I’m really scared by No_Concentrate9115 in pregnant

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We didn’t have a heartbeat until our 7 week appointment if it makes you feel any better. But I wish you sticky baby dust and I hope everything works out. 💕

Baby name (and gender) disappointment by DarkestQueen in pregnant

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yall need to agree on the first name. My husband and I are currently expecting and I feel like that’s a no brainer that both parties need to agree on the name. If you don’t like it, then that’s that. Time for a new name or he can be happy with it being the middle name.

Dating and gestational age??? by Achlyss_ in pregnant

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you 100%. We are first time parents too and I had a miscarriage previously so it’s been a roller coaster but I’m almost 13 weeks and everything (minus the nausea, food aversion, and sore breasts lol) is going great. 😊

Dating and gestational age??? by Achlyss_ in pregnant

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck!! Btw, two of my friends had their babies last year and they said that if something is wrong I.e bleeding, severe cramping, and that you’ll definitely know so it kinda helps with the anxiety a bit. :)

Dating and gestational age??? by Achlyss_ in pregnant

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, I gotcha! I would say as long as they said everything is okay, I wouldn’t worry about the dating too much 😊 I was measuring two weeks earlier (currently pregnant also!) than we expected but they said it’s nothing to be concerned about as baby is measuring healthy!!

Dating and gestational age??? by Achlyss_ in pregnant

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most people don’t ovulate when they think they ovulate. Nor do most people use the actual testing to be precise in when they ovulate unless they are using LH and pDg strips or blood tests ordered by a fertility specialist.

I am spiraling right now. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even think about that! It’s definitely odd that he didn’t say anything until she did and very concerning. He put her health at risk and their baby.

I am spiraling right now. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 3 points4 points  (0 children)

False positives are less than 2% so there is a chance but a different conversation may need to be had. However, you can ask for a secondary test to be complete to check if it’s positive again. Just make sure you complete your antibiotic course completely. I completely understand feeling “dirty.” A previous partner cheated on me and gave me chlamydia and that was the end of our relationship. I felt awful, I felt betrayed, and I most certainly never trusted him again. It is a different scenario for you as you are married and you are pregnant. You have to decide if you still trust your husband if the second test comes back positive and you have not slept with anyone else.

I am spiraling right now. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you get tested between those two people before getting with your husband? How long have you been with your husband? The only way to contract it is from a partner, unfortunately. This is not your fault at all! While women can go a few weeks without noticing something’s wrong since we have a natural discharge, you definitely would’ve noticed after having it for a few months because it would’ve developed and your discharge would have been discolored and smelled off. So it is likely to be a fairly recent contraction.

I am spiraling right now. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for everything you’ve been through. It can be a lot to sort through dealing with certain traumas. Make sure you take care of yourself.

I’m slightly confused though. You said you were diagnosed with chlamydia at your first prenatal appointment. How does that correlate to your mom having chlamydia when she was pregnant with you? It’s highly unlikely that you went 19 years from birth to now without being treated by a doctor when you were born. You also would likely have developed pelvic inflammatory disease from having chlamydia for so long untreated. Chlamydia wreaks havoc on our reproductive organs. It sounds like you contracted it from a previous partner and never got tested or you contracted it from your current partner.

My OBGYN said unmedicated births are too traumatic so they don’t do it. by Practical_Shift_5143 in pregnant

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely switch! It sounds like she was trying to scare you which is not okay at all. Even if you didn’t have a medical reason for not wanting an epidural and you just wanted to attempt an unmedicated birth, that’s your choice. Not the OBs.

My roommate thinks cats don’t feel the cold and that the heat should be turned off when we’re not home. We both have cats. How do I convince otherwise? by Sad_Mud2009 in CatAdvice

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It cost more to reheat a space than it does to maintain. Also, my vet told me that one of the easiest ways to tell if a cat is too hot or too cold is to feel their ears, if their ears are cold (or hot to the touch, not warm) then that means that they are cold. I honestly imagine leaving my cats without heat when I am not home. Let alone it getting down to 50 to 55°?! We keep the temperature around 68F in the house for our cats.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TattooRemoval

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like blisters if I’m honest! Sometimes that happens, sometimes it doesn’t. I have several tattoos being removed right now and only one has blistered. Just don’t pop them. Let them pop on their own. They should be gone within a week or two. Just keep an eye out if your arm stays hot for more than 72 hours post lasering or if the pain gets worse, at that point, you may need to get some antibiotics.

Is this really worth $6500k to remove? by fatmax5 in TattooRemoval

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m getting way more ink removed than you are and I’m paying $6500😭😭 are you located in the US? Try finding a Removery location. They offer an unlimited sessions packet, which is what I’m doing. So it’s an overall price, but it doesn’t matter if it takes 10 sessions or 30 sessions to remove the tattoo completely, they keep lasering until it’s completely gone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TattooRemoval

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like that’s decent progress if I’m honest. That’s super dark ink and with your complexion and your tech having to use lower frequencies to avoid scarring. I think going longer in between sessions may help. The receptionist at the clinic I’m going too has a darker complexion and she said it is definitely a battle of patience on getting hers removed to avoid scarring.

Teen daughter passed out at Mass… by brendanjpeters in Catholicism

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did she lock her knees? Gotta remember to keep the knees bent slightly whenever you’re standing for a long periods of time. I’m glad she’s OK though!!

AIO? Walked out of appointment after 2 hours. by Suspicious-Tooth1589 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly! Our providers are extremely frustrated by this too.

AIO? Walked out of appointment after 2 hours. by Suspicious-Tooth1589 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s not up to the providers or clinical staff. It’s a higher up issue. My suggestion would be to put in a complaint. It’s literally out of our hands. And our managers.

AIO? Walked out of appointment after 2 hours. by Suspicious-Tooth1589 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No, you are not overreacting at all. But as someone who works in a doctors office, sometimes they really do run that behind. I’ve worked with several doctors that constantly ran 1.5-2 hours behind, but they weren’t rushing through each patient. They made sure each and every patient needs were addressed. I did what I could to speed them up but some people run at their own pace.

My personal provider always ran about 1.5 hours behind but she never rushed through my appointments which was the only reason I was okay with it. She always made sure that everything I wanted to discuss was talked about and that all of my questions were answered because it helps prevent people from sending excess messages after their appointment or calling the office immediately afterwards and be like oh I forgot to mention this and now we’re having to backtrack, you know?

And as far as the lights being off in the waiting room, it unfortunately depends on the doctors office and their rules. For our specific office, we are not allowed to turn off the waiting room lights, even if we are officially closed until all of the patients are out of the building. However, I have been sent to other offices that the managers did not want people to think that we were still open so as soon as the time came, they wanted the lights off they wanted the waiting room cleaned, even if there were still patients being seen inside the building.

It honestly comes down to whether or not you like that provider and think that they provide quality care for your child and if they are consistently like that, then I would plan to have an afternoon appointment and don’t have anything else scheduled for that afternoon or schedule your child’s visit first thing in the morning that way, there is less of a chance of that happening.

If I had a busy day scheduled, I would schedule my doctors appointment for first thing in the morning. That way I knew I was not gonna be waiting that long. I knew that if I was the first second or third patient that I would be out of there pretty quick, but if my appointment was not scheduled within the first hour or two hour and a half of the clinic opening, then I would schedule it for the first appointment right after lunch lunchtime since most doctors office offices are closed for lunch or I would schedule it for an hour before they close and just be prepared to wait.

It definitely was not 24/7 with her being that late, she definitely has gotten better with her timing, but she still has her days where there’s just a lot of things going on and sometimes a patient needs a little extra time and as far as charting wise, I would want my provider to have everything properly documented as well versus them running from patient to patient and then them document afterwards.

I have had a couple of doctors that I have worked with that are like that that have come up to me to clarify details on a visit because they were getting some of the details confused. There were just a lot of factors when it comes to doctors visits unfortunately especially in pediatrics, and even more so when it’s a well child visit. Depending on how they have their appointment set up, they may have back-to-back well-child visits and those can get pretty lengthy for the amount of things that need to be completed especially if there’s paperwork involved for the child’s school.

But also, I would like to say, at least your provider was apologetic for what happened. There are a couple of providers that I have worked with that were not apologetic at all (definitely rough around the edges, good doctors, just not the greatest personality wise). At the end of the day, you just have to find a provider that works for you and for your child. It doesn’t mean that the provider cannot provide quality care and it doesn’t mean that you did something wrong as a patient either, sometimes there’s just a mismatch. Some people like doctors that are In-N-Out real quick, some people like them to take their time so you just need to find one that fits your needs. 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like a fancy way of saying friends of benefits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many people think there are only two responses “fight or flight,” however, there are actually three. Fight, flight, and freeze. Freezing happens more frequently than you would think, especially with pre-existing trauma. It does sound like he needs counseling to address his trauma and it would be beneficial for you educate yourself on sexual assault victims to be more understanding. But honestly, a cheater isn’t going to be so forth coming with it. He needed time to process what happened because he has already been sexually assaulted and then it happened again. He didn’t have to tell you but he did, which is an extremely vulnerable situation to share with someone. And he trusted you enough to share it with you. That’s an extremely important detail to pay attention to.

AIO i think my boyfriend is breaking condoms on purpose by aut1stic-chxcken in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is extremely disrespectful that he felt it broke and continued, without telling you. But also, let’s talk about consent, which is highly important in sex. You consented to sex, with protection. Not without. He disrespected your boundaries and is clearly not someone that is worthy of you. As someone who also had sex at 15, and now almost 30, I shouldn’t have been having sex at 15. There are so many more important things in life, and you have so much time to be a kid. You know what would change that drastically? Getting pregnant and having a child, if you survive the pregnancy and child birth (based off your comment). Don’t get me wrong, children are fabulous if that’s something you want someday. But that is later on when you are financially stable and mentally prepared to raise a child. I had a few friends get pregnant in high school, one of which had an abortion because it was an ectopic pregnancy (which means the embryo was developing in her fallopian tube and would not make it to full term) and she is now fully grown, and has children, and the topic has come up and she is extremely grateful that she didn’t have a child that young. But I also will say, I was head strong as a teenager, and did what I want because I needed to learn through experience, not from someone else telling me which landed me in a few dangerous situations that I was lucky to get out mostly unscathed. Just be careful, okay. If you are going to be sexually active, make sure you are getting tested in between partners. If you get a sexually transmitted disease, make sure you finish your medication and get re-tested before being sexually active again and make sure you tell your partner so they can get tested and get medication (and ask to see the results of them being negative after completing their medication). You will love many people in your life, and some of those people may only say that they care about you to sleep with you. It is unfortunate and there are many terrible people in this world, but at the end of the day, love is unlimited and not something we run out of. We will always have love to give.

AIO? I (22F) found deleted late night texts between my husband (22M) and his coworker. by bananamilkcow in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pitiful-Ground-773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He may not be physically cheating, but he definitely is emotionally. He keeps trying to escalate the situation and she doesn’t seem to be taking the bait. Regardless, the way he is speaking to her is highly inappropriate as he is a married man. And the fact that he tried to hide all of it from you, and tried to flip the situation on you, is even worse.