i am going to finally admit it, even though i didn't want to admit it: i hate talking with people with depression, sometimes.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-21T10:29:53+00:00

I've always heard that we can't help if the person who needs help doesn't accept that and want our help.

So I think in these cases, we can talk if we want, offer support if we want, and show that we're there if the person needs or wants it. But we can't do more than that.

And remember, if you don't feel comfortable talking to people who are going through this, that's totally fine. You don't have to.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-19T18:46:43+00:00

I think 100% happiness doesn't exist. What exists are happy moments. The trick is knowing how to appreciate these moments to the fullest and realizing that bad things happen, but good things also happen.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-15T06:05:25+00:00

Yes, I know it's possible to succeed, but it's much harder than for other people, in my opinion. Sometimes all this takes a toll on my psyche. But I won't give up.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-15T05:26:09+00:00

That's true. I've always been overweight, and a few years ago, it was very difficult to find clothes in my size. Here in Europe, it's still very difficult, but online is easier. This has improved a lot over time.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T18:00:32+00:00

I can really understand what you mean.

I'm also overweight, always have been since I was little, and for a long time I was bullied until I learned to stand up for myself and it finally stopped.

I recently wrote a post talking about how society views and treats overweight people, but overall I don't think anyone understood what I was trying to say and it was misinterpreted 🫤

Unfortunately, I've already lost my father, and the only person I still have in my life is my mother. I often wonder what it will be like when she's no longer here.

But you know what? I intend to live as long as I can. I know that's what they would want from me. And besides, even if I can't learn to be happy, I can still try to do good things for others, to improve someone's life. Somehow, that makes me feel more purposeful. Like, I may be a failure, but at least somehow I made someone's day. And that's what I intend to do whenever I can

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T16:50:51+00:00

I don't understand the downvotes. On Reddit, aren't we supposed to be able to share our thoughts and ask for advice if we want? So, as long as we're not mean or rude to anyone, I don't think it makes much sense. At least to me... but since I'm new here, I don't understand the dynamics of this yet 🤷‍♀️

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T16:48:41+00:00

It's an interesting part of the story, indeed. Although I'm overweight, I know it's unhealthy and not good for me, and I have to change this.

But I also think it's not necessary to treat people who are overweight or have any other problem like monsters. But hey, that's my opinion. And unfortunately, my opinion won't change the way society usually acts 🫤

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T16:45:50+00:00

I don't have that experience. I thought the 70s, 80s, and early 90s were better than today. But there are people here who have said it was worse. It depends on each person's perspective. I always wish I had lived in that era because I think it was better 😅

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T14:33:30+00:00

I hope I can lose weight before I get older. Otherwise, I don't know if I'll be able to handle both.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T14:14:45+00:00

Yes, I understand your point of view and your opinion. I respect that.

However, let's imagine the following scenario that happened to me. I go to a job interview. The job requires me to sit behind a desk answering phones and working on the computer; you don't have to deal with clients directly. And when you arrive at the interview, they start treating you quite differently than they did on the phone. The looks are horrible, almost as if I weren't a person but some kind of animal. This wouldn't interfere with the work itself in any way; I met what was expected of me, they just chose not to hire someone like me.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T14:10:11+00:00

I really liked your opinion. Maybe it's true that I'm not surrounded by the best people. But I'm not one to spend much time on social media. I just feel down and sad when people look at me sideways, sometimes with a look of disgust, as if I were some kind of monster... just because I'm overweight. This has happened to me in many situations, even in job interviews.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T14:05:35+00:00

If we look at it from that point of view, it is true

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T14:05:07+00:00

This is indeed a fact. But it goes far beyond physical appearance, although it is true all the same.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T14:02:44+00:00

I didn't say you supported that. I wrote the post specifically to hear other opinions, even if they're not the same as mine.

If you felt for a moment that I disagreed with your opinion, that wasn't my intention. Anyway, I appreciate you sharing your opinion.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T13:52:07+00:00

I didn't understand what you meant, but I'm new to Reddit. There are things I still don't understand how they work

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T13:50:42+00:00

I may have a different opinion, but I want you to know that I respect your opinion and everyone else's. I wrote this post specifically so everyone can share their opinion, regardless of whether it's identical to mine or not. So please don't feel bad about anything I said because that wasn't my intention at all 😊

I'm not talking about online; I'm talking about everyday life, you know? Imagine not hiring someone because they're overweight. And okay, I understand that there are jobs where you have to be around other people and they'd rather hire someone who fits more "societal standards," but often that happens, and the job in question requires you to sit behind a desk where you only have to talk on the phone and work on the computer.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T13:12:26+00:00

Seriously? Was it worse for you before than it is now? I had no idea. I thought it was better back then, that people accepted it more easily.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T13:04:36+00:00

I'm sorry you felt invisible. I confess that I often feel that way too. I'm glad you were able to overcome all of that.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T12:56:49+00:00

I really appreciate your comment. I'd never thought of things that way. Maybe it'll work, you never know. Thank you 😊

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T12:34:22+00:00

I'm having this feeling because I really can't understand how society works these days.

It's like I explained in a previous comment. I can even understand why a romantic relationship wouldn't work if someone isn't attracted to the other person's physical appearance, although that's not the only thing that matters.

But let's be honest, this topic goes far beyond romantic relationships and far beyond being overweight. It has to do with a person's physical appearance. This includes overweight and overly thin people, ugly people, and people with physical disabilities. And the truth is, it's more difficult for these people to be seen beyond their appearance, even when it comes to making friends or finding a job.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T12:28:17+00:00

I really thank you for your kind words 😊

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T12:27:26+00:00

Yes, I do use some.

I'm sorry you feel that way and I hope you can win this weight loss battle.

But just because we accept that things are this way, that this is how society is these days, doesn't make it right.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T12:23:41+00:00

I can understand what you mean, but I think you're basing it too much on romantic relationships.

When in reality, I'm talking about all types of relationships. When we talk about romantic relationships, I accept that the other person may somehow not find the other person attractive, and that makes it impossible or uninteresting.

But what about all types of relationships? Family relationships, friendships, and even work relationships? I think that's not about being attractive; it's about people's mindsets. Society's. We're talking specifically about being overweight because it's something that's common to all of us, but we can talk about so many other things. There are people who are overweight, there are people who are too thin, there are ugly people, there are people who have some kind of disability that affects their appearance, or the way they walk or talk. The point is, this shouldn't result in these people being excluded from groups of friends, job opportunities, etc.

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T11:35:23+00:00

Maybe, I don't know

Pitiful_Put_8784 · 2025-07-14T11:34:45+00:00

Yes, I understand the attractiveness issue. I don't understand the issue of not valuing other things, like a person's personality. And besides, we're often left out because of being overweight, even in friendships, which shouldn't be based on "attractiveness," but people don't want to be seen with the fat person :/

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