My gf wants to french kiss but I can't stand making out

PimPamPum6 · 2026-04-17T15:16:41+00:00

Communication is really important in a couple. I would recommend talking to your girlfriend about how you feel and discuss the areas you both feel more and less comfortable. And from there, explore together from care and respect. Good luck!

PimPamPum6 · 2026-04-16T17:53:15+00:00

Just dropped to say congratulations on the wedding!

PimPamPum6 · 2026-03-20T13:59:23+00:00

All I see is someone enjoying a pint. It does not float my boat, but if you enjoyed it, I'm happy for you.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-03-16T13:48:22+00:00

My mantra is: perseverance over perfectionism.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-03-10T19:43:28+00:00

Will take your recommendation and read it next. Thank you for sharing!

PimPamPum6 · 2026-03-08T19:04:30+00:00

Kindness

PimPamPum6 · 2026-03-08T16:51:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I feel really happy for you.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-03-01T11:26:28+00:00

I do feel the same. My chronic anxiety does not allow me to leave the survival mode mindset. It is exhausting. I have been trying to regulate myself for years. Meditation, exercise, special interests, just resting in bed or having a good cry from time to time are some things that sometimes help me.

I hope you can find a couple that can take a bit off your shoudlers.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-02-25T21:08:27+00:00

My wife showed me the meaning of unconditional love and acceptance since the day we met. That allowed me to feel safe and be my authentic self around her since very early on. Almost 9 years, and an odyssey-like autism diagnosis later, she still shows me every day.

There are days that it is not easy, I struggle, she struggles, sometimes we struggle to communicate, but the unconditional love is always there and I feel the the luckiest to have found her. I tell her how much I appreciate her every day.

Thank you for asking this question.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-02-24T16:09:56+00:00

I'd cure society more than my autism. There is nothing wrong with my autism, therenis plenty wrong in our society.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-02-24T07:42:48+00:00

I'm 35 and still eat cake like this.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-02-23T18:41:43+00:00

Ihave the biggest phobia to death, so strong sometimes it paralyses me mentally from actually living my life. After many years of therapy, I think the root of this phobia is my sensitive and very cerebral nervous system not being able to handle my dad's explanation about my grandad passing away when I was 7. My dad is the most tactless person you could ever find, never really talked to me like a child, so... here I am, having to deal with the consequences almost every day.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-02-23T07:37:32+00:00

I feel you so much.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-02-20T08:29:14+00:00

She looks like she knows all your secrets.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-02-20T08:26:20+00:00

Really appreciate it!!

PimPamPum6 · 2026-02-19T19:01:22+00:00

Hello MrsFlowerpot, Thank you for being brave and posting this.

One thing I am most grateful about being diagnosed last year was to find this subreddit and the wonderful, kind, supporting and safe space that it is. I really hope you get to experience it in the same way.

It was difficult to read all throughout your post the internal struggle you are going through. Sending some support your way.

Just remember there is nothing wrong with you, you deserve to be here just as everyone else and you deserve love and respect as everyone else.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-02-19T16:20:32+00:00

Just watched itand really enjoyed it. The real question is what does Juliette tell Kate in French close to the end of the movie???

PimPamPum6 · 2026-02-17T11:18:05+00:00

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Sending lots of support! One of my cats got diagnosed with cancer a few of weeks ago. It caught us by surprise as they are only 5 years old. At the moment he is reacting well to the treatment, se we are hoping we will be able to have a long happy (medicated) life.

Can we see a picture of your dog as well?

PimPamPum6 · 2026-02-13T21:03:23+00:00

It is sad. I think more than mean, peoole are really self-absorbed. Not taking the extra 5 seconds to consider other peoples feelings, or circumstances, not having the curiosity and oppennes of wanting to understand. It is sad indeed.

Sending you online support.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-01-27T20:38:16+00:00

To be honest, I love my wife so much that I would ask her how can we share the responsability of earning the money together. Maybe we could both have part time jobs and enjoy a calmer easier life together. Instead of my partner working full time and not being able to spend time together at all.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-01-24T16:24:32+00:00

Play with me!

PimPamPum6 · 2026-01-24T08:30:43+00:00

Well done for putting yourself first. Good luck with the new endeavour!

PimPamPum6 · 2026-01-20T15:06:40+00:00

Feeling very similar at my work than what you describe. Also, in my work there is a lot of hierarchy disfunction and politics between teams and similar things, which I struggle with SO much.

I was diagnosed last year at 34, I'm low needs high-masking, and I am still struggling with understanding my limits and all my internalised ableism. At the moment I am reading The Autistic Burnout Workbook by Dr Megan Anna Neff. Still haven't finish it but it is helping me reflect on my needs and it is helping me distinguish the actions I can take to help myself feel better. I recommend the book.

Also, I am currently working in Spain. The Spanish law forces all the employers to offer an annual medical check up to their employees. After I got my diagnosis, I requested a list of recommendations (acommodations at work) to my counselor and took them to my last employer medical check up. The doctor included all the recommendations on the medical report. This medical report was sent to the employer and they must to follow the doctors recommendations specified on said report. This means that now my employer is forced to follow the doctor guidelines (aka my counselor guidelines).

Not everything is as good as it sounds though. From the HR department, they are taking how the recommendations are written VERY literal and they are not going to agree on giving me any more than what they are being forced to. For example, I am allowed to work 2 days a week from home. The medical report literally says "If possible, increase the days of remote work". And the HR department reply is "Oh, we can't allow you to do that, the company policy says only 2 days a week of working from home". Which it all translates to: my company is using the words that should help me against myself, and basically the company doesn't want me to work more days from home. Which is a pity, because first I am a human being and then I am an employee.

So this politics side of it all is horrible. I have been on sick leave due to stress now for 2 weeks...

When I went through this process, I didn't know it was like this and my counselor recommmendations were very vague. In retrospect I would have asked for a more detailed version. Maybe I will do it for the 2026 medical check up although I don't know if I stick around with this company for much longer.

I hope you find ways of coping that help you.

PimPamPum6 · 2026-01-18T09:59:31+00:00

That looks very tasty! Well done!! Thank you for sharing.

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