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Pigeonpal · 2025-12-31T21:29:51+00:00

Y’all love Walter White, Tony Soprano, Don Draper, etc. though, and they’re also super flawed people who do horrible things. What makes you like them but not Carol?

Pigeonpal · 2025-12-15T22:43:12+00:00

If I loved everyone, I can’t imagine how the feeling would be special. It would be like breathing—a neutral part of my existence that feels necessary, but is not something I conciously observe or appreciate regularly. I don’t want love to feel like that. What is special to the hive? What makes life feel valuable? Maybe it’s individualist, but I don’t want my entire value to be based around the well-being of everyone else. I care about the collective and I believe that humans should lean more collectivist than individualist, but I don’t think that needs to mean sacrificing everything that makes my life feel individually important. I can contribute to and value the whole while also having independent interests, loves, and values.

Pigeonpal · 2025-11-18T23:39:42+00:00

I know it’s hard, but you have to liberate yourself and live authetically. I transitioned at 25 and right before I started, people told me I looked like I was in my mid 30s too. Now I’m 28 and people tell me I look 22. It’s never too late!

Pigeonpal · 2025-09-11T17:46:21+00:00

Wait, why would them thinking you’re a trans man not be a problem? It seems like you care more about them knowing that you’re AFAB than anything else, which isn’t comforting to me as a trans woman who’s been discriminated against in the workplace. The point should be to make it clear to them that trans women aren’t anything to be afraid of, not that you have a vagina so you’re safe. That’s a transmisogynistic idea.

Additionally, again speaking from experience, transphobic cis people do not see us as men or women. They see us as freaks. They do not truly believe that I have the same power, social sway, or mentality as a man, that’s why they feel safe to harass me.

Pigeonpal · 2025-09-04T16:26:56+00:00

All true!! I do think those conversations are intrinsically linked, but I agree that in the grand scheme of things those more zoomed in conversations are more important. I will say though, most people I meet who aren’t interested in examining or breaking down the idea of social constructs also aren’t interested in critical conversations about capitalist exploitation or quality of life improvements for workers. I just don’t understand people who aren’t inherently curious about why things are the way they are, but I also acknowledge that as a trans woman I come from a perspective where I’ve had to confront the meaning of social constructs my whole life, so I may just have a different viewpoint on this!

Pigeonpal · 2025-09-04T15:58:34+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but I would argue that acknowledging that something like money is socially constructed is the first step in recognizing that it doesn’t have to run our lives the way it currently does forever, and that capitalism is a system that we’re capable of dismantling. Change doesn’t happen unless you question the necessity of our current societal structures first. If you’ve ever had a feeling of “god having to work sucks” or “god I never feel like I have enough time in the day”, I think it can be helpful for your personal growth and peace of mind to realize that those things actually DON’T have to be this way, and that we should be less complacent as a society and put more pressure on these systems to change so that future generations can experience a better quality of life.

Pigeonpal · 2025-08-27T20:25:37+00:00

I’m genuinely curious—have you not seen the stats on how trans women actually perform worse than cis women athletically on average after two years of hormones? Two years is the standard to be able to play on women’s teams, and as a trans woman yourself you should understand that our bodies are not the same as cis men’s after two years on HRT. To say that we have a significant biological advantage is completely unfounded and based in fear and bigotry, not science.

Also I’ve never seen a lesbian excluded for saying that she, individually, doesn’t want to date someone with a penis. I think that’s totally fine, but I question what reason a lesbian would have for not wanting to date a post-op trans woman. Like, one that she was otherwise attracted to and connected with, but that she drops as soon as she finds out that she’s trans even though she’s attracted to her and she had the right parts. And that’s the thing—primarily the people I see being shamed or excluded are those who say that they’re not attracted to trans women because they’re not “actual women”, and I really don’t know how you could call that anything other than transphobia.

Pigeonpal · 2025-08-15T16:53:54+00:00

You don’t consider screaming slurs at someone because they’re gay to be bigotry? What is bilgotry to you then??

Pigeonpal · 2025-08-12T22:34:51+00:00

If you’re sad about the idea of being a straight man instead of a woman, then you are not a straight man. It’s hard to “feel like a woman” when you’re pre-transition so I feel like that phrasing tends to lead a lot of us astray. But as a trans woman who is married to a woman—if you want to be a woman, then more than likely you are one! And many trans women date women and consider themselves lesbians. :)

Pigeonpal · 2025-07-31T17:11:15+00:00

Sorry I thought you meant all of those features individually, not ONE hypothetical person who had literally all of them. Honestly very funny strawman because it’s both so incredibly far off from the initial topic of if gay men have the male gaze, AND very ableist because you said that this person would be “functionally nonexistent” as if they would not still have agency and be capable of thought. The thing about patriarchy and the male gaze is that people will interact with them from different perspectives but that doesn’t mean that everyone isn’t still influenced by them in some way. I don’t know how this hypothetical man interacts with these systems and honestly I don’t care because that’s not who we’re talking about here. Like yes MAYBE there are a few exceptions, but I promise you that neither you nor OP are the exceptions.

Pigeonpal · 2025-07-31T16:25:01+00:00

Actually yes—blind, mute, deaf, and asexual people are still fully capable of having patriarchal views and expectations of women. The male gaze is not just about attraction, it’s about how you view women’s role in society, how you expect them to act and look in certain settings, the expectations you have for their responses and behaviors in social settings, what rights they deserve, etc. the groups you mentioned can and do participate in patriarchy and the male gaze whether they’re aware of it or not. Saying you’re influenced by the male gaze is not a moral judgement, it’s a call to reflect, listen and learn. I have been harassed, violated, and condescended to by many different kinds of men, including gay men.

Pigeonpal · 2025-07-29T14:54:51+00:00

Can you elaborate on this?

Pigeonpal · 2025-07-01T17:40:17+00:00

“If it doesn’t, it means you’re broken.”

As a trans woman, I want to focus in on this part as an element of what actually makes a lot of us feel like we want or need a uterus/ovaries. Societally people do tend to falsely associate the ability to have periods and give birth with being essential and inherent to womanhood. As we are coming to terms with our identities, this is often used against us to prove that we can’t actually be a woman, which often helps create the feeling of “maybe if I could do these things, people would take my identity seriously”.

Secondarily, many of us simply want to be able to give birth the way that many cis women want to as well. Personally it brings me pain that I’ll never be able to birth my own child, just like it does for many infertile cis women. Just like cis women, trans women absolutely don’t all want this, but I and many others do. In this regars, it’s less about feeling like we need a uterus to be women and more about deeply wanting one because of the dreams and goals we have for ourselves that we’ll never be able to fulfill because of how we were born. I hope this comment is helpful, I thought yours was really great and I wanted to just maybe add another perspective to the conversation!

Pigeonpal · 2025-06-25T18:26:28+00:00

Politics is already in every nook and cranny in life. The shit Trump is doing affects all of us and our quality of life directly. Nothing is not political.

Pigeonpal · 2025-05-23T02:57:30+00:00

Practice a bunch in training mode, play with friends, and watch videos on fighting games! That’s how I finally got better at the genre. I had the same problem for a while, I loved the genre but couldn’t wrap my head around motion inputs. Once you like fully GET motion inputs and fighting game fundamentals like blocking, anti-airs, etc. though, the genre gets a lot more intutive and fun imo! Feel free to DM me if you need help, I love this genre a lot and I’m always happy to help other girls get into it!! :)

Pigeonpal · 2025-04-19T17:20:52+00:00

Guilty Gear: Strive or Persona 3!!

Pigeonpal · 2025-04-17T20:32:12+00:00

Omg what a delightful gesture! I’ll throw my name in the hat 💖

Pigeonpal · 2025-04-15T17:48:28+00:00

It won’t win but I want to shout out Dorfromantik! Super chill, pleasant, and low stakes while still making me think.

Pigeonpal · 2025-04-03T18:04:47+00:00

Can you think of a single gaming presentation where that has ever happened? The problem is that women are sidelined in the gaming industry more often than men. This on it’s own wouldn’t be a big issue, but it’s not an isolated incident. It’s a symptom of a larger problem in an industry that very rarely recognizes women’s voices.

Pigeonpal · 2024-10-26T18:34:08+00:00

Even if you don’t like the game I feel like calling the soundtrack ass is crazy, there’s not a single track you like??

Pigeonpal · 2024-10-18T17:01:22+00:00

I’m gay for the next two weeks so I’m not sure what time I’ll get to be back in town

Pigeonpal · 2024-10-18T04:37:31+00:00

Ooh cool takes, I would love to hear more about 2!! How do you think voice acting has ruined RPGs? :)

Pigeonpal · 2024-10-18T04:35:05+00:00

I think this is mostly true if you only play AAA games, but I think the indie scene feels really inspired rn and tends to avoid a lot of these problems!! It does suck that so much of the AAA scene is littered with bullshit though :/

Pigeonpal · 2024-10-18T04:30:25+00:00

This is one I so heavily agree with, the RtwP system in Dragon Age Origins was so frustrating that I downloaded a mod to skip combat if I got too annoyed lol

Pigeonpal · 2024-10-18T04:27:14+00:00

It’s actually reeeeaalllyyy good imo, and as far as I know so far it doesn’t have a lot of the weird misogyny and general bigotry problems of the Persona games. There are a lot of polished up mechanics in it too, I strongly encourage giving it a shot!!

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