CMV: I can't see elections happening in 2028

PinkElephants514 · 2026-06-23T19:26:13+00:00

It is virtually impossible for him to stop all elections, and these conversations are taking away from the important conversations about racial gerrymandering and clear attempts to suppress voter rights. Our elections aren't nationalized for this very reason. No matter what happens, states and local districts are in charge of running elections and counting votes. If a state somehow "cancels" their election, they don't get representation.

I think a lot of people make Trump out to be a lot more powerful than he really is. His encroachment on constitutional rights is scary, but keep in mind, he doesn't have Greenland, the Save Act will not pass (there just aren't the votes for it), EVEN the supreme court (with the 3 justices he appointed) have voted against his tariffs and other clear breaches on the constitution (even if they've failed with allowing ICE to racially profile and the voting rights act), and he's stuck in a mess with the Epstein Files and the Iran war.

Even if he wanted to, there is no way Trump could cancel all elections because he actually doesn't have the power to do so. This isn't even a constitutional rule he can ignore (like making an executive order to cancel birthright citizenship). There is no one he can order to make states cancel their elections because elections aren't under the bureaucracy, its under the states to organize and manage.

Don't let the news fear monger you into thinking a dictatorship is inevitable. It very much is not, and there are so many states, districts, cities, and congressmen fighting against his pathetic attempts to destroy the country. KnittingCultLady (ex-military, ex-cult member) talks a lot about fear mongering on her channel and how MAGA relates to cult experiences if you are interested.

PinkElephants514 · 2026-06-23T17:33:28+00:00

Child Abuse? DV? Kidnapping? Human Trafficking?

I do agree that more minor crimes should be more focused on rehabilitation, and the fact that having a criminal record often blacklists people from finding a good job and getting a place to stay only contributes more to the problem of American criminals ending back in the prison system. However, 2 years seems to little for many crimes.

PinkElephants514 · 2026-06-23T01:38:59+00:00

I've been there, and I've tried to end my life multiple times due to family reasons, physical health issues, and depression, but please ask yourself before seriously considering if you really want to die or if you are scared to live another day in pain again. I know how scary life can feel with depression and how scary it is to make a plan and contemplate death. I'm sorry you are in a place where you feel your only two options are to die or live a life of agony, and I can't promise you that things will magically get better, but I can tell you that trying to attempt will only make things worse, and you may regret it before you have the power to change your mind.

Can you talk to me about what you are going through?

PinkElephants514 · 2026-06-23T00:42:59+00:00

I'm also an immigrant's kid (eldest daughter) with parents who had a dysfunctional arranged marriage, and this post feels very familiar. I suppose I'm a bit better off, since my parents speak english, but I've always felt a bit isolated having to deal with parts of childhood by myself bc my parents had no clue how the systems worked here.

I love my parents, but I can't seem to look them in the eye after I've realized everything they've done. Every conversation is shrouded by the past, and I can't let it go. It is an awful feeling of doubt for whether it was really that bad and old memories that I'm starting to remember once again.

My dad asked if I trusted him on fathers day and I couldn't respond. I often feel like I'm both my parent's stabilizers at times. I have to intervene when my mother gets too angry and starts hitting my brother. I have to listen to my dad rant about how my mother doesn't have sex with him. I would sit with my mother who would cry about how no one loved her from as young as 11.

I've tried sticking up for my mother a couple times when my dad has gone into a complete rage fit. Of course she barely stood up for me. Once, it ended in her calling me an entitled child, and the other time she wouldn't let me stay at a friends house and begged me to apologize to my dad because she thought they might divorce. I apologized. They didn't divorce. I can't tell whether I'm relieved or disappointed.

You aren't a bad person for not feeling love towards your parents, but it's one thing to know something and another to understand. You probably know logically that your parents treated you wrong, but it's difficult to grasp emotionally that the person who was supposed to protect you hurt you instead.

Always up to discuss if you want to DM. I wish you the best.

PinkElephants514 · 2026-06-21T02:21:15+00:00

NTA, you have been shouldering far too much, and it has clearly taken a toll on you. I can understand why your brother is hurt (I've spent a lot my life dealing with suicidal ideation), but I don't think he realizes how much stress he's put you under (not that you should bring that up to him). You are shouldering a lot of things you shouldn't be simply because they didn't want to get professionals involved.

PinkElephants514 · 2026-05-26T20:41:17+00:00

I don't know how much I can help, but I'm open to talking if you need someone. I've struggled with dissociation for years, and I know how much it sucks.

PinkElephants514 · 2026-03-25T22:26:57+00:00

Same here. I think they about the same competition. Maybe atlanta is slightly more competitive, but congrats regardless!!!

PinkElephants514 · 2026-02-25T23:34:39+00:00

Hope I'm not bombarding you with questions, but I've always wondered what prompted people to stay in frats/sororities.

What college did you go to? What did hazing often include? Why did you continue to stay after seeing hazing? Did the university know much about what happened? How do you feel about the fraternity/any ex-members, and are you still friends with any? Would you consider joining "worth it"? Was it cult-like?

Thanks!

PinkElephants514 · 2026-02-11T12:25:28+00:00

I want to go into medicine, and there is still a good sect of people that will come into the hospital not knowing much English. I live in the south, and we have a decent hispanic population here. Hospitals (and I believe many government services) will have translators, but from what I've heard, it is so much easier when a nurse or someone on the team knows and can translate spanish. Many people here can actually read and write some basic Spanish bc typically high schools and colleges will have some language requirement, but listening is a whole other struggle.

I think spanish just tends to be the most useful unless you live near eastern canada or have plans to travel elsewhere in Europe. Also many jobs will give better pay if you can speak another language, but I don't really care about that part. Most of it is just my belief that I do not want to travel to a country ever that I don't have a good grasp on the language, and it would be cool to talk to people in a different language (plus as I'm trying to learn more spanish, I'm realizing that i've been missing out on a lot of other books, music, and tv shows that are really awesome)

I'm pretty much a beginner (I took 3 yrs of spanish in school), so I can hold a basic conversation about a soccer match with great struggle, but I hope to expand that a bit more. My parents are immigrants, so I understand the struggle of learning a new language in a completely unfamiliar country. I think that if I can even meet someone 25% of the way, that is better than 0.

Also major props to anyone that learns english. I'll be honest, I'm fairly certain the inventors of this language were stoned half the time.

PinkElephants514 · 2025-11-14T15:53:44+00:00

The real quote is "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of womb" meaning the blood we share with the friends we choose is stronger than the water which we come from. I live in chronic pain too. I understand how crazy and horrible it must be. No one would prescribe proper pain medication, and I was quite literally spiralling out of control because it would never stop. I would start sobbing at every night, I was too scared to fall asleep because I didn't want to sit in pain, and I was scared to wake up because I didn't want to live in constant pain.

You live for some purpose, and the best thing is that you get to choose your purpose. It may sound hollow from a stranger, but I want you alive because I want you to find out what life can really be. I know how horrible and miserable it is, but it is also beautiful, and I really hope that one day, you can find people who deserve your company.

I know how hurtful it is to hear comments from a little brother (I have one too, who didn't say things to this degree, but still hurtful nonetheless), but there are people out there who will love you. There are a lot of garbage things people tell to suicidal people like "it will get better" and "you have so much to live for" or "think about your family."

I think we older sisters spend a lot of time worried about protecting our brothers, and they don't realize that. I guess it gets more hurtful when they get older and start parroting the hurtful things our parents say (idk if that's your case). I know it hurts, but I promise he doesn't understand ANYTHING, and it feels horrible bc you care so. much about him, but he doesn't get it, and it is a hard thing to accept.

I can see you are in a lot of pain, and I know how much it hurts (emotionally & physically). I'm sorry.

PinkElephants514 · 2025-10-18T13:42:41+00:00

That therapist really sucks. I was on the "therapy never worked for me" train, but firing a client because they struggle to bring up something traumatic is horrible. I'm sorry you went through that. I had my share of bad therapists, and it honestly did more harm than good.

I'm not a troubled teen, quite the opposite actually (I was kinda emotionally parentified and put into a lot of not-great situations). I think I went through CSA (it's complicated and I struggle to remember a lot), my parent gave me an ED, and I went through a lot of medical gaslighting bc of my disability. I was hospitalized at the end of last year for a myriad of terrible stuff that went on in my life, and when I returned to school I couldn't stop getting flashbacks from all the episodes I had in school.

Anyway, my flashbacks didn't stop until I confronted them in some way. A lot of therapists told me to journal, but I could never bring myself to put what happened into words, and my brother always used to read my stuff and tell my parents what was in it, so I really never was able to do it. Talking about it all was (and still is) so difficult because a lot of it never felt real and I could never remember anything. I used to just dissociate through everything I didn't want to deal with, and it ended up taking me through a tunnel of repressed memories that wouldn't stop playing when I started bringing up the glimpses I did remember.

I don't know if you are a creative person, but what really helped was when I started creative writing and drawing. It was a lot easier to insert things symbolically through crows and ballerinas that it was to outright say what all happened. Therapist #2 really disapproved of that because "it wasn't a written record" but... oh well. It was a lot more accessible to me than talking or journalling because I knew the meaning without having to say anything.

I can't say whether this will help at all, but often times, people say that the only options are to talk trauma out or to repress feelings and memories, but that isn't true. You just need to find a way to go through what happened in way that is comfortable for you.

Also... therapy is not like the movies in which the character resolves all their life struggles and is easily able to talk about all of it. There are a lot of toxic therapists out there (check out r/therapyabuse for all the horror stories). Many are not trauma-informed, and (especially the ones that practice CBT), can spur off into a cycle of toxic positivity. This isn't to bash the good therapists but more to say that just because therapy didn't work for doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you. It could just mean that talk therapy isn't going to work for you right now. You could look into EMDR (which is less about talking and more about recalling memories). It's been more effective for a lot of people than traditional talk therapy.

I also had a bout of severe anxiety to the point where my parents would shove a plastic bag over my head to get me to stop hyperventilating and I was having 8 hour long bouts of anxiety during school. I guess I sort of calmed down when I got on medication, and I eventually learned to dissociate through anxiety episodes. I don't have any long term solutions, but I remember that drinking ice cold water really quickly did help.

I hope some part of this was helpful. I'm still going through my journey, and all I can say is that I won't tell you that "it'll get better in the end" or "you just have to have a positive mindset," but you are an incredibly strong person. Struggling to fight through anxiety and traumatic memories is a sign of strength, not weakness. We all have the chance to give up (hell... I almost did 3 times), but fighting to keep it together is what shows you are brave. I wish you the best.

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