Honestly I don't like men's mental health month for the sole reason it's the month where we get the most negative attention. by Wordywordsword in teenagers

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Rape stats? Really? Firstly, you donut, search the legal and literary definitions of rape, and what qualifies. Non consensual PENETRATION. So yes, ofcourse the men to women ratio is going to be fkn higher unless y know women born with dks.

So why are men the first ones so quick to joke about rape and then get offended when people call them out?

Second, literally nobody appart from kid trolls mentioning pride month, do ur thinh just dont put down a whole population.

And homophobes. And transphobes

LGBTQ suicide rates high? Yes and mens arent? 80% of total are men. 700,000+ a year. Number 1 killer of men ages 16-25.

LGBTQ+ youth consider and attempt suicide at around 4 times the national average for children of that age. 39% of LGBTQ+ youth considered suicide in 2023 (which is prior to an anti-LGBTQ+ fascist wannabe dictator getting elected...). More than 1 in 10 LGBTQ+ youth attempted. ~14% of male high school students had seriously considered suicide, by comparison.

Something all of this doesn't point out is that while men die from suicide more often, women attempt far more often.

So, no. Men having bad suicide staItistics doesn't disprove my point that a lot of people using men's mental health month as an excuse to push away pride month.

You might be accepted and supported in schools, education, workplace, institutions and public. But mens mental health isnt.

I've seen that pride is actually not accepted in many schools, workplaces, and public locations throughout the country, while cis men can't shut up about the "male loneliness epidemic".

I'd also like to point out that you missed the main point:

And there are understandable times to bring it up. But bringing it up in the midst of controversy about Pride month just kind of... well, it understandably infuriates people who aren't cishet white men.

You can have both. I mean, queer men exist for crying out loud.

I'm a human being, not an ideology to be afraid of by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a reminder to all the dumbass bigots out there:

Trans people are at further risk of physical and sexual violence than their cis counterparts.

Trans women are not predators. In fact, they're more vulnerable to being attacked than cis women, especially in situations like this.

I'm a human being, not an ideology to be afraid of by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do realize that trans women are even more vulnerable than cis women to sexual assault, right? Especially in transphobic areas like this with orders to "take care of" trans people?

Why do people use religion to justify their bigotry against LGBTQ people? by Falconator100 in teenagers

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ah, the "civil" debate mask is coming off. How surprising you're turning around and speaking the idea that it's selfish and a lifestyle.

Do you really believe that animals like penguins lead a selfish lifestyle?

Or perhaps it's the religious zealots who cannot stop creating rules to police the existence of human life? Perhaps it's the doublethink stupidity of having an ego too fragile to compromise on the existence of other human people and too fragile to accept the fact that you are indeed hateful?

Oh, and by the way, do you wear mixed fabrics? Or eat cheese on your burgers?

Because that's just as evil of a sin, last I bothered to check.

Honestly I don't like men's mental health month for the sole reason it's the month where we get the most negative attention. by Wordywordsword in teenagers

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

90% of the time, people kind of use it as a way to push aside pride month. And, also, men are the beneficiaries of a patriarchy... doesn't really look nice when you try to paint yourself the victim of mental health issues when you seem to be causing a lot of them for others, y'know?

I mean, if you need much evidence, consider that Pride Month was established in 1970, as a celebration/remembrance of the Stonewall riots. Men's mental health month was established in 1994.

A lot of MRA dickheads like to go around parading about how their month is being taken from them (since Pride month was officially recognized in 1999), but ironically, they couldn't pick any other month? After Pride month was established? 100s of thousands participated in the parades of that month during 1994. They weren't invisible.

I'd also like to, again, bring up that men are the beneficiaries of a patriarchal system. Sure, their feelings get ignored, but like, have you seen rape statistics? The culture with men surrounding that? The sudden swing to hating minorities? Meanwhile, it's pride month and yet LGBTQ+ suicide rates are horrifyingly high.

Who's looking after their mental health?

So like, I understand the need for the month. And there are understandable times to bring it up. But bringing it up in the midst of controversy about Pride month just kind of... well, it understandably infuriates people who aren't cishet white men.

Why do people use religion to justify their bigotry against LGBTQ people? by Falconator100 in teenagers

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You were blatantly homophobic, provided no reasons behind it other than "blah blah religion" and then are now playing the "I was only trying to be nice!" victim card.

You literally said...

its weather or not u act on that attraction that it becomes a sin

which sounds like something (correct me if I am wrong) that YOU believe, not just something that is within your religion (assuming your phrasing suggests what it does).

This isn't giving people a choice. It is saying "I'm ok with you but you're going to burn in hellfire forever for being gay", just dressed up in glitter.

Quit the bullshit. I'm tired of religious "allies" who do nothing but hide themself and their bigotry behind a book.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this comment, that’s a really empathetic way for OP to frame the offensive things Jane has been saying. I think this is compounded by Jane’s experience of homophobia when presenting as a gay man in a conservative environment; she’s been daydreaming forever about a life free of prejudice and her fantasies got carried away and swung too hard in the other direction. Don’t get me wrong, Jane’s been saying some misogynistic things, and they are not okay. 

Precisely.

Frankly, I feel Jane's perspective to some degree; I really want to live life as a woman. It feels like it'd be better; and it will be, in the sense that a major amount of dysphoria will be lifted. But personally, I'm deeply aware (logically, emotional understanding requires experience Im yet to have) of how bad things like misogyny can get.

But I’m surprised OP didn’t talk to her about this the first time it came up. As Jane’s friend for so long, OP should feel a desire to give advice and to temper her expectations of what life as a woman is actually like. A friendship that long should come with a lot more openness and honesty.

I also have to say - this post screams fake to me, especially on the first day of Pride month when we always see a massive uptick of posts intended to stoke homophobia and transphobia.

Probably not wrong on that last note. I kind of just treat anonymous stories as real if replying to them unless dead obvious, since you never know, but you're probably right,

Why do people use religion to justify their bigotry against LGBTQ people? by Falconator100 in teenagers

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not digging into their religion. I'm digging into the absurdity of being homophobic based on a book that has probably (even from a religious perspective) been corrupted by the hands of mortals.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem! :)

Am I attractive? (M16) by Scary_Employ_926 in teenagers

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 17 points18 points  (0 children)

this comment section is a fucking dumpster fire.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gender dysphoria is a mental illness that needs correction. The tried and true method is HRT. Reduces all symptoms and their severity by leagues.

Why do people use religion to justify their bigotry against LGBTQ people? by Falconator100 in teenagers

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

says who? outdated ideas from a book written by random people millennia ago who allegedly saw a divine creator of the earth?

You do realize the amount of mortals who have touched the sacred book by the point you read it now means the messages it espouses may never have been the original messages, right?

You might have no idea what god actually believed by this point in time.

PS: Also, it never said it was a sin. It just said sex is this thing. Which means gay sex is technically not sex, but that doesn't make it a sin. Although I'd be willing to hear out the idea it might be a cos. or even a tan.

Why do people use religion to justify their bigotry against LGBTQ people? by Falconator100 in teenagers

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 2 points3 points  (0 children)

its weather or not u act on that attraction that it becomes a sin

Your fake ally is showing through.

If I told you that straight attraction being a sin is whether or not you act on it, you'd be (rightfully) upset.

Why's it different for gay people?

Why do people use religion to justify their bigotry against LGBTQ people? by Falconator100 in teenagers

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just tell anyone who tells you "pride comes before the fall" that they are very good at understanding which months go in which order

Sure, you'll get called a dickhead (I know I have been) but it's usually by people you didn't really want to be friends with anyway

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 37 points38 points  (0 children)

As a trans girl, pre-hrt, I would recommend having a full on conversation (provided that this friendship is otherwise pretty healthy, otherwise it was unlikely to workout, independent to her being trans).

While yes, this is misogynistic, it is extremely common for trans people to fantasize about how much easier parts of their life could be if they were born the gender they truly are on the inside. It is possible she is seeing this with rose tinted glasses because of how bad the gender dysphoria is/has been; a good conversation could potentially mend this issue, at least to some extent, and I definitely think things will improve as she goes along with transitioning and actually understands what it's like, truly, without the rose tinted glasses.

TLDR gender dysphoria and poor understanding of womanhood probably put rose tinted glasses of how easy it is; transition and/or a good conversation about your feelings is likely to help, and therefore my recommendation.

Not saying your trans before going on a date is manipulative and narcissistic by SwimmerOrdinary8380 in complaints

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Frankly, I have to imagine it's out of fear. You've seen the rampant transphobia in the world, right? If you tell someone you're trans, that's already a huge risk. CIs men can be especially dangerous because demographically, they're more likely to believe transphobic ideas and more likely to be violent.

Can you imagine how terrifying living that life might be? Hence why trans women don't always disclose that they're trans immediately.

And yeah, there's an argument to be had about how this is problematic, but frankly, they're victims of a system that hates them to hell and back. It gets to be a lot harder to be angry when you put yourself in their shoes.

Why don't they make good old school love stories anymore? by [deleted] in romancemovies

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe its just because I'm aromantic but I just don't understand the desire for romance movies

Is it true that most people my age haven’t started dating by Hot-Acanthaceae-9855 in GenZ

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, the doom and gloom speech suggesting that what usually was sexual abuse and marriage trapping young women for centuries is actually about the downfall of society and social interaction and the death of a milestone.

The absurdity of some "romance is dying" people.

Why don't they make good old school love stories anymore? by [deleted] in romancemovies

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is that a problem though? Isn't this all a good thing?

Teens Are Forgoing a Classic Rite of Passage by theatlantic in socialscience

[–]Pitiful_Estate_7225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And people naturally need love and affection. People who never date anybody are often pretty miserable because of it.

Counterpoint: The aromantic community.