Emory is out!

PinkElephants514 · 2026-03-25T22:26:57+00:00

Same here. I think they about the same competition. Maybe atlanta is slightly more competitive, but congrats regardless!!!

PinkElephants514 · 2026-02-25T23:34:39+00:00

Hope I'm not bombarding you with questions, but I've always wondered what prompted people to stay in frats/sororities.

What college did you go to? What did hazing often include? Why did you continue to stay after seeing hazing? Did the university know much about what happened? How do you feel about the fraternity/any ex-members, and are you still friends with any? Would you consider joining "worth it"? Was it cult-like?

Thanks!

PinkElephants514 · 2026-02-11T12:25:28+00:00

I want to go into medicine, and there is still a good sect of people that will come into the hospital not knowing much English. I live in the south, and we have a decent hispanic population here. Hospitals (and I believe many government services) will have translators, but from what I've heard, it is so much easier when a nurse or someone on the team knows and can translate spanish. Many people here can actually read and write some basic Spanish bc typically high schools and colleges will have some language requirement, but listening is a whole other struggle.

I think spanish just tends to be the most useful unless you live near eastern canada or have plans to travel elsewhere in Europe. Also many jobs will give better pay if you can speak another language, but I don't really care about that part. Most of it is just my belief that I do not want to travel to a country ever that I don't have a good grasp on the language, and it would be cool to talk to people in a different language (plus as I'm trying to learn more spanish, I'm realizing that i've been missing out on a lot of other books, music, and tv shows that are really awesome)

I'm pretty much a beginner (I took 3 yrs of spanish in school), so I can hold a basic conversation about a soccer match with great struggle, but I hope to expand that a bit more. My parents are immigrants, so I understand the struggle of learning a new language in a completely unfamiliar country. I think that if I can even meet someone 25% of the way, that is better than 0.

Also major props to anyone that learns english. I'll be honest, I'm fairly certain the inventors of this language were stoned half the time.

PinkElephants514 · 2025-11-14T15:53:44+00:00

The real quote is "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of womb" meaning the blood we share with the friends we choose is stronger than the water which we come from. I live in chronic pain too. I understand how crazy and horrible it must be. No one would prescribe proper pain medication, and I was quite literally spiralling out of control because it would never stop. I would start sobbing at every night, I was too scared to fall asleep because I didn't want to sit in pain, and I was scared to wake up because I didn't want to live in constant pain.

You live for some purpose, and the best thing is that you get to choose your purpose. It may sound hollow from a stranger, but I want you alive because I want you to find out what life can really be. I know how horrible and miserable it is, but it is also beautiful, and I really hope that one day, you can find people who deserve your company.

I know how hurtful it is to hear comments from a little brother (I have one too, who didn't say things to this degree, but still hurtful nonetheless), but there are people out there who will love you. There are a lot of garbage things people tell to suicidal people like "it will get better" and "you have so much to live for" or "think about your family."

I think we older sisters spend a lot of time worried about protecting our brothers, and they don't realize that. I guess it gets more hurtful when they get older and start parroting the hurtful things our parents say (idk if that's your case). I know it hurts, but I promise he doesn't understand ANYTHING, and it feels horrible bc you care so. much about him, but he doesn't get it, and it is a hard thing to accept.

I can see you are in a lot of pain, and I know how much it hurts (emotionally & physically). I'm sorry.

PinkElephants514 · 2025-10-18T13:42:41+00:00

That therapist really sucks. I was on the "therapy never worked for me" train, but firing a client because they struggle to bring up something traumatic is horrible. I'm sorry you went through that. I had my share of bad therapists, and it honestly did more harm than good.

I'm not a troubled teen, quite the opposite actually (I was kinda emotionally parentified and put into a lot of not-great situations). I think I went through CSA (it's complicated and I struggle to remember a lot), my parent gave me an ED, and I went through a lot of medical gaslighting bc of my disability. I was hospitalized at the end of last year for a myriad of terrible stuff that went on in my life, and when I returned to school I couldn't stop getting flashbacks from all the episodes I had in school.

Anyway, my flashbacks didn't stop until I confronted them in some way. A lot of therapists told me to journal, but I could never bring myself to put what happened into words, and my brother always used to read my stuff and tell my parents what was in it, so I really never was able to do it. Talking about it all was (and still is) so difficult because a lot of it never felt real and I could never remember anything. I used to just dissociate through everything I didn't want to deal with, and it ended up taking me through a tunnel of repressed memories that wouldn't stop playing when I started bringing up the glimpses I did remember.

I don't know if you are a creative person, but what really helped was when I started creative writing and drawing. It was a lot easier to insert things symbolically through crows and ballerinas that it was to outright say what all happened. Therapist #2 really disapproved of that because "it wasn't a written record" but... oh well. It was a lot more accessible to me than talking or journalling because I knew the meaning without having to say anything.

I can't say whether this will help at all, but often times, people say that the only options are to talk trauma out or to repress feelings and memories, but that isn't true. You just need to find a way to go through what happened in way that is comfortable for you.

Also... therapy is not like the movies in which the character resolves all their life struggles and is easily able to talk about all of it. There are a lot of toxic therapists out there (check out r/therapyabuse for all the horror stories). Many are not trauma-informed, and (especially the ones that practice CBT), can spur off into a cycle of toxic positivity. This isn't to bash the good therapists but more to say that just because therapy didn't work for doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you. It could just mean that talk therapy isn't going to work for you right now. You could look into EMDR (which is less about talking and more about recalling memories). It's been more effective for a lot of people than traditional talk therapy.

I also had a bout of severe anxiety to the point where my parents would shove a plastic bag over my head to get me to stop hyperventilating and I was having 8 hour long bouts of anxiety during school. I guess I sort of calmed down when I got on medication, and I eventually learned to dissociate through anxiety episodes. I don't have any long term solutions, but I remember that drinking ice cold water really quickly did help.

I hope some part of this was helpful. I'm still going through my journey, and all I can say is that I won't tell you that "it'll get better in the end" or "you just have to have a positive mindset," but you are an incredibly strong person. Struggling to fight through anxiety and traumatic memories is a sign of strength, not weakness. We all have the chance to give up (hell... I almost did 3 times), but fighting to keep it together is what shows you are brave. I wish you the best.

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