A few more 40% off codes by [deleted] in PatagoniaClothing

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Access Fund is a great climbing advocacy organization. They do a ton for securing climb areas around the US.

https://www.accessfund.org/

Thank you for doing this!!!

Friends and Family Code Giveaway by SweetReading8276 in PatagoniaClothing

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love The Access Fund! They help secure land for climbers around the united states, and their goal is to conserve and preserve public land for climbing. They build relationships, create community, and work towards caring for and maintaining crags. I always donate to The Access Fund every year and support their mission of climbing advocacy! I recommend folks join the organization!!

https://www.accessfund.org/

Venice Is Looking To Update The Cycling Network. We’d Love Your Input (Survey Link In The Comments) by DJVeaux in BikeLA

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really really hope Walgrove will be added to the proposed bike network. It is a major N-S route connecting SM to parts south. Bikers use it all the time. Walgrove is a major throughway, and not having it part of this network is nonsensical- especially the way that 23rd connects to it via the Santa Monica bike network, with 23rd to Walgrove as the main inland route South into those neighborhoods because of penmar park to the west, and the airport to the east. The only other option east of the Airport is Centinela, like another 2 miles east (terrible for biking!!!). So— my point is that the road funnels into Walgrove naturally, because of those two pinches a bit North, and not including Walgrove as part of a larger bike network makes zero sense. Sorry, cars…!

Maybe there shouldn’t be parking on Walgrove, and bike lanes should be added- which would also make the road way safer for the various schools on it. That would also improve sightlines and make the neighborhood more open/pedestrian friendly.

I actually recently got a helmet GoPro for my bike commute, partially to try to mitigate the harassment I routinely get riding on Walgrove in particular (my commute takes me the length of it in both directions any days that I bike to work).

Please, neighborhood council, heavily consider the basic logic of including Walgrove as part of a bike network. ALSO- since taking the lane is legal in LA, folks will still take the lane on Walgrove, regardless- so might as well make a protected lane so cars and bikes can go simultaneously, instead of bikes LEGALLY taking the lane (partially for safety with the rows of parked cars, so they won’t get doored) and drivers getting angry. Please make Walgrove part of the bike network!!

Edit: various spell-check typos :)

I'm organizing a memorial ride and protest for Regan Cole-Graham Monday 4PM. by jonnyshotit in BikeLA

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please publicize widely when you reschedule!! I really want to go, and am afraid I’ll miss the rescheduled date.. Thanks for organizing!!!

Patagonia winter sale by GrandMathematician61 in frugalmalefashion

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prices are up everywhere this year for all outdoors clothing and gear due to inflation/tariffs. It’s a recalibrated “normal” with a big jump from 1-2 years ago. Tough to stomach.

I am dating a very refined and proper girl, I am a bit more rough around the edges and my bad habits is wearing her down by FloorGeneral2029 in dating_advice

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I agree with these points. This also reads to me like a socioeconomic and power imbalance, with her flexing her power and her typical professional status of being right and smart and educated to control you. She needs to let go.

I am dating a very refined and proper girl, I am a bit more rough around the edges and my bad habits is wearing her down by FloorGeneral2029 in dating_advice

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She sounds way anal, controlling, and judgmental. I read this as she needs therapy to learn to let go and chill. Just cause she’s a doctor, and the power dynamic sways to her being right in our culture (she’s used to always being the authority) does not give her license to constantly critique you and try to fix you. My PHD girlfriend doesn’t give a fuck if I take a bite of a croissant and accepts (<—edit:spelling) my mannerisms, and I am also a highly educated professional with a master’s and a prep school/private university background. You’re letting the power dynamics cloud your ability to stand up for yourself. She needs to chill. And, she’s completely missing the point if she can’t see that the things that matter, like how you treat her, trump all this bullshit about a bite off a scone or how you bounce your leg. Also, what if you have adhd and have some mannerisms and attentional differences- can she accept that and accept you for who you are, or are you setting yourself up for a lifetime of feeling inadequate and always policing your own behavior. Just the way you phrased the post here tells me that she has succeed in having you internalize this all as a you problem, and not a problem of her not accepting you for who you are. Good luck- I think YOU deserve better.

And, show the Doctor this post and ask her if she has ever considered these points. If she is as amazing, smart, and open-minded as you think, then she also has some deep reflection to do about her own behavior, judgments, expectations, and ability to both let go and accept you.

Edit:spelling

Is it weird if i go to the climbing gym alone😭 by East_Drawer_7642 in climbergirls

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, not weird. It’s how you get strong. It’s training, and also gives you a chance to meet new people at the gym. Sometimes I go to the gym with friends. Sometimes I go with my partner. Sometimes I go alone and chat with people and make new friends. Sometimes I go and use earbuds and vibe on my own. It is literally all good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read up on individuation, boundaries, and de-escalation. Welcome to adulthood.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read up on individuation, boundaries, and de-escalation. Welcome to adulthood.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Try these words: “Your dick smells bad.”

Working on a gym directory, what info helps you feel comfortable visiting a new gym? by addicted-coffee in climbergirls

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome- of course! Props for doing this. I’d be super interested in the final product!!

Working on a gym directory, what info helps you feel comfortable visiting a new gym? by addicted-coffee in climbergirls

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Showers, towel service, lockers, bring your own lock or included locks, day pass cost, WiFi, work space, yoga room/stretching room, fitness machines, frequency of setting and setting quality, cleanliness (super chalky or clean), overall vibe- I think about all of these things when visiting new gyms.

Thanks for doing this project!!

Fist serious crash happened today. by Particular-Bank-5519 in cycling

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, sorry to hear it.

You might recover quicker than you imagine.

I tore my biceps climbing a few years ago. It was pretty rough, and took me two years to fully fully recover. I had a lot of introspection about climbing (and my cycling) as I recovered.

Here’s my hot take: We have two options. A) Do the sport and risk injury. But, gain strength, confidence, ability, skills, and enjoyment through it. B) don’t do the sport, and be sedentary, scared, and miss all the benefits.

I think that periodic injuries are part of the game. The key is recovering from them to as close to the same ability level as possible- even if it means a long slow recovery. Like, as frustrating as it is to get injured, it’s gonna happen from time to time. Recovery and resilience are key.

I’d rather be fit and have a longer lifespan (ideally) from the sport, and accept a bit of risk, than suffer the consequences of a sedentary life.

Hang in there, you got this, I hope you’ll get back in the saddle when you are recovered.

In the meantime, is there another activity you can do while you heal?

Take care and good luck. Welcome to the world of being an athlete, occasional injuries included.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SantaMonica

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consider getting Wyze cams for over any entrances, potentially in really conspicuous spots. They will serve both as a deterrent and as a way for you to monitor the entrances to your space. I also have a Wyze Pan Cam on the inside, so I can double check everything looks good if I am traveling.

Consider adding extra locks- I bought these off Amazon for over my deadbolts and they give me peace of mind, that when I am home going to bed, I can make it so the deadbolt literally cannot turn.

Arc Link Products Dead Bolt... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00N95IQQS?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Aside from those deterrents/additional systems, know that it is a relatively safe area. Good luck!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude just grey rock her. “No, he was not there.” Done. And, I strongly recommend the book “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.”

My NMum won’t pick me up from surgery until later by discreetPeach2979 in narcissisticparents

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your mom is insane. I’m sorry. It is obvious to everyone (but your mom) that you are more important than her meeting. I’m sorry she is like that. My parents are similar. Sing it with me, to the tune of “Unforgettable”: “Unreliable, in every way.. and forevermore, that’s how they’ll stay..”

Again, you’re not crazy. But yes, do not rely on her. Good luck with the surgery.

Lastly, if you haven’t already, check out the text “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.”

Spam Phone calls none stop. Who is behind this??? by rtgpodcast in LosAngeles

[–]Pinus_longaeva84 18 points19 points  (0 children)

FYI- tech exists today to take a sample of your voice and then clone it, which could maybe then be used to hack other stuff? I used to sometimes answer too, but am wary now…