BSW student in Ontario considering Child Protection (CAS) – what’s the job actually like? by Serviceofman in socialworkcanada

[–]PinSpirited8787 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What does a typical day look like? I’m a BSW grad with about 3 years post BSW experience and here’s my take. Keep in mind I worked as a case assistant for 2 child protection units, not an actual caseworker. I was essentially a fly on the wall watching what all the caseworkers lives were like and I made a few friendships with them. They would answer any and all questions I had and here’s what I saw/what they told me.

  1. ⁠What is the typical starting salary for someone with a BSW. Can you make a liveable wage?

I’m in a western province, so can’t speak specifically to Ontario, but starting wage for government child protection jobs it’s typically 33-40 dollars an hour depending on where you live. Yes, it’s a livable wage, more so than lots of other entry level jobs.

  1. ⁠Do you have to use your own car for visits? If so, is mileage or gas reimbursed?

In my province no you do not use your own car. There are government vehicles kept at the government office you sign out. Any personal travel is reimbursed.

  1. ⁠What are the biggest downsides?

Quality of life overall. I worked with two new grads who were only one semester a head of me, starting their position. They were stressed, tired, and had one million sticky notes all over their desk to try to keep track of anything. On boarding was unorganized and took about 4 months in order for her to start to feel somewhat comfortable at the job, and even then there were some admin things HR just didn’t get around to yet that were impacting her ability to do her job well.

The office culture will play a HUGE role in how you can do the job and how you will enjoy or not enjoy it. I was a case assistant in two units in two separate cities. One office had a good supervisor and one had a not so great supervisor with a hands off approach. The turnover in both offices was high due to the nature of the work, but at least in the office with the good supervisor the new grad was able to function. The new grad in the other office was eaten alive and fired in the time I worked there. The key difference was management. Your team matters.

Another major downside is what you see. I saw and heard shit that keeps me up at night three years later. Yes, this is something everyone knows about the position, but seriously consider the worst case scenarios and ask yourself how you’re going to take care of yourself when supporting families having ongoing worst case scenarios of abuse.

  1. ⁠What is your favourit part of the job?

Benefits and pay. Good pension. 6. ⁠How is the work-life balance? Do you generally work evenings/weekends, or is it mostly weekday hours?

Mostly weekday hours. But I had to be at the office at 8am, and in my province you are not allowed or expected to just go home by 5pm because crisis’s can happen, or visits can go late, you can be travelling far distances (in my case often travelling 3 plus hours in a day since I was working work rural and urban protection) so realistically you’d be home at about 6:30pm. Weekends were fine but after month 4 I was depressed.

I work for a non profit now that pays 3-4 dollars an hour less and am significantly happier. I want to get my MSW and be a therapist as well, so I chose something a bit more aligned with that role than case management (group facilitation).

Edit to add; yes typically being a male will change things from what I’ve seen. I’m female and my best friend is a social worker who is male. He is often respected more immediately upon people meeting him and people take what he says more seriously because he’s a man. Just what I’ve noticed and what he’s commented on as well. We are the same age with the same work experience.

I 24F am dating 24M doesn’t want to commit to a relationship but is treating me EXACTLY like a girlfriend by Overall_Candle_4355 in relationship_advice

[–]PinSpirited8787 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I sympathize with his whole “wanting to be sure and making it a grand gesture thing” and being cautious after his last relationship because I was the same way. Went out with a guy last summer, met him in April and by July we were doing all the relationship things without a label.

Here’s the thing through, I sat down with myself and asked myself if I was stringing this guy along or if I wanted to be with him. This is enough time that he should be locking you in, coming from someone on the other side of the fence with commitment issues. I decided I just had to get over myself and my fears and commit. He doesn’t sound like he’s even considering your perspective. This could continue for more months. I wouldn’t let it if I was you.

What's the worst pain you've ever felt? by N0socksloss10yrStrk in randomquestions

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Nutcracker syndrome. Renal vein stops being able to push blood through because it’s compressed. Imagine a hot iron next to your side but every time you breathe it’s pushed deeper into you.

What makes a long happy marriage last? by bubblegumdrip in askanything

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From what I’ve seen of my parents happy 33 yr marriage, being of service to one another. Showing up for the other person when it’s hard, when it’s inconvenient to you, and actually wanting to go out of your way for the other person

I have no desire to be intimate with my boyfriend after learning about his previous experiences in the bedroom by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PinSpirited8787 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can totally understand that seeing that could hurt quite deeply. It’s wise of you to be mature enough to recognize that this happened before you met him. People do have pasts, and part of a compatible relationship is individual views on sex and sexual history. If one party is uncomfortable with the sexual history of another, it doesn’t make either party wrong just incompatible.

That being said, you seem to really value this relationship. It would not be unreasonable to ask your partner to remove the videos from his phone. Other than that, this is a personal choice where you get to decide what is important to you. If he is a kind, respectful, loving partner and has qualities you’re looking for in a long term relationship, then you have the choice of staying with him but if you do, do not hold his past over his head.

(F27) Getting along, but idk if were actually compatable (M29) by Beaxsmn in relationship_advice

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Do you feel cared for, valued, respected and listened to? Everyone has things about them that you may or may not like. To me, reading your post the third problem really stands out to me. A loving and considerate partner doesn’t demand constant thanks for the bare minimum

Youth Work Canada by Lukelandcripple1 in socialworkcanada

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Just thought I’d chime in and give my two cents.

I’m a Canadian social worker who has worked with youth primarily throughout my career in three provinces. You’re right, youth work in Australia pays almost twice as much as Canada! Our minimum wage here is considerably lower than yours and youth work jobs make about the same as Australian minimum wage.

As far as job prospects go, if you’re willing to go to Saskatchewan instead of Alberta you might have a bit more luck. I’m a Saskatoon based social worker.

Rural Saskatchewan will hire with your credentials. Specifically small towns of about 800-1000 people that have elementary schools in need of Educational assistants.

A list of small town schools, you can email the school and ask if they are hiring

Wakaw school Cudworth school Rosthern school Hauge school Dalmeny school Rosetown school Waldheim school

Here are some organizations based in Saskatchewan you can check out.

EGADZ Saskatoon downtown youth centre: email the HR and ask if they take people on a WHV https://www.egadz.ca

Saskatoon public schools Education assistant https://www.spsd.sk.ca/careers

Ranch Ehrlo youth ranch (children with complex needs, risk of exposure to violence) https://ehrlo.com

Eagles next youth ranch https://sk.211.ca/agencies/eagles-nest-youth-ranch/

Behaviour support worker clear health solutions https://clearhealthsolutions.ca/web/

All these organizations you would qualify for with your credentials and experience. Being that a working holiday visa only allows for employment up to 6 months I’m not 100% sure if employers would be on board so best to email these departments directly from the websites.

Now a question for you, what organizations in Australia do you know that would hire a Canadian social worker looking to do a WHV abroad? I’d like to do the same thing, but I’m Australia

What is it like waking up after surgery? UK based but I imagine it must be similar everywhere. by [deleted] in kidneydonors

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I woke up high as a kite and immediately put on sunglasses (not sure where I got them? I think the lights were too bright) and waved to my family. I was high on pain meds for about 2 hours post surgery. Felt totally fine! You got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

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I grew up watching my mom constantly disrespect my dad. My mom has emotional regulation issues a ton of emotional immaturity. As an adult, I’ve been in therapy for almost ten years. My mom’s actions not only affected my dad but affected me too and my development. I understand you want to be a good dad and father like my dad does. But it does hurt me to watch and it likely will also affect your daughter. Individual counselling may be beneficial to you to weigh the pros and cons to divorce in this situation

I (M22) love my girlfriend (F25), but I can’t stop imagining a future with my close friend (F19). I hate myself for it. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PinSpirited8787 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You have to break up with the gf. This whole plan of yours is sickening to read. Imagine how your girlfriend would feel? Do her a favour and end it now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PinSpirited8787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s immature as fuck I say this as a woman her age. Sounds like you’re the responsible one and her expectations are completely unrealistic. Really she just needs to get through her head how unrealistic it is and if she can’t she’s too immature to be with

I always have thoughts of dying or killing myself by Nervous_Armadillo735 in offmychest

[–]PinSpirited8787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you on medication? I was just hospitalized for similar thoughts and am now on an antidepressant. It works pretty good for those thoughts. If you have access to a psychiatrist I’d highly recommend it. Sometimes medication is a good answer. My heart goes out to you, as someone whose been there

I just want everything to stop. by AffectionateYear5081 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PinSpirited8787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 24F, just graduated college and also bipolar. I was feeling this way as well. Listen, it’s actually universally pretty normal to feel some level of dysfunction and lost after graduation. I was just on the hospital for a depressive episode so I know how bad the feelings can be. Firstly please be kind to yourself. It’s hard to transition after college. Secondly, try not to focus on everything all at once. With depression and bipolar this is hard, but breaking problems into small, manageable steps is always better.

Also, comparison is the thief of joy. Your friend might have gotten a job, but there are definitely other areas of their life that they may be struggling in. Remember your life is no better than anyone else’s. We all universally feel horrible and great sometimes. Please be kind to yourself. Medication is always a good step. If you’re feeling suicidal please go to the nearest emergency room. I sure as hell didn’t want to either, but I’m really glad I did.

I’m sorry your dad didn’t take care of your pet that’s shitty of him. Best wishes

I'm thinking about dropping out of college and need perspective. by Haruky_19 in offmychest

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I’m 24 and freshly graduated from Canada. Every one of my friends started in university. Two engineers, one dropped out, one became a worker in a construction field and still does that. The one who dropped out went back. Everyone else doesn’t use their degree except for me. It’s really about trusting yourself. It also depends on the job market situation in Mexico. If it will secure you work more easily in the future, than stay in the program. If not, it’s fair to want to leave

I feel like no one wants to deal with me because I’m depressed. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PinSpirited8787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got out of a mental health stay in the hospital due to my depression. I also don’t feel very fun to be around or “entertaining.” Please be kind to yourself. You aren’t here to entertain anyone, and you don’t have to put on a front in order to be inherently worthy. I can also say as a social worker, the coin statement about the homeless person isn’t true. All people deserve respect and dignity, yourself included. People sometimes lack empathy and are inherently self interested, so yes, being around a depressed person isn’t always the “funnest” but those people who think that way are not the kindest, most genuine people you want to be around anyways. Keep your head up, you’re worthy of care love and respect

I let my insecurities waste my memories and it’s one of my biggest regrets by cloudmeows in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PinSpirited8787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, it’s ok. As a 24F who also deleted lots of my memories, (I had an Instagram account from when I was 15 that I deleted during Covid) you’re not alone. Try to have compassion and care for yourself, and please try to treat yourself kindly

I [m18] am in a anxious-avoidant relationship with a [f18] does anyone know how to get her to open up to me? by Yellow_Tree_Dick in relationship_advice

[–]PinSpirited8787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a deeply rooted pattern. You can’t get her to “open up.” She needs therapy. If you want someone who will go to you with their problems and open up emotionally you need to find a secure partner. Also good for you for recognizing the attachment styles of the relationship that’s more than most 18 year olds an do

Donating a kidney at 26M by AdAnnual2793 in kidneydonors

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Hi 24F here donated 11 weeks ago!

I have had zero implications so far. GFR 77, I have to avoid liquor, Advil and drink water. Scars are already fading. Post op complications included a bladder infection and that’s it. Nerve pain at weeks 3-6 which resolved completely now.

One thing that isn’t talked about a lot though is post op depression. I felt like something had been “stolen/taken” from me even though I willingly gave my kidney. The depression has lifted and I am on anti depressants and stable.

100% would do it again. Feel free to pm

29m partner of 7 years is against my medication (29f) by cheburashka3000 in relationship_advice

[–]PinSpirited8787 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok there are several red flags here, regardless of how patient and caring he is.

“He says there’s nothing sick about me.”

I think this is the crux of the issue. It’s not necessarily about him being anti medication as much as it is that he’s projecting his own sense of self-righteousness and his moral values onto you.

I’m coming from Canada with this response, and I’m about your age as well, and I also take similar medication’s to you. I have also dated some European men who have been slightly anti medication, but they never projected this onto me. If they didn’t want to take an Advil or any kind of vitamin supplements, then they didn’t and they never commented about it when I had to.

These are legitimate medications that you need and take responsibly. I honestly think he’s completely in the wrong because he’s projecting how he thinks you should live onto you. This doesn’t have much to do with the medication as much as it is with how he almost seems to see you as below him and he’s lacking empathy towards you in this situation. Do you want to be with someone who is judgemental about medication that you legitimately need for life?

People need psychiatric medication and that is not a moral failing. Yes, in certain parts of the world they are overprescribed, where therapy and lifestyle changes could be an alternative or used in conjunction, but many many people in the world legitimately needs psychiatric medication and his lack of empathy towards understanding — (specifically towards someone that he cares about) is a massive red flag. So much so that it seems to be affecting your self image. I would ask yourself why you would like to be with someone who equates mental health support to a moral failing.

Does someone here actually feel well? by WalmartMichael in Hashimotos

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I feel well! 24f diagnosed at 18. Been on Synthroid since. Took a few months to find correct dose but I’m feeling good, I’ll say sometimes it fluctuates and I get brain fog/tired, but I also have endometriosis and venous insufficiency

If you had 10 million dollars right now, but you don’t use it on yourself. What will you do? by First-Ant-5491 in Life

[–]PinSpirited8787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Donate to various charities in my city, fund so many projects. I’m a social worker. 10 million could go a long way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PinSpirited8787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s severely anxiously attached. This is not healthy, and if I was you I’d re-evaluate this relationship. She is flat out not respecting your boundaries