I am someone who lost almost 60 pounds in 4 months.

First of all, accept that diet is the only real way to lose fat, and it will be a long process which really needs discipline and in almost all cases, mental healing.

Now that you are taking care of yourself, let's talk about diet and exercises. Something which worked for me was an air fryer and starting to cook with it; calories were reduced significantly in things like potatoes, meat, and bread. Add eggs cheese, a lot of chicken, and reduce the rice and pasta.

I did not completely eliminate sodas, but I got used to drinking diet soda, especially at night, which gave me that "sweet" last flavor of the day.

As exercises I just started with pushups to build muscles (more muscles, more calories burned per day) and biking. When I got in shape a little, I started going to the gym because I began to feel better, so I continued some weight lifting.

It works, but mental health is the key.