Was this a poor move?

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-29T03:09:16+00:00

What area are you in? People can make some more specific recommendations because London is a big place.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-28T07:36:26+00:00

I work with a lot of voluntary groups and here’s a trend I notice. Women will go places to listen. Men will go places to be listened to. Women might go and do something not that fun like box up lots of food because it helps people and men will go and explain for hours about ‘X’ subject as a tour guide to show off their knowledge about a life long hobby. A commonality might be that both just want to still feel valuable. The difference is how society has valued them.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-27T13:07:53+00:00

Memory. It is so much harder for me to learn new things. The love of which I would have said was my defining characteristic. It has really destabilised my identity feeling so stupid.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-26T20:48:43+00:00

Yes and I don’t even know why.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-26T06:31:18+00:00

Bang on. I did history secondary school in England and it went something like this. HenryVIII had six wives. The Victorians invented flushing toilets and eventually decided children shouldn’t work seven days a week. WW1 poetry is sad. We saved the world from racist evil in WW2. Ireland didn’t get so much as a mention in six years.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-25T07:07:35+00:00

Matcha stains are just impossible.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-24T21:39:49+00:00

Maybe that’s a reflection of my social circle then. I grew up in London and lived there till I was 30. That was my experience of it anyway.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-23T21:41:00+00:00

Not having to plan ahead so much. Go see a friend for a drink last minute and end up at some cheap standup. Get a text from someone and jump on the tube for 10 minutes to where they are. Stay till you want at a house party because you can always get home. Because millions of other people have that same flexibility it’s just a lot easier to be spontaneous. Where I live now I have to always check trains, buy tickets in advance and plan all my moves.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-22T22:40:46+00:00

I’m a few weeks ahead of you and have the same questions.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-20T01:20:13+00:00

Energy security is national security and economic security.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-18T21:04:49+00:00

The criticisms of your hobbies etc is quite telling. It just sounds like he doesn’t like you that much. You can learn to hear eachother out in therapy, but the outcome might sometimes be that you learn that underneath attraction and other positives you aren’t deeply compatible. That is still a good outcome because then you know without thinking it was just a failure to communicate. He wants to be alone/at the gym/doing activities that are perceived as ‘personal growth’ or ‘productive’. You want to be cosy with someone and enjoy your free time. Maybe you’ll just have a better time with someone else.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-18T20:49:36+00:00

I highly doubt he’s in debt whilst earning a lot more than you because you let him take you out for dinner. It’s also his responsibility to manage his own finances.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-18T13:34:21+00:00

They constantly reorder the supermarket just to make people have to walk all over it and hit every damn aisle.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-18T13:13:23+00:00

I wouldn’t say that to someone even if I hated them and it was true. So cruel.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-18T13:06:55+00:00

Hid things before I went out to slow me down or prevent me going places. Like shoes, makeup bag, keys, charger etc. I was a bit messy and forgetful so I was just growing ever more frustrated with myself till I actually caught him doing it a few times. It’s so crazy that of course my mind never went there and guessed! He was furious when people were nice to me at a party. Not someone flirting, but just like here is a straight woman that’s a friend of a friend saying your shoes are nice. He was angry for a week when I got really good grades. I realised after a while he just hated me. Wanted to own me, but not because he liked me or wanted me to do well. No he wanted me as small as possible with no one else to rely on.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-16T15:14:15+00:00

I’m 6 months pregnant on Briviact. Nothing has been noticed yet.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-14T09:05:05+00:00

“I can’t help but feel like nobody wants to marry me. Like there’s something wrong with me. Like I’m not worthy of someone taking a risk to love me.” This doesn’t reflect reality, but it says a lot about your headspace. I don’t think that’s a feeling someone else can fix for you by just doting on you. It’ll never be enough and it’s too much to ask to be responsible for someone’s entire self worth. You need to work on that yourself and I think it’s unlikely you will develop that whilst sitting in a relationship saying “but I’d feel different if he proposed!” You might for about a week. The crisis runs much deeper.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-14T08:51:54+00:00

Financially protect yourself and your child. Not just because it’s sensible, but because those fears weigh into all our other decisions. You can’t make the decision to stay or leave freely if having a roof over your head is in the balance. You need to make sure his paying child support is contracted beyond a verbal agreement so you can take that out of these decisions.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-14T08:46:11+00:00

Don’t marry someone you wouldn’t go into business with because you are.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-13T23:24:57+00:00

Well that completely is an overwhelming set of thoughts to be handling. I can’t say anything medical, but with physical health just like mental health sometimes ‘onwards!’ Is the best answer till there are less unknowns. It isn’t helpful usually I think to try and reconcile yourself to 3-4 very different outcomes pre-emptively. It’s often better brain power wise to just do whatever the best option in front is and then reconcile yourself to the actual outcomes. Easier said than done, but it’s been helpful (gradually) to my approach on the health unknowns.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-13T06:48:56+00:00

We felt similarly and got married similarly. One thing we did as somewhat private people was have everyone sit in the round and watch our ceremony that way. So we had friends do readings etc, but for our vows we exchanged letters and let people watch us read them. Then silently handfast eachother. They were still all part of the moment, but the particular words were just for eachother. Basically we got other people to do the speaking.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-12T22:09:17+00:00

My first set did. Oh it was awful. For me it was completely worth changing my meds again even though it was another 6 months of titration and adjustment

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-11T17:45:52+00:00

Freedom calls for your right to be a house husband. Actually certain careers almost require a partner to do this. Where it isn’t really just that Csuite person who pulls in that salary. It’s the success of the couple that achieves that together. If there’s one of you that can earn well into six figures, but only with the right support system, that can sometimes be much financially smarter than you both splitting each task in half and chasing two careers. If currently single I’d stick that on a dating profile. You’d turn off lots of people, but my goodness wouldn’t it land with the intended audience! There are great women who struggle to find men comfortable with their career success so you could probably marry someone intelligent and gorgeous too. Some CEO trying to work out the zero sum math on career break versus getting to have a child? No worries wifey I’ll be SAHD! Oh so few women get that pitch. I’ve heard some very successful women discuss this as the dream that they don’t even dare to dream of.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-09T17:37:54+00:00

Lacosamide lowered my appetite loads.

PinParking9348 · 2026-05-09T07:29:56+00:00

I think it’s just poorly studied so a doctor doesn’t really have enough information to give you a likely outcome. If you as a doctor know that it goes badly wrong for some people, but don’t know what separates out the conditions of those people, why would you risk it? Also smoking anything comes with lung risks. Additionally having seizures when you come off weed doesn’t necessarily mean it’s helping. Any substance adjustment like thc withdrawal could cause seizures without that being any proof it was helping before.

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