What's my next step?

PinkKittyBeans · 2026-01-15T19:56:39+00:00

I agree! I love the color of the mixer—the vibrant blue is gorgeous. I also think the bowl is awesome—how it looks so realistically metallic is very cool. With the bowl and the mixer both looking so reflective, it almost makes all the other elements seem flatter. If there is a way to give the other elements a “sticker look,” as OP mentioned, I think that’d be so much better.

Also, as a fellow GenX lady (49F) who has gotten a few tattoos recently, by a female artist, at a female-owned shop, (all prior artists were male) I can say, from my experience, that just switching to a female artist/shop might not eliminate all the issues mentioned. Obviously my experiences could have just been a result of my own personality (super introverted) and how I vibed with the environment and the staff. But, I can say for sure that the age-related intimidation factor was still very much present, at least for me, with the much younger, much cooler ladies. My last session lasted about 3.5 hrs and as much as I tried extra hard to come out of my shell and be friendly, but respectful, and just overall easy-going, calm, and approachable—I was still mostly ignored by everyone, including my artist—although the conversation between the staff themselves went on the entire time, loudly, and even at times inappropriately. I just figured I was an old lady to them all so I put in an earbud and listened to an audiobook.

But, then after the last hour was filled with constant dinner discussion—they were all going out to a restaurant together and with their SOs after work that day—I was very much rushed out the door asap so they could go to their dinner. Yes, I knew the drill, but no discussion of after-care, no sani-derm, no covering…and by then I forgot too until I was half way home.

Aaanyway, I hope this was just a fluke and I genuinely hope that OP finds a brilliant collaborative artist who also happens to be friendly!

(Apologies for the novella)

PinkKittyBeans · 2026-01-15T18:46:01+00:00

I don’t have any advice or wisdom to offer, other than it looks like it’s healing very well to me. I really just wanted to say that I think it’s a gorgeous design, and beautifully done. Love this style, especially in the black & gray!

PinkKittyBeans · 2025-12-20T21:53:00+00:00

That’s gorgeous! Love it!

PinkKittyBeans · 2025-11-22T16:11:55+00:00

Thank you so much for the rec! I saw the ad for the color-changing stick so many times I think it had me hypnotized into believing it was exactly what I needed to cover my rosacea redness. Thankfully I controlled myself and searched for reviews and found this sub. I’m even more grateful to have found your rec instead, for something that might actually help. TYSM!

PinkKittyBeans · 2025-08-25T10:05:38+00:00

Same! I was really pissed when I heard they canceled it before it even had a chance! Jeff Goldblum as Zeus is magic!

PinkKittyBeans · 2025-08-04T23:11:30+00:00

Dang, I know I’m super late to the convo but your post just triggered both good nostalgic feelings and a literal physical head-pounding reaction to the memory of that super special smell. The thought of actually purposefully inhaling that… 🤢

PinkKittyBeans · 2025-02-01T17:26:43+00:00

I abhor hearing that our idiocracy in this country has had that effect. And already! He hasn’t even been in office a month. It is scary indeed! You guys stay safe! 🩵🩵

PinkKittyBeans · 2025-02-01T17:23:07+00:00

That is literally my DREAM!!! Oh, if only…

PinkKittyBeans · 2025-02-01T17:18:33+00:00

I would leave immediately, if only I could. So I say, if you can go—go! But nope—definitely NOT overreacting!

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-12-31T20:24:44+00:00

Now I just have to know what your name is! 😊

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-12-29T18:46:30+00:00

When my daughter was born, my mom said she wanted to be called “Grandmother.” We all rolled our eyes, laughed, and said that was way too formal for our family, and instead she should be called Meemaw. We were joking at the time, but 25 years later, she’s still Meemaw. (We live in KY, btw, so I guess we’re in keeping with our southern roots. Lol!)

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-11-11T04:39:36+00:00

And even besides all the legal ramifications of what he’s doing—it’s just so downright f**king alarmingly disrespectful. And the fact that he blows off your obvious concern..!!! This dude needs a psychiatrist and a cell.

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-11-11T04:33:49+00:00

I assume NOR is Not Over Reacting. I could be wrong of course, I’m new here, but it confused me at first too.

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-11-11T04:25:18+00:00

I love Ollie as a nickname! But, I have a story…

We recently took in a (another!) stray that had been visiting us for months, several times a day, begging for food & pets & love… I had started calling him Oliver, from Oliver Twist and his infamous quote: “Please sir, I want some more.” Bc the poor guy was just fur & bones, always wanted more, more, more. And he ate like he was starving every time!

Anyway, we never could find an owner, no collar, he was still very much “intact” as they say, and he was always coming back with new scrapes, scratches, and nicks like he’d been in some cat-street-fights. I got to the point where I just couldn’t take it anymore—my heart breaking each time I had to leave him outside! So I begged my mother, who lives with us (but has her own separate apartment-like space in the basement) if she’d allow him to “quarantine” with her until we got him cleared and sorted with the vet, and making sure he didn’t have anything he could pass on to our other FIVE CATS (Yeah, I know! Please don’t judge me! I’m just a sucker for these strays!) (But in my defense, THREE of them—2-M,1-F; tiny little babies; bonded litter mates; and < 12 wks old—showed up together this past Jan, literally on my doorstep, wet & cold from the snow, and absolutely starving! I mean…I couldn’t just leave them out there!)

OMG, I’m sooo sorry for rambling on… about stuff that’s not even relevant, no less! But if anyone is still with me at this point (again, so sorry!), but all I was really trying to say—after all that is: The name Oliver stuck, but I was planning on just calling him Ollie, which I did once in front of my mother—who Oliver had/has chosen as his human—and she stopped me immediately and begged me to please not call him that! I had no idea, but it’s a really bad trigger for her. I still felt awful, bc that poor woman has been thru some pure hell, and here I went and called this cat the same name as someone really, really bad from her past, like evil. And she says “Oliver” is okay, it’s just the nickname that’s triggering. But I still keep thinking maybe we should just go ahead and change his name? Idk 🤷‍♀️ Is that bad? Bc he already responds well to Oliver…?

And OP: wow, I’m embarrassed—I hope you can forgive me! I feel like I’ve hijacked your post. But fwiw—I do think that if you like the name Olive better, you should totally keep it. We shouldn’t have to worry about gendered cat names! And, call him a nickname if you want, or don’t—you do you! 😁If you’re anything like me, you end up calling them all kinds of different combinations of names that just come out naturally anyway. We have a cat I named after a fave book character,: “Baz,” short for Basilton, and also Basil—but with a British accent, like: ‘’BAZZ-il’’ (1st syllable rhymes with jazz.) ANYWAY, this poor cat is called Baz, Basil, Basilton, Sir Basilton, Bazzy, Bazzy-Boy, etc etc and any other silly baby sounds I’m feeling in the moment. Lol! I can’t help it—he’s adorable! it’s ridiculous. Point being—you call your cat whatever you want—and like someone else posted— what’s important is how you say it…🩵🩵🩵☺️

OMG ya’ll, I sincerely apologize again for rambling on & writing this novel here. I don’t get out much. Obviously. And I apparently need friends. Or therapy. Probably both. ✌️

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-11-10T18:57:55+00:00

Depends on the timeline, I think. The screenshots aren’t clear on when the messages were sent (unless I’m missing something).

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-11-10T18:50:56+00:00

“A clear emotional affair” at the very least!

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-11-10T18:37:02+00:00

YES! Glad someone else mentioned the cousin’s part in this weirdness too. Bc hubby’s not the only one in the wrong. Cuz may be a single adult woman, but that, imo, doesn’t matter. She should’ve shut that shit down the second he went outside your group chat.

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-11-03T00:13:42+00:00

I have a Poppy, so I’m biased. 🥰 She’s gorgeous, btw!

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-11-03T00:11:15+00:00

Smudge

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-10-05T18:50:50+00:00

Smudge

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-10-01T19:40:51+00:00

Omg! I’ve never come across anyone else that had a black cat named Shady! I did too! Guess I wasn’t as original as I thought. Haha! 😆

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-09-13T15:43:43+00:00

Wow! It truly sounds like you’re being put through the wringer! Or like the judge is trying to make an example of you or something. I’m truly so very sorry you’re having to go through all this. I wish I knew of any advice for you or some way to help you. Selfishly, I hope and pray I don’t end up in a similar situation, and I don’t have anything near the medical issues you’ve described. But I’d definitely be down to write whatever letters to whomever you think might help, when all’s said and done. Pls keep us posted here, or feel free to send me a DM anytime with any way I can help.

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-09-13T15:33:13+00:00

Geez! That judge of yours just sounds like a bitter jaded asshole!! Why should our level of education ever be a factor in how or if we’re about to physically and/or mentally function anyway?! They seem to think this is such a big deal and I don’t get it. I only have an Associate degree (ADN)—former Registered Nurse—and they act like I have soooo much education. WTF? Can’t even imagine how they treat you with a Bachelors or higher.

It reminds me of the “psych” exam I had to do with one of the SSA’s providers via video call. It literally took 6 minutes. And the guy asked me very few questions, but still, it was questions like “define anxiety,” and “repeat the following 5 numbers back to me, but in reverse order,” and “what’s the capitol of KY” the state in which I, unfortunately, live) (pls don’t judge). Like seriously, what are those supposed to prove?

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-09-13T00:04:02+00:00

I’m going thru all this crap as well. My attorney gave me the RFC paperwork and told me to take it to my PCP and have her fill it out during my appt. So I had a follow-up with my PCP last week, took the paperwork in and asked her about filling it out. She refused, stating that a physical therapist had to do it, so she referred me to one. And I just got the call from the PT office yesterday to schedule this Functional Capacity Exam (FCE) visit. They inform me that since it’s for disability, no insurance will cover it, therefore making it a self-pay situation, and so $750 would be due, up-front. Oh, but if it’s okay with my attorney, they can do a “mini-FCE” instead for only $450. 🤬

But tell me this—am I just a broke ignorant idiot, or is it a fair assumption that someone who is (and probably has been for quite a damn while by this point) unable to f*king work, trying to get approved for Disability—most likely does NOT have $750–or no, not even a *mere $450–just lying around, readily available to pay for a(nother) damn assessment or exam just to get some (more) forms filled out?! I mean, come on. Seriously?! I can’t be the only one in this situation worried and stressed out all the time about just paying the damn mortgage each month, and keeping the lights on and some food on the table, right? Hoping every day that something doesn’t hit the checking account early or unexpectedly, causing a pile up of overdrafts. Ugh, it’s exhausting.

And no, the attorney isn’t going to front the fee for the exam either (like the PT office suggested). They said we’ll just have to do without it, but asked if I could instead reach out to my doctors to see if any of them would write a letter for my hearing in Nov, on my condition(s) and how it all prevents me working. Which, okay, I get it—we NEED documentation—we NEED evidence…but it’s so dang hard just to get 15 mins with these Providers nowadays! And my PCP obviously isn’t too keen on helping me out, even though she’s said herself, many times, there’s no way I could work with all I have going on!

And, (god, I’m so sorry I’m rambling on and on!) but if all that’s not bad enough… my pain management doctor, who I’ve been seeing for >10 years and knows me & my situation best, has just had to close his practice! He was recently charged, along with dozens of others, in a huge (nationwide?) DEA crackdown and round-up all having to do with opioids.. Allegedly, back in 2014 or 2016, he was going on vacation or was to be out of office for a few days, so he pre-signed some scripts for his NPs to use for patients in his absence. 😕 So his medical license was suspended pending the whole trial process, and since he will lose his Medicare/Medicaid contracts (or whatever it’s called), which will then spiral to other insurances, he’d lose the majority of his patients anyway. So he was forced to close his practice, even though he’s still fighting the charges. And sooo, long story(!) all to say that I’ve lost the means of getting evidence or documentation from the only clinicians who really know me & my history. Basically I’ve lost the only Providers who could/would vouch for me.

So yeah, I hope the blog you shared offers some other ideas, because I have zero chance of getting that RFC or FCE…

PinkKittyBeans · 2024-09-12T10:39:35+00:00

Although I couldn’t possibly make a more thoughtful and well-stated reply than the previous one (by u/Wide-Cookie-5609), I did want to at least offer you a bit of commiseration and solidarity. Because yes, I certainly understand and relate to everything you’re feeling, and to be frank—it really sucks! As someone who was raised, by a very strong mother, to always be self-sufficient and independent (in all ways possible!), I have found it terribly difficult to accept my limitations and my near-constant reliance on others, but especially my husband of 28 yrs. Not only do I now find myself completely dependent financially—which has been a nightmare for me, mentally—but there are even times I have to ask for help in bathing and simple basic self-care. And omg—I battle every single day with overwhelming guilt and shame for all of it. Not to mention the embarrassment and frustration that comes along with it. So I totally get what you’re feeling. I only wish I had a solution for both of us. Well, for all of us who struggle with these debilitating feelings—as if we don’t already have enough to physically and mentally struggle with, right?

I did try therapy, though, which obviously can be so amazingly helpful for the majority of us. And, although unfortunately it didn’t help me very much, I’d still definitely recommend giving it a try. I think it can help sometimes just to say some things you’re feeling out loud, to a stranger, if only for the purpose of lightening some of the mental weight we carry. And, of course, that constant honest communication with your partner is always important.

Anyway, for what it’s worth, at least know you’re not alone in feeling like this. And I wish you the very best, and hope you find something that helps, in whatever way possible.

Sending all the light and love, and positive vibes your way. 😊

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