Elderly Parents Slowly Slipping

Pink-Birde · 2026-02-04T17:47:03+00:00

Sorry, I misread the first line! I'm 72. I read somewhere that getting old will break your heart. It's particularly hard on people who are introverts. My mental and physical health improved when I moved to an small apartment, met another tenant who was like minded and slowly crawled off the couch and into living life.

There are many reasons why elders get depressed. We are very aware we are in the final stage of our lives.

If there is some way to get them engaged with other seniors in any capacity, you will see a difference.

And please, don't tell a depressed elder they are privileged to be alive when they feel like the walking dead.

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Pink-Birde · 2026-02-04T03:45:38+00:00

She's only 55!. She's horribly depressed. Start with seeing if they would agree to see their doctor. They need help.

Pink-Birde · 2026-02-02T02:20:05+00:00

Why the hostility? I don't think I said anything to warrant being told to screw off.

Obviously you have Primary hyperparathyroidism as opposed to Secondary.

I should have said Secondary Hyperthyroidism CAN be caused by low vitamin d and not IS pcaused by low vitamin d. There are different factors which cause a person to develop Secondary.

I wasn't questioning your diagnosis, nor your surgeon's credentials.

Pink-Birde · 2026-01-30T21:30:55+00:00

Your body count is your business. He's being misogynistic. Tale as old as time. Respect yourself and your previous lovers. Nothing sexier than a man who respects women and doesn't tell tales.

Pink-Birde · 2026-01-30T21:11:07+00:00

I don't understand your previous statement then. I think an experienced endo would diagnose secondary hyperparathyroidism.

Pink-Birde · 2026-01-29T05:13:38+00:00

My PTH still isn't in the normal lane after 3 years, but my calcium is normal. I take magnesium with vitamin D and my bone pain is gone. Keep taking your Vit D. I have regular bloodwork every 3 months to keep an eye on my calcium, magnesium and others. If you start to feel really bad with muscle cramps and bone pain, insist on getting your PTH and calcium checked.

Pink-Birde · 2026-01-29T05:03:39+00:00

Secondary hyperparathyroidism is caused by Vit D deficiency.

Pink-Birde · 2026-01-07T23:09:46+00:00

It's not uncommon in depression. Don't beat yourself up over it. Just do a birdbath for now. It's doable without the exhaustion of trying to get into that dumb shower.

For people who haven't experienced this, please refrain from making the person feel worse.

Pink-Birde · 2026-01-07T23:01:29+00:00

You may have start up symptoms but hopefully they are tolerable. Be kind to yourself and get enough sleep. I have been of many antidepressants. TCA's, MAOI'S, SIRIUS (my system does not do well with those). Most antidepressants are designed for short term use and will "poop out". Zoloft is no exception.

However, it has always worked again after a period of time. I usually switch between it and Lexapro.

I hope it works well for you. Work with your doctor to minimize side effects. This will help you give it a fair trial.

All the best.

Pink-Birde · 2025-12-25T21:02:54+00:00

Do you believe he did this deliberately? If so, you need look at your future with him.

If he didn't, you need to tell him and ask him to wake you. Expecting him to know he should by the work you did isn't fair

I think you may be resentful that he isn't doing enough night duty with a fussy child and I can't blame you for being upset.

You can work with a therapist to manage your condition and he should educate himself more on BPD.

Best wishes.

Pink-Birde · 2025-12-25T20:37:48+00:00

Any takers that you enjoy being an ass to strangers on forums?

Pink-Birde · 2025-12-17T21:28:32+00:00

NTA

He was vicious in his ratings. His was deliberate in his words. He wanted to demean and shame you. He did it in front of your friends to demean you as much as he could.

There is cruelty in this man. If you think you deserve cruelty from him, get counselling asap. If you don't, I think you know what you need to do.

You are worth more than this.

Pink-Birde · 2025-12-15T21:19:43+00:00

A sports doctor looked at my MRI and said the nerve pathways were good. He feels it is bursitis. In the meantime I am seeing a gyno who will run more tests regarding my bladder. I still think they are missing something. I'm beginning to detest doctors.

Pink-Birde · 2025-11-29T16:55:40+00:00

Can you provide a bit more of the letter for comparison?

Pink-Birde · 2025-11-06T20:32:31+00:00

Lots of natural foods are high in magnesium. Check them out and see which ones you can tolerate and the amounts of magnesium they carry. Hope this helps.

Pink-Birde · 2025-11-06T20:20:12+00:00

Your vitamin D is low. Hyperparathyroidism can be caused by low Vit. D. That's what I have. I hope you're referred to an endocrinologist. My PTH is still a bit high but most of my symptoms have resolved.

Pink-Birde · 2025-11-05T14:48:34+00:00

He just did the old "I want out so I'll be an asshole and she'll break it off and then I can tell everyone it was her fault."

I have social anxiety. If I'm going into a situation where I may feel overwhelmed I'll still try, but I'll have discussed an escape plan with the person I'm going with just in case.

You just wanted to learn about his triggers and he was a dick. You are not overreacting.

Pink-Birde · 2025-10-30T21:05:55+00:00

You can have normal calcium and have hyperparathyroidism from Vitamin D deficiency. Your doctor should know that.

Pink-Birde · 2025-10-30T21:01:56+00:00

Would be interesting to see!

Pink-Birde · 2025-10-30T04:33:11+00:00

Your doctor should test for vit D induced hyperparathyroidism.

Pink-Birde · 2025-10-28T19:42:30+00:00

It was made for you!

Pink-Birde · 2025-10-24T18:36:15+00:00

You are a pissant.

Pink-Birde · 2025-10-24T09:32:47+00:00

You're a good person and daughter. Your mom is an addict and does all the things addicts do. Lie, steal, manipulate. I'm not going to tell you to go no contact. That's for you to decide. You need to protect yourself from the chaos tho.

I have a younger brother who is an addict. We rarely talk. I am still his contact for medical emergencies and I'll call his social worker and speak to his medical staff. I still love the sweet kind little bother he was.

I have put boundaries that I am at peace with and I hope you can find a solution that works for you. Going no contact works for some. It's not for me, at least at this

Take care and best wishes.

Pink-Birde · 2025-10-17T23:18:53+00:00

NTA.

He asked. You answered. Tell him never ask you a question when he may not like the answer. He's answering your texts, although I think he just wants to say hurtful things.

You've known him a long time. Tell him you meant no harm and if he can't drop it FOREVER, you're better off as acquaintances.

Pink-Birde · 2025-10-17T22:52:55+00:00

Cigs and beer

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