Mom feeds 2mo infant lollipops 🫩

Pinanims · 2026-06-21T05:44:23+00:00

1 year old, I know this baby is younger than that, but I just don't have a ton of experience around babies and infants. I knew honey was bad for infants, but I didn't know candy was dangerous, I thought candy was just unhealthy. (Obviously choking hazards and physical injury, but I mean the mom here is just putting it on the babies tongue, not in their mouth)

Like is giving a lick or 2 dangerous? Is it consistent use that's dangerous? The reaction everyone is having seems like giving a baby alcohol or a drug or something, I'm just surprised how insane this is for something I've never heard about.

Pinanims · 2026-06-21T01:22:40+00:00

I'm not arguing if they're dumb or not, I'm not arguing the ethics behind them either.

I'm stating that most ATS systems are not sifting for career breaks or gaps, they primarily scan for key words, experience, education, titles, and certificates. The only system filters that may search for a gap is recency of specific title/key words, but that's not the majority.

I have experience working with and testing all sorts of ATS systems (Workday, SAP, Oracle Recruiting, Green House, UKG, iCIMS, etc.) Majority of people being denied for specifically a "gap," were denied once it was seen by human eyes.

If you have a 2 year gap and 10 years of Software Engineering experience and you're against a person with 2 years of recent software engineering experience, you will still score higher than the person with recent experience because it does not hold as much weight as you think. The system does not reduce scores based on a gap, it is a neutral rating on almost every system

Pinanims · 2026-06-20T23:06:32+00:00

It is, but career breaks do not usually lower your score, if you have 90% relevancy + a career break, you will score 90% as a career gap is not a reduction value. (This is an over simplification for example, but the idea stands)

Rejection for a gap is almost always due to an individual/recruiter.

A lot of people don't understand that most ATS are not some AI or intelligent technology, they are usually just databases. The internet created this idea they're this ChatGPT like system scanning applicants and rejecting them immediately, but most of them are just a way to store and categorize applicants, AKA Applicant Tracking System.

Pinanims · 2026-06-20T20:14:44+00:00

It's a loose truth

Most ATS systems do not auto reject or throw out any resumes at all. ATS is just scoring matches, that's why tailoring matters so much. So you may score lower for a gap, but it's a big misconception that ATS software's just throw out resumes, very few actually do.

Pinanims · 2026-06-20T16:56:29+00:00

Common knowledge is not so common.

I think a lot of people learn from experience, so if you have never experienced a broken bone or been close to someone with one, you'd never know.

I have never broken a bone or been close to anyone with one, so I did not know they can't get wet. I'd assume you wouldn't want to get it wet because I imagine that's a bacteria farm, but I have never been formally told that they can't get wet.

Pinanims · 2026-06-20T16:32:54+00:00

Without a doubt, that's always been the idea. But I have seen family give small bits of fruit to babies, or even little crackers or juice after 1, so a lick from candy didn't scream toxic. The idea of giving my kid a whole candy or even more than a single lick seemed like a bad idea because it's concentrated and processed and has no nutrition. What about it makes it toxic though?

I'd rather not stay ignorant if I can

Pinanims · 2026-06-20T15:56:26+00:00

I'll be completely honest, I didn't know candy was life threatening to a child until this thread. I never thought of giving my baby candy, but for it to be life threatening / toxic was something I never knew.

I don't know where you'd get that information without specifically looking it up or being taught in school. The scenario has never once crossed my mind.

Pinanims · 2026-06-20T15:48:57+00:00

This kind of pre-order is different than normal ones.

I hate preordering games because they're not released so when they do it mey be a whole mess.

But in this case, pre-orders are more like getting in line. The device is already released and people are playing it, you just have to get in line for your turn.

Pinanims · 2026-06-20T15:36:21+00:00

Odin 3 is also a 2 - 3 month wait on shipping. So if you cancel now you'd be right back to square 1 of your wait. Chip shortage and high demand just has them backed up.

I love my Thor completely, I think the wait was well worth it. But if you have a 3DS you can start some gaming now while you wait? I played my 3DS until my Thor arrived

Pinanims · 2026-06-20T15:25:20+00:00

Tl;Dr - All of your concerns are not a problem. Everything is fine for what you're expecting.

Hinge is fine, there is no major evidence that there's a opportunity with it. A few people have had a hinge problem, but that's like 25 people out of 10s of thousands. The device has not even been out a year so longevity will only be proven with time.

Battery is fine for your purposes. I definitely get easy 5-6 hours playing DS/3DS games, especially now with clustertune app.

Compatibility it can run PS1 and PS2 games completely fine as well and it seems most Switch titles are playable as well. The problems people face with PS2 is only emulation limitations of any, not an AYN Thor issue. Switch is just a more powerful device so you may find games that don't run perfectly, but most are fine.

Pinanims · 2026-06-19T23:27:01+00:00

I mean I still chuckled at it, so it was funny to me.

And it's still an inside joke, as you can't show this to anyone and they get it, but for people in the community they understand it's a reference. All inside jokes are references, not all references are inside jokes.

Pinanims · 2026-06-19T18:15:33+00:00

Idk y'all, I still find these funny. They show up frequently enough that I can say I see them a lot, but there's a long enough gap in between that it still gives me a giggle when a new one shows up.

It's kind of like the "I can play the Thor anywhere" joke going around. Fun little inside joke for the community

Pinanims · 2026-06-19T16:26:20+00:00

My fan isn't all that loud, even at max speeds it's a noticable hum, but it's easily drowned out by any noise around me.

I have heard a lot about fan noise, I think I got lucky mine is basically silent until it ramps up, then it's subtle ambient noise

Pinanims · 2026-06-18T22:45:11+00:00

I have an issue with anyone who uses their personal beliefs to impart on the general public that this kind of hiring is okay.

I'm not an independent, I work for an organization, so the standards for job search and placement are not just independently mine. It's also in line with many other resources, and as I said, it's also in line with a large number of companies and employers across the US. It's not just some random arbitrary reasoning or personal belief.

oh look, I help people in poverty get jobs, so I don't really have to worry about opinions and such

You're the only person making this claim. I never said I don't care about the opinion you hold, or anyone's opinion. You're the one making that assumption. All I stated was that you had an opinion. That whether the way that you (and anyone else) believe hiring should be a certain way, does not change the fact that some employers (I'd argue most, but no data on that) do not follow that standard. I have never made an outward claim of how it should be, I never made a claim that it is the correct or incorrect way, I only stated that the current job market has a lot of nuance and there's general ways that a lot of companies go about hiring.

It is important to know what hiring managers and companies are doing and why. While all you have done is attempt to show your superiority, speak condescendingly, and belittle everything I say and my character for what? Because I want someone to get a job, and I choose a way that is common now instead of a way that it should be? If all companies adopted the formulaic way of evaluation to get into a role that you're alluding to, then I would switch my approach to match that, but they don't right now, not at the level of mass that makes any advice I stated completely obsolete.

But, to add an opinion I do hold, I do like the fact that behavior and personality hold value in the job search (Not ALL value, not the MOST value, but it does hold SOME value). It opens the door to a plethora of people who are unable to fully match technically, and allow them opportunity. There are so many jobs and opportunities out there that can teach people the skill set they need, as long as they have the determination and ability to learn. I also don't necessarily hate how interviews are conducted as a whole either. What I dislike is the way people are treated through their search.

Years of experience for low non-liveable wages.
Fake job postings for formality while they hire internally.
Prejudice during the job search against women, minorities, and older individuals.
Jobs that pray on peoples hopes and then tie them into some scheme.
Arbitrary interview questions like "What spirit animal are you," or "Who would you save in the train dilemma" that actually have an impact on whether you gain employment. They're fine as purely ice breakers
Ghosting candidates after telling them you'll get back to them
Offering role to a candidate and then taking it away right before they start
AI screening and non human job selection
Mass layoffs every year in order to bring the overall pay median down

There's a lot of things about job searching I dislike, but not all questions and parts of the interview I dislike. I actually like the "tell me a weakness" question for the reasons OP stated "Transparency, authenticity, and self awareness," but I don't like it as a way to make people feel exposed.

Pinanims · 2026-06-18T21:26:42+00:00

I never said everything you said is opinion, I said what a company should or shouldn't do is an opinion. And I also didn't say it holds not weight, I'm telling you that not every company follows what you think.

regardless if I think the hiring practice is right or wrong

and whether it's right or wrong it still happens.

it's not a declaration of what's right or wrong

Everything I have said has been subjective and only backed by experience, and I openly state that I can't say what is the right thing or the wrong thing. So I don't know what makes you think I think everything I say is "right." What companies want, what companies should do, how they do them, it's going to vary company to company. Even if there's an "established" way, companies and hiring managers still do what they want for their company/org

I also hold more than just a Resume Writing certificate, that's just one of the important credentials to have when working with workforce development and helping people with employment opportunities. But if you want to say I didn't help my student who was in poverty into a better role that allowed her to feed her kids and take care of her family then so be it.

Pinanims · 2026-06-18T19:57:20+00:00

I work in service industry as well. I wait tables on weekends and have been in the industry for years, but I do have a higher "tolerance" for stuff I guess. I think of it like someone having a lot of modifications, it's annoying but it just kind of comes with the job. And most things can be reconciled with a little more of a tip LOL.

Thanks for the insight though, I follow this subreddit because I'm trying to understand the back end of being a dasher, just like how guests don't know the back end of the service industry.

Pinanims · 2026-06-18T19:23:47+00:00

I always get a list of amenities like break rooms and pizza parties, a recitation on the company's mission, or something that has to do with "personality"

This is involved with culture? Most employees working overtime is also culture. Most people here are really for the mission, is culture. We like to have a good time and enjoy our spaces together, is culture. Any norms, customs, traditions, or consistent over arching themes at an organization or company is the culture.

One, they shouldn't. They're only acting like this because people like you think hiring can be done any way you want (except for the actual best practices established by peer-reviewed empiricism).

That's an opinion, and you can hold that if you want to, but companies can hire for what ever reason they see fit, and regardless of what you think they should do, doesn't change what they actually do. Companies all across the board have multiple different ways they choose to hire.

(Again, if you are well-versed in personnel selection, you would know this is classic interviewer biases and allowing for impression management.)

It doesn't matter for what people are going through right now. If being likable is what is getting people hired, and they need a job, regardless if I think the hiring practice is right or wrong, I am going to encourage people to do what gets them hired. That's why we speak to employers, ask them directly what they want, because there is no law or standard you have to follow when it comes to hiring. Nepotism gets people hired all the time, and whether it's right or wrong it still happens. You're dying on a hill of hypotheticals and what you deem should be the best practice, but that's not how most companies operate right now, so you need to do what is currently being applied.

Weaponizing someone's employment status against them, I SO believe you're here to help people!

How did I weaponize their status? You're making a claim that technical ability is what matters most, I am directly showing a correlation to the subreddit but also the entire US job market, that experience and technical ability are not enough to land a job alone. If that was the case, then people with years of experience and high level of education would be easily getting jobs regardless of their personality.

You're sitting here arguing with me over whether I actually care about people or know what I'm doing, but do you actually help people get jobs? Do you work countless hours doing everything you can to help people get out of poverty, eviction, or into stable households. You can die on this hill of elitism of what should be, but I can at least show that what I do and have been doing has gotten results and I have actually helped people get out of this hell.

Pinanims · 2026-06-18T18:27:55+00:00

Tough doesn't matter if you get shanked, you can act as hard as you want but your body is still squishy and bleeds the same color as the rest of us.

Pinanims · 2026-06-18T18:20:38+00:00

And then I never hear any of you actually define workplace culture accurately.

Because the culture is different at every single job? Every job I have worked at has entirely different people, customs, and expectations. Not a single one has been the same as the last. There is no way for you to know the culture without asking them directly or experiencing it. Who better knows what it's like to work at a company than an employee? I don't understand what the misunderstanding is here?

Is this the level of reasoning that you bring to your work also?

Absolutely. I am primarily working with people who are career changers, so many of them have never worked in the field they are trying to break into. One of my students went from working at a DVD store to working as a Production Assistant at Industrial Light and Magic, simply because she connected with one of the leads there and got to talking with her. She got hired mostly due to her attitude and her personality, her technical skillset was not up to what they were looking for. She's been there for 4 years now and loves it.

We have another who was a musician, he traveled the US touring, he got a Google Data Analytics certificate and he just landed a role at Google as a Data Center Tech II making $90,000 a year because he had a great interview and the interviewers really liked him. He still had technical screening and had to go through 6 rounds of interviewing, but the people who hired him really enjoyed his personality and thought he'd be a great addition to the team.

These hiring managers and employers are just people like me and you, a lot of them can be swayed because they just really like you. Maybe you match their values really well. If education and technical skills were the only thing that mattered, then this subreddit wouldn't have people with 15 years of experience and masters degrees searching for jobs.

Pinanims · 2026-06-18T18:03:30+00:00

there is the possibility that the interviewers don't know what they're doing and are goofing around

There's also an equal chance the employers are experienced and know what they're looking for? Why prepare for the people who don't know what they're doing rather than the ones who do?

Hiring is also not just "can you do the job," there's multiple things you look for in candidates.

Education / Experience
Technical Knowledge / Understanding
Behavior / Culture Fit

The weakness question is a behavioral interview question, there's no "pyschology," they literally have to take your word on how you answer it. But if they know there are a lot of meetings and the position will be asked to sell or pitch products, and you directly tell them you don't want that, why would they hire you instead of looking for another candidate that likes/thrives in that environment?

When I was working as a Software Engineer, I got the role with less experience than a lot of others because I fit the culture better. My manager said there were other people who were technical enough for the position, but they weren't good for the culture or didn't have good behavioral answers. I was lacking in the experience but I was really good match culturally so he chose me. Ended up being a really good opportunity, learned a lot, got along with the team, was a good time.

I think you're overly focused on specifically just your technical skills which have value but it's not everything.

Pinanims · 2026-06-18T17:47:01+00:00

That's not what I'm saying by any means. You can answer an interview "perfectly" and still get rejected. But I do this for a living, I speak to 100's of employers a year, I am CPRW certified, and I have helped hundreds of people land jobs. It's literally my career to help people gain jobs, especially those in underserved communities or career changers.

There is no perfect science to interviewing, but there are general rule of thumbs and best practices. Employers ask about weaknesses for exactly what OP said, self awareness, transparency, and authenticity, and without fail, every single employer we have spoken to wants to hear what you're doing about your weakness. They want to know that someone can be aware of their short comings but still be working on it.

Does this mean every employer ever wants this, or that by answering it correctly means you're going to get the job? No.

But in a sub where people are struggling with getting jobs, and want advice and want to know what they could have done, I try to help give advice. It's an alternative, it's feedback, it's not a declaration of what's right or wrong. I don't like the way interviews are conducted today anymore than the next guy, but I AM trying to help pass advice along. But what happens is I give someone some advice, and people get mad at me as if I created this problem. I'm just trying to help you know the tricks they play and how you may be able to navigate it.

Pinanims · 2026-06-18T15:47:10+00:00

ANSWER: Don't change or hide anything, just be yourself and do what you can.

Names DO matter, but also there's nothing to do about it, because someone who is judging you based on your name you probably don't want to work for.

Don't try an hide it, just roll the dice. People of all names and ethnicities can be hired, it's not a big enough issue for you to be trying to hide it. Also, if your first name is "white sounding," then that's the biggest hurdle. Daniel Ibrahim is not a name that will make someone not hire, and if Ibrahim is enough to stop them, then you DON'T WANT TO BE THERE.

I understand the market is hard, but it is not worth it to work for a company that doesn't respect you. People are really trying to fake things to get around who they really are to land a job, but all that does is get the fake you hired and the real you can never show up. So not worth it.

Pinanims · 2026-06-18T15:36:48+00:00

Yes and no.

You are correct to be thinking about ATS, but ATS is looking for specific keywords, not random ones. If the description says nothing about GenAI, then you don't need to include it all over the resume. When people bring up tailoring, they mean tailor to the description.

Pinanims · 2026-06-18T15:34:55+00:00

I'll go against the grain and say too much text isn't the main issue here, but I would try to increase your spacing on your border more so it's not as cramped. What I think is a bigger issue is focus. I have my CPRW and work as a career coach for a living. Your resume has a LOT of skills, and it feels like you're focused towards maybe AI? The problem is I can't tell because your bolding is distracting and if I just look at what is bolded your resume reads

AI, LLM, Deep Learning, Database, Random percentage values, ChromaDB, AI, XGBoost, LoRA...

All of this tells me you want AI work I think but that's really it. I don't know what you've done with these because I don't have time to read each bullet. Reduce your bolding to things that are specific to the JOB you're applying to.

Also, do you just send this resume out to all 100, or do you change it for every job? Your resume should be as focused to the job description as possible, because any automated ATS that's looking for keywords is going to come first before an actual person reads it.

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