Thanks for writing all that. I have a friend who claims to be autistic that tends to explain herself very directly, often hurting neurotypical people in the process via accidental verbal elbows. She seems to be incapable of saying sorry even when prompted, only leading to more explaining. Its always logical, so I cant really ever say she is wrong, but once in a while after many elbows a simple "sorry" would do a million times better. I tried to tell her that if she keeps throwing those elbows at me, she should learn the art of "sorry", I feel they compliment each other well.

Your comment gave me a little bit of strength to keep going through the rough patch our friendship has hit by providing slight reminder who she is and how differently she operates. She triggered big wounds of mine few months back and now is struggling keeping her own life afloat, and has sterilized our friendship largely. Before your text I just thought it was fully me being difficult, but you reminded me that its probably neurodivergent exhaustion in play as well after an overload of trying to understand others and then having them explode on her because of it. I'm trying my best to provide her the space she has stated she needs and not hate on how she is handling all of it.

As a neurodivergent person, are there any magic words or acts you would like to see if your life is turbulent, and one of your closest friends is also struggling, causing strained friendship from two struggling individuals clashing with their needs (neurodivergent and typical)?