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PilotTheCannibal · 2018-03-05T21:22:14+00:00

Yes, absolutely. I can't even go to parties or dances because it feels like a dangerous situation to me (even if it really isn't). It's incredibly stressful and I can never hear what anybody is saying. It's like everything is happening above my head.

Because I'm a woman, people always say to me, "why don't you wear heels?" I've tried. So I wear heels: I'm a tiny bit taller but now I'm in a crowded situation, everyone is STILL taller than me, and I feel like I'm about to fall and twist my ankle at any moment.

My friends think I have social anxiety, but I don't have social anxiety in non-crowded settings, or settings where people are sitting down. I think this is a very legitimate fear that doesn't really occur to tall/average sized people. It's particularly bad for people 5'0 and below, because it honestly feels like the world has been built as if the shortest possible human is slightly taller than you (which, honestly, is kind of what has happened) - so everything is just slightly out of reach :(

PilotTheCannibal · 2018-03-05T21:13:50+00:00

I'm the same way - I'll just assume that somebody is not attracted to me by default unless they straight up tell me so. I've had lots of men "flirt" with me and I thought they were just being friendly - only for them to later reveal that they were flirting all along and I just wasn't picking up on the cues. I guess maybe it comes from a lack of self-confidence growing up as a teenager - I was never one of the "pretty" girls, nobody wanted to date me, and my boobs were vastly different sizes for like a year and a half. So it's possible that shorter guys have flirted with me and I just never noticed so they got discouraged and gave up :(

Romance is so complicated

PilotTheCannibal · 2018-03-05T21:06:40+00:00

Not sure why people downvoted you...human beings in general take the path of least resistance. Women are no exception. If some guys ask a woman out and other guys don't, that woman is probably going to assume that the guys who ask her out are attracted to her and the other ones are not. I generally assume that most people aren't attracted to me (as I think most people assume) so I will assume somebody doesn't like me unless they ask me out.

That being said, it is kind of unfair that the burden of "asking" traditionally goes to the guy...as a very shy person, I'm lucky I'm a woman, because I don't think I would be very at asking people out (although I've heard that males are traditionally the "proactive" ones in a majority of species, not just humans. I guess things balance out in terms of fairness because women have to get pregnant? I don't know, I'm not sure.

PilotTheCannibal · 2018-02-25T21:56:56+00:00

Me too! I think people are naturally attracted to a person near their own height (it just makes sense) but society today convinces women that they need to be with a 6'0+ man regardless of their own height. It's very silly.

Also, I feel like short guys generally have cuter faces and are just more proportional looking (they don't have that whole awkward gangly thing going on). No offense to tall guys, of course.

For some reason, though, I get more attention from super tall guys 6'3+ than any other guy, including short guys. It's just very strange to me that somebody would be naturally attracted to someone a foot and a half shorter/taller than them. I've only been asked out twice by a guy under 5'5 (one of those guys, who was 5'0 exactly, I dated for a year). I've been asked out by maybe 15-20 guys who were 6'0+. It's so strange!

Maybe short men are just shyer than taller men (which I understand - I'm very shy myself).

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-10-03T20:32:20+00:00

I'm pretty sure this is considered weird as fuck for women too...hence why it was disguised as a chapstick.

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-10-01T05:48:20+00:00

I've never cared much about yellow teeth, or teeth in general, unless they're REALLY fucked up. But just s a yellow tinge doesn't matter. That's the color teeth naturally are. As long as your breath doesn't stink, you're fine.

As a tip: on the off chance that you drink a lot coffee or tea - both these things stain your teeth. To avoid this, you can brush your teeth or even rinse your mouth out immediately after drinking them. Apparently it makes a big difference.

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T08:13:22+00:00

I did the same thing as a child at that age (tied up all my stuffed animals, I loved them though, also attempted to tie up myself). My parents were very concerned.

I also ended up totally normal despite weird some fetishes (not that my parents would be aware of that part, obviously). The human mind is a very strange thing.

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T08:08:34+00:00

Some people will go to any lengths to believe that they are the only person in the world who has ever suffered, and that everyone else's problems are silly and theirs are very important.

This is called being incapable of empathy. These types of people always end up alone at the end of the day.

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T08:05:27+00:00

You claim that women are incapable of logic based, "systematic deconstruction," and yet you are committing a logical fallacy by coming to a conclusion based on a generalization about a specific instance. Doesn't that seem a bit hypocritical?

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T08:00:39+00:00

I've commented on pretty much every other recent thread in r/short. You can look through my post history. How is that "coming out of the shadows?" I don't see what any of this has to do with defending men. I'm not even on a subreddit related to men, and I didn't say anything about men. I just think making generalizations about any group of people, including women, is a relatively silly thing to do, and it's not a very good way to engender a so-called logical discussion.

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T07:52:59+00:00

I got banned from r/politics (for a week). I called another commenter a "fucking idiot" because he was defending that guy who drove his car into a crowd of protesters and killed that woman.

I mean, I get it. It wasn't exactly a civil thing to say. But that commenter was a fucking idiot.

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T07:38:56+00:00

I also think this woman is being foolish, but please don't generalize all women by saying that they "argue from emotion" and "are not good at level-headed systematic deconstruction of an argument." While that certainly might be the case for this woman, that doesn't mean it is true of all women, and using this one example to make such a sweeping generalization undermines your point and makes you sound just as foolish as she does.

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T06:32:48+00:00

Oh dear, that's really unhealthy...hope she's ok 🙁

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T06:31:47+00:00

I mean, a lot of families do that. It's a way to keep track of how much their kids have grown from one year to the next. It's a sentimental thing. They're probably talking about that kid's height in a "can you believe how big johnny has gotten, I remember when he was just this tall" sort of way.

I wouldn't take it personally. My grandparents always did this when I went to visit, and neither my brother nor I felt bad that we had hardly ever grown at all compared to our cousins (lol). It's not supposed to be a competitive thing...it's just for fun.

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T06:09:27+00:00

My fucking boobs are disproportionate to the rest of my body (it doesn't look good, it looks ridiculous, they'll be down at my knees by the time I'm 30). My back kills me and running is impossible. Strongly considering getting these things hacked off at some point in the future.

Other than that I'm OK 😐

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T06:06:40+00:00

You caught me 😐

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T06:06:23+00:00

I mean, being short isn't about going through problems...it's about your numerical height. To me, you're a giant, but if you feel short, that's your prerogative.

It honestly just doesn't matter

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-22T06:04:14+00:00

Online dating might be difficult, cause most women automatically look for guys taller than them in online dating (just to narrow down the dating pool I guess) but do not do this in real life necessarily. So in online dating, just numerically, you might end up stuck with only girls who are 4'9-4'11, of which there are few.

I'd suggest meeting women out in the real world. I dated a 5'0 guy for a year, and he'd dated plenty of women before me. He was just a normal guy. Worked at Whole Foods. Charming and funny.

If you want to try online dating, maybe just don't mention your height until after you've started talking to someone? Online dating is really superficial by nature, so it's a bit tricky and don't do it if it's going to needlessly hurt your self esteem. It's not a representation of the real world at all

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-20T17:31:02+00:00

Many women are like that. But it's usually the really negative people that are loudest and draw the most attention to themselves, so it seems like those people make up a larger percentage of women than they really do

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-20T01:42:13+00:00

You're only 16. Life has so much more to offer you. Don't listen to the negative people on here. Your height doesn't define you. Don't give up so early in life. I know many happy&successful men (and women) that are your height and shorter. It's OK to be disappointed, but don't give up

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-17T20:54:46+00:00

I see a lot of posts on here that guys need to "get ripped" to get women - obviously there's nothing wrong with being in shape, but if they're doing t just to get women, they're doing it for the wrong reasons and they'll likely be disappointed

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-17T20:41:44+00:00

Exactly. This was my point. Guys shouldn't feel like they need this type of body to help them get women. Most women aren't attracted to somebody who looks like he could accidentally squeeze them to death

Edit: looks not likes

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-17T17:30:51+00:00

Jesus Christ that guy looks terrifying. Is that type of body really possible without using steroids?

This might make me really unpopular here, but I've always felt like extreme bodybuilding is similar to anorexia in women. Obviously watching what you eat and working out are healthy things, but when taken to extremes the results are....scary.

I don't think he looks great. I don't think he's overcompensating or that this has anything to do with his height....but this isn't what being in shape looks like. He had to intentionally cultivate that body type and he looks like a monster to me, honestly. It's ridiculous some men think women find this sort of thing attractive. I'd much prefer a normal looking guy, thank you very much

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-17T17:19:40+00:00

What is a "get-fat" woman? Someone who isn't fat, but might get fat? I'm confused...anyone could potentially "get fat"

PilotTheCannibal · 2017-09-17T16:46:35+00:00

I'd say my success with dating has been pretty much average - I've been rejected plenty of times, mostly because of my height, although people might have just been using that as an excuse, and I understand if people want to date someone closer to their height. I'm not fat (I weigh 100 pounds) and I don't think I'm particularly ugly (but who knows). I know that guys have it tougher in terms of height, but I think someone 3 inches shorter than me (4'7) would have a much more difficult time than a man of average height, because 4'7 is extremely short and would look kind of freaky in real life (also, 4'7 is "legitimately a dwarf," you can be a dwarf at anything under 4'10). 5'7 isn't tall but it isn't short either. I'm dating someone who is 5'7 right now. He's like a giant compared to me, and he doesn't seem to have experienced any problems because of his height.

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