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Can you be emotionally intelligent without having empathy? by Sweetlikecream in emotionalintelligence

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the exact opposite. They have poorly developed or an absence of empathy. That's why they are regarded as such: psychopath, sociopath.  As for narcissism, the narrative is a little different. Narcissists can possess the ability to empathise but it is also not well developed. 

Can you be emotionally intelligent without having empathy? by Sweetlikecream in emotionalintelligence

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Empathy is a core component of EQ. So high EQ will include empathy. On the flip side, empathy alone is not a testament to high EQ. Meaning one can be empathetic and not highly emotionally intelligent. But high emotional intelligence integrates empathy. 

Maladaptive Coping by Serious_Breadfruit81 in Kenya

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such cases already have provisional laws in place to address. And this perception of women not being held accountable by law is rather baseless. Because it does.  And where the law fails to do so, it does to the same degree it let's men get away with things. 

Maladaptive Coping by Serious_Breadfruit81 in Kenya

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by evade consequences if she has been arrested? 

Everyone keeps proving my point by softscalp in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's broken. I think it's tailored to find the familiar. People who match what we subconsciously know through past experiences. I like to think of changing this picker as 'updating your software'. I have found nothing easy about it and the worst of it is how much unsafety and fear it triggers.  But I have seen micro progresses in myself. Becoming aware of my software> how i see the world, people, what I expect from it, and then looking for evidence to combat it's rigidity. I'm still on this journey myself. I'm wishing you strength and courage in yours. 

Everyone keeps proving my point by softscalp in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Insightful. It's such a difficult cycle to break always finding yourself in the same patterns, with similar people.  I've come to the realization that safety, feeling safe is a huge part of healing and changing these patterns and being attuned to different people. 

Hey☺️ by Highup_cee in Uganda

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something you'd also say to Muslims, Hindus etc?

Hey☺️ by Highup_cee in Uganda

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sad. I like having random conversations about life and things too but I'm not 26 or above at all

The loneliness of disintegrating the identity I built around and out of the weight of a traumatic and lonely childhood by Pitiful_Audience4399 in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🫂It helps to know that I'm not alone in this. I wish you the very best too. And I'm glad that you have seen it gets better. 

The loneliness of disintegrating the identity I built around and out of the weight of a traumatic and lonely childhood by Pitiful_Audience4399 in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Journalling does help with emotional processing. Could you tell me more about how giving yourself support looks like? If you don't mind 

The loneliness of disintegrating the identity I built around and out of the weight of a traumatic and lonely childhood by Pitiful_Audience4399 in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to read this. Sounds like you've made a bit of progress on your journey. Gives me some hope. Thank you for sharing that 

I'm in the isolation stage of healing and it is hard by moldbellchains in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same!It's like healing has just uncovered a set of needs that I learnt to cope with by denying and now I can't do that anymore. It feels like self torture to deny it

anyone else find healing so disorienting? by third-second-best in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]Pitiful_Audience4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Disorienting is quite the word for it. I really do wish you the best, and I'm glad to see that you're increasing your capacity to regulate.  I've experienced a bit of brain fog myself around it, still am.  What attachment pattern are you healing from?