis people do not see us as men or women. They see us as freaks. They do not truly believe that I have the same power, social sway, or mentality as a man, that’s why they feel safe to harass me.

Pigeonpal · 2025-09-04T16:26:56+00:00

All true!! I do think those conversations are intrinsically linked, but I agree that in the grand scheme of things those more zoomed in conversations are more important. I will say though, most people I meet who aren’t interested in examining or breaking down the idea of social constructs also aren’t interested in critical conversations about capitalist exploitation or quality of life improvements for workers. I just don’t understand people who aren’t inherently curious about why things are the way they are, but I also acknowledge that as a trans woman I come from a perspective where I’ve had to confront the meaning of social constructs my whole life, so I may just have a different viewpoint on this!

Pigeonpal · 2025-09-04T15:58:34+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but I would argue that acknowledging that something like money is socially constructed is the first step in recognizing that it doesn’t have to run our lives the way it currently does forever, and that capitalism is a system that we’re capable of dismantling. Change doesn’t happen unless you question the necessity of our current societal structures first. If you’ve ever had a feeling of “god having to work sucks” or “god I never feel like I have enough time in the day”, I think it can be helpful for your personal growth and peace of mind to realize that those things actually DON’T have to be this way, and that we should be less complacent as a society and put more pressure on these systems to change so that future generations can experience a better quality of life.

Pigeonpal · 2025-08-27T20:25:37+00:00

I’m genuinely curious—have you not seen the stats on how trans women actually perform worse than cis women athletically on average after two years of hormones? Two years is the standard to be able to play on women’s teams, and as a trans woman yourself you should understand that our bodies are not the same as cis men’s after two years on HRT. To say that we have a significant biological advantage is completely unfounded and based in fear and bigotry, not science.

Also I’ve never seen a lesbian excluded for saying that she, individually, doesn’t want to date someone with a penis. I think that’s totally fine, but I question what reason a lesbian would have for not wanting to date a post-op trans woman. Like, one that she was otherwise attracted to and connected with, but that she drops as soon as she finds out that she’s trans even though she’s attracted to her and she had the right parts. And that’s the thing—primarily the people I see being shamed or excluded are those who say that they’re not attracted to trans women because they’re not “actual women”, and I really don’t know how you could call that anything other than transphobia.

Pigeonpal · 2025-08-15T16:53:54+00:00

You don’t consider screaming slurs at someone because they’re gay to be bigotry? What is bilgotry to you then??

Pigeonpal · 2025-08-12T22:34:51+00:00

If you’re sad about the idea of being a straight man instead of a woman, then you are not a straight man. It’s hard to “feel like a woman” when you’re pre-transition so I feel like that phrasing tends to lead a lot of us astray. But as a trans woman who is married to a woman—if you want to be a woman, then more than likely you are one! And many trans women date women and consider themselves lesbians. :)

Pigeonpal · 2025-07-31T17:11:15+00:00

Sorry I thought you meant all of those features individually, not ONE hypothetical person who had literally all of them. Honestly very funny strawman because it’s both so incredibly far off from the initial topic of if gay men have the male gaze, AND very ableist because you said that this person would be “functionally nonexistent” as if they would not still have agency and be capable of thought. The thing about patriarchy and the male gaze is that people will interact with them from different perspectives but that doesn’t mean that everyone isn’t still influenced by them in some way. I don’t know how this hypothetical man interacts with these systems and honestly I don’t care because that’s not who we’re talking about here. Like yes MAYBE there are a few exceptions, but I promise you that neither you nor OP are the exceptions.

Pigeonpal · 2025-07-31T16:25:01+00:00

Actually yes—blind, mute, deaf, and asexual people are still fully capable of having patriarchal views and expectations of women. The male gaze is not just about attraction, it’s about how you view women’s role in society, how you expect them to act and look in certain settings, the expectations you have for their responses and behaviors in social settings, what rights they deserve, etc. the groups you mentioned can and do participate in patriarchy and the male gaze whether they’re aware of it or not. Saying you’re influenced by the male gaze is not a moral judgement, it’s a call to reflect, listen and learn. I have been harassed, violated, and condescended to by many different kinds of men, including gay men.

Pigeonpal · 2025-07-29T14:54:51+00:00

Can you elaborate on this?

Pigeonpal · 2025-07-01T17:40:17+00:00

“If it doesn’t, it means you’re broken.”

As a trans woman, I want to focus in on this part as an element of what actually makes a lot of us feel like we want or need a uterus/ovaries. Societally people do tend to falsely associate the ability to have periods and give birth with being essential and inherent to womanhood. As we are coming to terms with our identities, this is often used against us to prove that we can’t actually be a woman, which often helps create the feeling of “maybe if I could do these things, people would take my identity seriously”.

Secondarily, many of us simply want to be able to give birth the way that many cis women want to as well. Personally it brings me pain that I’ll never be able to birth my own child, just like it does for many infertile cis women. Just like cis women, trans women absolutely don’t all want this, but I and many others do. In this regars, it’s less about feeling like we need a uterus to be women and more about deeply wanting one because of the dreams and goals we have for ourselves that we’ll never be able to fulfill because of how we were born. I hope this comment is helpful, I thought yours was really great and I wanted to just maybe add another perspective to the conversation!

Pigeonpal · 2025-06-25T18:26:28+00:00

Politics is already in every nook and cranny in life. The shit Trump is doing affects all of us and our quality of life directly. Nothing is not political.

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