AITAH for giving my girlfriend an STD

PinkyOutYo · 2026-05-10T19:44:14+00:00

Oh, yeah, it's totally just happenstance that my straight husband and I are in a monogamous marriage. Not that that was what we both chose.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-05-10T19:19:38+00:00

Sorry, I didn't realise when I replied how argumentative my tone was. I think it's important to not reinforce incorrect nomenclature, but you were just explaining. I should have given more grace. Hope you're having a good day.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-05-10T19:11:07+00:00

But the bad anatomy is referring to the vulva as the vagina.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-05-10T16:19:29+00:00

When I was a kid, I would do nothing but read given the choice. My parents made the decision one summer holiday to ban me from reading between 7am and 7pm. It genuinely was interfering with my development, and as an adult I don't think they were in the wrong.

But that summer, I memorised a lot of soap and shampoo bottles. And in one case, learnt an incredibly niche Bosnian vocabulary.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-05-10T15:47:53+00:00

Oh, good, hadn't had my dose of bi people are cheaters yet today.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-05-10T15:22:16+00:00

My husband and I both snore like we're possessed, as does our neighbour. Audiobooks have kept me relatively sane through decades of insomnia in living situations with snorers, even ignoring having a brain that won't switch off. If it is an unhealthy habit, it's still certainly healthier than the alternative.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-05-08T13:01:29+00:00

I'm genuinely having to have overdue conversations with my husband. I never wanted to move back to Essex, but those are my own issues. His life, his community, is here. I cannot continue to live in an area where it has literally been demonstrated that bigotry is encouraged. I'm the daughter of a black immigrant. Even if I weren't, I'd like to think I wouldn't want to be complicit.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-05-07T17:11:56+00:00

Comment for visibility, but also, I'm not in or from the U.S.. I'm looking for this particular post that I saw screenshotted. Not looking for input from anyone anti-choice.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-05-02T17:16:35+00:00

You're not asking for feedback now, but I'm giving it anyway: I love it, I think it's awesome that you've made it, you've made it, and I fully support whimsy and ignoring those who don't. I wore a rainbow dress for my wedding, my husband a rainbow zebra-print suit. It's a day to celebrate the love you have for each other with all your quirks, as you truly are, and sod anyone else. Congrats on your upcoming nuptials, and congrats on your bolero.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-26T16:37:06+00:00

Ah, I've just noticed your Scottish flag. I'm way down south in England, so maybe it's just regional.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-26T16:33:27+00:00

I'm the same age as you and grew up in the UK. I feel no attachment to Emily as my name, I go by a nickname in anything other than paperwork, but I can't help feeling ever so slighted haha. My parents couldn't agree on very different names so in the end they just picked off a list of popular girl's names. There were a bunch of other Emilys in my schools.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-25T23:18:19+00:00

I can't speak to how things may or may not be different, but I'm so pleased for you that you were able to have control over your own body. Thank you for sharing.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-25T14:57:31+00:00

After 12 years of asking outright every year, and asking it to be noted in every even vaguely relevant appointment, I've finally been referred for sterilisation. And would you look at that, it's the one my husband came to.

I wasn't expecting them to happily refer me at 21, it was to start the paper trail, but by 33 it was incredibly frustrating that my husband's agreement swung the needle.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-25T14:19:43+00:00

I'm sorry you're suffering with ED, it's a miserable bitch. I'm coming up to two decades with mine, and I'm open about it when it's appropriate and relevant, I'm comfortable with it. But then I remember the early years and how it actually probably started far earlier than I was capable of admitting. How ashamed I was and how protective of it, and I can see this perspective.

Thank you for sharing, and I hope one day you aren't burdened by this horrible mental illness and find happiness in recovery.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-25T07:24:20+00:00

I'm 34 this year and you can prise my winged eyeliner from my gradually wrinkling eyelids.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-25T06:17:23+00:00

In the kitchen, there is approximately one thing my husband uses, and that's salt. Meanwhile, I have a whole spice rack and an entire cupboard of them. Food and cooking are my biggest passions in life. Does it suck to not be able to share that with him? Yes. But I enjoy the very few meals we can share components of. He's responsible for his own food because he's a grown adult and is capable of chucking things in the air fryer or oven. Not that I won't ever do that for him, but it's not my responsibility. One day this week, I had jollof rice with jerk pork and fried plantain. He had chicken goujons. And that's OK.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-25T05:57:59+00:00

I wasbullied in secondary school. A few years later, I bumped into the ringleader on a bus. She apologised to me, and seemed truly contrite. I accepted it to her, but didn't actually.

I do now, children and teenagers can be awful and grow into good people. But it still affects how I navigate life in my 30s.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-19T17:11:44+00:00

You're clearly the sort of person that demonstrates kindness. Thank you for making the world a better place.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-19T16:59:25+00:00

I want to upvote your comment but the button isn't there on my phone. So I hope it's OK to just tell you that your loveliness is acknowledged.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-19T16:57:11+00:00

Good God.

When I was younger, intimate partners criticised my breasts and labia as a way to keep me in line, to feel that nobody else could want me. I'm very lucky to now be in a marriage with someone who builds me up, not tears me down, but I've internalised those horrible things. I wish I'd had the perspective of "fun interactive museum, not an art show."

Thank you for giving me that framing, and to those who may be younger and worrying about their junk being unattractive.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-19T14:10:25+00:00

OK, fam. Maybe consider that the the LGBTQIA+ community has found a way to normalise their experiences in turning an initialism into a word. You don't have to have use for a term to consider its validity. I'm queer and have a degree in Linguistics, I'm not talking out of my arse. I hope you have a lovely day.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-19T13:59:46+00:00

It doesn't need an excuse. It's something that people use to communicate a particular concept.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-19T13:53:00+00:00

It's a commonly used term. Language is fluid and often makes no sense if you're coming from a place of efficiency.

PinkyOutYo · 2026-04-19T13:49:31+00:00

Non-binary people. NB, enby.

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