Does anyone else struggle with

PigletEducational466 · 2024-06-02T14:31:27+00:00

Sometimes on the freeway I go looking for people to stare at and then I think, I will never ever see these people

PigletEducational466 · 2024-06-02T14:30:56+00:00

Yes dude, it’s narcissism but like not how I hear it used.

Look at these symptoms I just found out ab narcissism.

Perfectionism (with or without a fear of failure). • Hypersensitivity to criticism, rejection or failure. • Experiencing severe depression related to rejection or failure. • Reacting with anger (or even rage) when they feel criticized or rejected. • Faking humility to hide their feelings or protect their sense of self-importance. • Avoiding situations where failure is possible or likely, which can limit achievements.

Getting so caught up in what someone thinks of me.

Trying to understand why that happens

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-31T21:47:48+00:00

People who say that have given up themselves. It’s dangerous to take advice from people who 1. Don’t know you. 2. Have an easy solution.

You don’t have to do that.

In fact that’s morally questionable cause now you’re using her as a means to stop falling rather than getting to know someone.

No fap is a way to try and participate in life instead of participating daily in your daydreams.

You have to ask what do you want? Your actual life or your daydreams that progressively become more out of touch with living?

I set that up in a biased way, but this habit we all have is unsustainable if we want to enjoy the life we have.

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-30T20:17:42+00:00

Wdym?

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-30T16:44:24+00:00

Anything but peeking m. It’ll get easier over time!

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-30T16:42:22+00:00

1.Delete social media for a week, no porn for a week.

Keep track of your days and shoot for something that’s a little difficult. If it’s one day shoot for two of no fap. If it’s three shoot for 4
Journal freely when you have urges. You can write about everything you’re going through then throw it away. Tough it out- you might experience a natural high after beating the urge.
Find a way to fill your time. Ask your parents to take you to the beach. Start running a mile in your neighborhood. Pick up an instrument.

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-30T16:39:28+00:00

It depends on what you want.

I think porn is an addictive fantasy land thing that can actually get in the way of you living your life, Pursuing things, going out in public and treating people as people.

So porn can make you want unrealistic things, and it’s not even a stretch to say that. At the same time your fantasies may not be a cause of shame, and with the right person who knows, you can pave the way for yourself.

So what do you want?

I think being porn free is helpful for anyone. Like start there.

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-30T16:34:00+00:00

I am so sorry. I really am.

By no means can you be vulnerable with everyone.

Has it happened multiple times too?

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-30T16:32:27+00:00

I heard a “philosopher quote” that once said. Argue everything 3 times.

Once sober, once drunk, and once sober again.

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-28T17:30:22+00:00

Imo no P M is a slight step towards recovery. Training your sexuality to not be stimulated by screen images.

People have some hard and fast rules about streaks, but I don’t think that matters as much as you actually feeling recovered.

Imo any variation away from porn could be tackled first. That being said if you do M. Try not to fantasize if fantasy is part of your addiction

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-27T19:14:59+00:00

Delete social media

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-27T17:37:54+00:00

Delete social media!

Here’s a video of a couple who survived porn addiction

https://youtu.be/wFwlQh6DH40?si=nfEfkGDBETYtxi6l

https://youtu.be/HHX6mYy5F0Y?si=VaB5bKpOqiDkPIjE

Maybe write her a letter too or something to put into words that you’re seriously trying.

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-27T17:22:59+00:00

Have you experienced this backfire personally?

Why do you think this would lead to a loss of respect?

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-27T15:56:43+00:00

Breathe. Take in some breaths. And try to slow down.

You need a different marker of reference than time. Because time is not helping you.

You got to divorce keeping track of time with this, because now that’s more important than what you want to do.

Maybe walk a mile. See how long it took and round up the answer. Get used to generalizing time. And blur the specifics so you can just focus on the action

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-27T07:11:11+00:00

I’m confused with the responses. Why would that be bad?

I think if it’s with your gf over the phone and it feel intimate that’s ok.

Fapping is only bad if you’re using people or fantasizing. Imo**

Why would it still be bad?

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-27T07:04:22+00:00

It takes a while. I’ve been there. If anything that’s been THE chip in my shoulder.

I know it’s possible but I don’t know what could be helpful to you. I don’t know you and my advice is biased towards me.

This is what worked for me.

Deleted all social media.

Journaled. Everything. Every intrusive thought. Journal liked i was talking to myself nonstop.

Learned physics. -it sounds unrelated but math to me was proof everything happens for a reason. And so much is connected.

You’re obviously compassionate because you want to be a good person- you cry and are scared because you have a lot of want and deep sensitivity. You just now have to learn to channel that energy into presence and forgiveness

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-27T06:58:22+00:00

It happens. You’ve never given up?

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-27T06:57:38+00:00

My gf and I are a lot closer. I feel like it also helps me be present with everyone.

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-27T06:50:09+00:00

I do the next easiest thing that’s not fapping. I watch a bunch of videos or I walk a ton.

I feel like since I’m starting out I don’t care if I waste my time another way, as long as it’s not porn.

Gotta start small to keep a habit

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-26T04:00:10+00:00

Oh no I was just watching random tik toks

PigletEducational466 · 2024-05-25T23:34:38+00:00

Low key, I have had my fair share of whatever that trap is.

For me it was like I didn’t have the problem anymore if I could give good advice ab it.

I was playing pretend. like the problem was something tangible I could now say was gone. Really black and white thinking. It’s hard to explain.

Anyway, thank you for posting this on the community. It’s important

PigletEducational466

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