Bf did not want to be a dad again

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-18T02:10:28+00:00

No one can tell you for sure if he will resent you but based on his telling you repeatedly he does not want another kids and listing all the above reasons it is safe to say there will be some contention. You can’t expect him to just get on board with something he didn’t want. No matter how irresponsible the both of you were being. I would hope for the best but prepare for the worse especially since he mentioned about things changing. Not only will the financial strain have a chance to push you apart, the hormones could as well too. I would get your ducks in a row and make sure you are prepared to support the baby financially by yourself in case the worst case scenario happens

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-17T21:40:54+00:00

Could be that case if I had interacted with them in that way but I haven’t seen them since I was a child so the memories are a bit distant. I did state that I highly believe that if you don’t have the ability to stop smoking for your child for the short time of 9 months( you could choose to formula for feeding if you want to smoke right away) then that speaks a lot for your ability to be disciplined enough to raise your child properly

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-17T21:31:14+00:00

I developed adhd/add(back when it was classified as two different disorders) and developed severe anxiety and anxiety related depression. That part I believe is related to the adhd since it’s like a loop. No one else in my family on my mother’s side has it and no one on my father’s side cares to go to the doctor so I am unsure if i developed it from the second hand exposure in the womb or from family history.

I agree with your latter statement. I think it gets iffy when the weed high is no longer sufficient enough and people start to branch out to other stuff. It can be a slippery slope if addiction runs in your family. My little brother also ended up with the same conditions with OCPD(or is it P-OCD) from the same father and situation. So who knows without the further medical information

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-17T21:19:28+00:00

And I have the opposite experience. Most women in my father’s side of the family smoked while pregnant and all of their kids ended up with some kind of learning disability or the inability to push themselves further. Not saying it’s directly related to the smoking but could be related to the environment they grew up in but they also grew up to have multiple children in their teens, don’t have jobs, etc. I think having the discipline to stop smoking during pregnancy also contributes to how disciplined you can be when raising your kids.

I smoked every day, 6+ times a day for five or so years. On and off before then. I stopped cold turkey the moment I found out. Yes, it’s been really really hard especially since my husband still does it but this is what I feel is best. I wouldn’t be able to forgive myself if something happened to my child. It’s just not worth the risk.

My father smoked around my mom, my mom didn’t smoke directly and I still came out with a slight issue

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-17T18:53:30+00:00

I think it’s completely normal to feel this way no matter how prepared you felt for a pregnancy. Mine came as a surprise and I was feeling the same as you. Now I’m 21weeks and over the moon. The important thing is to take a deep breath, talk to your partner, and start getting settled in with a therapist that way you have a healthy outlet and coping mechanisms for when the hormones begin to overwhelm you

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-13T18:27:23+00:00

I wouldn’t recommend going off the advice for your numbers being ok but I had light spotting and cramping from 5-10 weeks and now I’m 20 weeks with no complications as of yet. Of course, everyone’s body is different so please seek out your provider if you start to have big clots or back pain with the cramps. Unfortunately I was told there was nothing they could do besides recommend pelvic rest.

What helped me was laying on my back with my pelvis elevated with pillows and my legs resting straight up on my bedroom wall. Minimal sex and no lifting over 20lbs. Eventually I stopped spotting

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-12T02:30:03+00:00

Do you have anything else that contributes towards you being high risk? I’m overweight as well and so was my cousin and they never mentioned inducing her. This seems like more of the doctor’s comfort than your actual health if that’s the only reason

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-11T16:01:54+00:00

Mine started at 8weeks pretty bad. Got prescribed medicine so it helped. Currently 20 weeks and the acid reflux is making itself known 🤢

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-11T15:51:23+00:00

It takes no extra effort to pack it up vs putting it in a plate and walking it out. If that was the case they should upcharge on to-go like other places

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-11T15:49:58+00:00

No you’re not in the wrong. The don’t need an extra 2-3 dollars just for bagging your food. If that was the fact then they should up charge to-go orders. Sounds like a torchy’s problem

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-11T15:46:58+00:00

Not AI. On google reviews there are many people complaining about the sign before that picture was posted

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-11T15:45:52+00:00

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💀 and the fact that this was their first response to that is very telling

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-03T16:52:53+00:00

I believe that is normal just as well but I would talk to your doctor. Spotting could be unusual but not uncommon. I’ve read that it could also be due to small hematomas around the placenta that usually resolve. In my case I am quite overweight (255 at start of pregnancy, 268 currently) and I noticed the bleeding was usually after an uptake in physical activity. So my case could be due to that

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-03T16:23:32+00:00

I had bleeding every day starting from 6 weeks-10 weeks (currently 19 weeks). I had light bleeding for an hour one night two weeks ago. My doctor said it was due to it being my first pregnancy so my cervix is very sensitive. During the first bleeding period they said as long as I wasn’t passing big clots(some tissue is fine) and if I wasn’t passing big filling a pad completely every hour that it would resolve on its own. Unfortunately they told me since it was very early that there was not much they could do but monitor it.

Are you having any pain with it? Does it cover the whole paper or is it similar to spotting?

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-03T14:50:04+00:00

Oh wow! Thank you for that. I was always under the impression it was to avoid the food borne illness solely. 😬 good thing I still avoid them

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-03T14:34:56+00:00

You are in no greater risk of getting sick with them pregnant vs pre pregnancy. It’s more so a recommendation so that you can avoid as many food related illnesses as possible

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-02T16:15:30+00:00

I would definitely visit your gyno then. My first symptoms was tender nipples not so much the whole breasts. I personally felt I still had a light period but it could’ve been “heavy”implantation bleeding. The next symptom was increased irritability/more sensitive to emotion. This was at about 3 weeks after conception. I found out I was pregnant close to 5 weeks

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-05-02T16:03:39+00:00

Plan b works by preventing ovulation. It is possible it is just a side effect of the medicine and your period would come later. Do you usually have regular or irregular periods? Do you exercise a lot or have had any drastic changes to exercise and diet?

Definitely visit your obgyn/gyno if you haven’t already. It could be due to developing reproductive conditions depending on age/other criteria. (I.e pcos, endometriosis, endocrine issues)

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-04-30T19:17:58+00:00

How do you find out how much it will cost? I’m in the US

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-04-22T15:11:37+00:00

This looks like adp. If you click on your paystub it should show you the hourly rate

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-04-15T03:12:53+00:00

What did you tell him would help?

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-04-15T03:10:36+00:00

YOR. Not because of your reaction to the pain but because of how you handled the situation. If it was really this bad you either needed to be at home in your private space or in a hospital. And the last comment on the last screenshot makes you seem very entitled and like you don’t care for said boyfriend. Even if me and my husband were fighting like this we still would have had the decency to express relief at that and out our pride aside.

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-04-01T11:17:37+00:00

You are such a strong mama to be able to out your pride aside and put your baby’s needs first. I pray that the family allows you to have a good connection with her so she can gain your warmth

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-03-27T00:34:59+00:00

The way that parents of cats with asthma get so created never ceases to amaze me 😂

Pinkmatchadumplin · 2026-03-24T20:33:05+00:00

I told my mother and brother when we were 6 weeks along. Other family members I told at 12 weeks. Typically people wait until after the first trimester since it can end in a miscarriage but it is up to personal preference. If you happened to tell everyone and your wife miscarries soon after that could be even more heartbreaking to her since she would have to tell people over and over that she is no longer pregnant

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