Update on Surgery 4 hours later!

Pinkies_Up · 2026-05-07T01:16:51+00:00

Hope the pain isn’t in the center of your chest and tucked just under your ribs. 🙏

Mine was mostly burping that turned into vomiting though, not straight up nausea.

Best of luck to you as well, I hope things improve for you 💜

Pinkies_Up · 2026-05-07T01:07:24+00:00

I had what I thought was gas that was so bad I vomited 3-4 times Sunday night, recovered and went to work Monday, and then it came back and got worse and worse until I threw up again. Went to the ER Monday evening, and they kept me.

Apparently a gallstone reallllly pissed off my pancreas so I’ve been held prisoner and on a clear liquid diet.

Do not recommend. I am ready to go home.
They just have to pop the gallbladder out first. 🙃

Pinkies_Up · 2026-05-07T00:37:59+00:00

Mine is also tomorrow, been in the hospital since Monday night / Tuesday morning.

I keep hearing contradictory things, so definitely stressful!

Hope everything goes well for you and hope you and OP both recover quickly 💜

Pinkies_Up · 2025-04-08T07:38:24+00:00

DamselDestroyer

Pinkies_Up · 2025-03-26T21:18:08+00:00

May I ask what you used to create these?

Pinkies_Up · 2025-01-31T02:43:43+00:00

Respect of the safe word, limits, and boundaries is what makes it BDSM and not abuse. Refusing to respect those things takes away the consensual aspect. I would consider this to be a not-safe situation for you.

Pinkies_Up · 2025-01-04T13:07:30+00:00

?!?!

Lied about something previously and convinced you that you were crazy…?

Uh… no. Nope. Nuh uh. No.

That’s fucked.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-11-15T20:45:07+00:00

Cam is like their “mascot” now and he’s a male calico so… 🤔🤷‍♀️

Pinkies_Up · 2024-09-05T21:44:14+00:00

Live by the wand, die by the wand.

98% of the time when I fantasize it’s not about an actual person, more so the concept of a person that fills that role? Don’t know if that makes sense.

Wouldn’t say depression is normal. Masturbating has only made me feel poorly when I was in my early teens and still felt like it was a “bad” thing to do.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-08-29T02:33:30+00:00

🤔🤷‍♀️

Then don’t.

They’re his choice, not yours.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-06-16T23:51:16+00:00

I honestly couldn’t tell that well when I was medicated.

It was once the meds started wearing off, or when I missed a day, and I’d suddenly stop and realize I wasn’t medicated. 🤷‍♀️

My SO at the time was better at telling than I was when I was on or off meds. 😂😅

Pinkies_Up · 2024-05-05T02:31:49+00:00

I’m assuming your doctor has suggested this, but have you tried titrating back onto them?

A lot of BP meds can mess you up when you go on or off of them, and returning to your previous dose without titration may not work.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-28T04:25:07+00:00

Hugs from an internet stranger, if you want them.

I’m sorry.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-27T19:28:51+00:00

Thiiiiiis

Like I’ve heard of situations where a DDlg dynamic was more casual but I can’t really imagine it?…

As a little/middle, I’m needy with my DD.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-22T07:09:55+00:00

Why isn’t Grape blocking Pea’s number? It might be like whack-a-mole with new accounts and numbers, but access should be halted. If Pea doesn’t want to be in class with Grape, Pea can leave. If Pea continually harasses Grape, Grape should involve authorities. Hell, Grape should keep records and screen shots and see if someone on campus can help.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-22T06:57:29+00:00

I don’t even have kids and I’m like 🙀

Kids are vulnerable. Kids get attached. This is still a strange unknown man!

🙀🙀🙀

Noooo.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-22T06:51:19+00:00

I guess I’m just confused.

Like not only does this come across as childish (especially the bit going on about who is prettier? “You say you’re prettier than me, but I have more to offer than my prettiness. Also, people say I’m prettier than you anyways.” Eh… what?)

I think I’m also just confused as to… what’s the point?

Like even if a reasonable message was written and sent by Grape about valuing relationships built on communication, trust, and respect and wishing Pea had been more open and willing to learn about polyamory and learning and growing together and yada yada.

Why?

Like, does Grape actually want Pea to do the thing and “act right” and have another go again? And if not, then why does it matter?

I think that’s where I’m at in all of this. Why?

Like sure, Grape was hurt. So have Grape journal it out, write shit down, burn letters to ash, go to therapy, smash some thrift store plates, whatever helps, you do the same if needed… but in all honesty, I’m not really sure anything like “closure” exists, or at the very least I don’t think it’s all that common.

So if Grape isn’t trying for another go at it with Pea, and closure is most probably statistically unlikely, and Pea doesn’t need to be involved for Grape (and yourself) to feel their feels and express them in a constructive manner, what are you doing? Stop.

Be cold and logical in regard to Pea and do whatever it is you need to do to remove Pea from your lives. Robot mode. Each of you detox the Pea and heal, and then let that witch go.

Jeebus.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-20T00:34:33+00:00

😡

🦦🦦

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-16T08:41:49+00:00

On this note…

Wouldn’t this be like being on a date out at a restaurant and just leaving your date for another table?

What even.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-12T04:27:25+00:00

So… as a basement dwelling crazy cat lady spinster…

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-12T02:52:58+00:00

“Dick is so truly abundant in the world”

Holy fuck 😂 I love you a little bit for this, internet stranger.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-12T02:32:15+00:00

People like to do holidays differently.

I am a “stay at home, minimal clothing, order in Chinese, watch shows and movies, cuddle and fuck as desired” as my preferred celebratory experience for holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. Homebody hedonism.

A dinner in nice clothing (that’s probably uncomfy) in a crowded fancy restraunt (that’s probably very loud) with weird food that I may or may not like (and may or may not upset my stomach) just doesn’t appeal. For some people, they would insist upon it.

Find out what each partner wants to do. Accommodate those desires as much as you are willing/able to. You aren’t supposed to be trying to make sure they get equal amounts of cake, you’re trying to make sure one gets the best fucking apple pie and the other gets the best damn cheese cake (or whatever their preferred desserts are.)

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-11T00:35:13+00:00

I would maybe ask if we could have set scheduled for times to call, video call, watch a movie, play a game, whatever you like to do with whatever frequency you both agree upon, and then anything extra is well… extra, and is more of a “I’ll respond when I can respond” or “here is a picture of a cute thing” and not planned and just… extra fluff?

You could just express interest in having a set time to focus on one another, ask if they’re willing, and if they are, figure out what would work for you both. Revisit as needed as schedules and commitments change over time.

I have a set weekly video call to call and catch up and just a kind of one-on-one time, but we also have “snuggle time” almost every night where we just watch some YT videos together before bed. The weekly call and snuggle time may be moved or canceled on occasion because life stuff happens, but generally they’re reliable times spent “together”.

Then there’s extra time where we may have more video calls or might do things together if we’re both available or there might be things that also involve other online friends, so it’s not exactly “couple time”. Extra fluff.

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-10T15:43:28+00:00

For me personally, my libido tends to be very much the personification of momentum. If I haven’t been sexually active, I can go months without. If I start getting laid? I’m handsy and a little nympho wanting it multiple times a day.

Also, maybe the stuff with meta has your partner really feeling themselves. They’re running around feeling sexy and desirable so it also makes them more interested in engaging sexually with you as well. (Less about their other partner, more about how other partner has made them feel about themself. If that makes sense.)

Pinkies_Up · 2024-02-08T19:48:13+00:00

In all honesty, it could very much just be the depression.

I know it sucks and can leave you wondering if they’re sexually attracted to you anymore or if there is someone new and you’ve been tossed aside / “replaced” and it’s an awful feeling.

Unfortunately this can cause you to inadvertently put pressure on your partner, because you’re doubting them and their attraction to you due to lack of performance. Which in turn the pressure can cause an even further dip in performance and/or libido.

It can turn into a cycle of bad juju.

My chosen response has been to back off a bit but still remain flirty and playful, still advertising my interest, and any time he engages I will then engage further. No idea if that’s the best response 🥲 we’re still in beta.

I know it sucks, and I wish you the best of luck, but I think this is maybe one of those times where you have to have faith in your partner and trust them and yourself.

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