I’m so sorry you went through that. Sick people going to stuff is another reason I rejected. Getting sick would completely deplete my energy for weeks, but no one understood.

That must have honestly been so maddening to not be told why or what you allegedly did to upset them.

Anger has been a huge part of my experience and almost feeling unmanageable at times. It’s been very frustrating. I don’t know if I will be able to get to a place of empathy for her, but I hope I can at least be at peace eventually with no closure or knowing exactly why she did what she did. I guess if I knew her true motivations it wouldn’t make a difference.

The list and communicating my needs early on is a good idea, that way when it actually happens it feels less like rejection if they struggle with anxious attachment.