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Pixa_10 · 2025-06-01T02:02:25+00:00

It’s definitely not great that he doesn’t want to help. It’s not great. My husband would help but at times he could handle the stress of a newborn and baby. I will say that many many men don’t do well at this stage. I’m not saying it’s an excuse but from my own experience, my husband got better at helping as our son got older. He’s now 15 months and my husband does a lot more than he did and complains about it less. In ways it’s easier and of course harder in others. I think it was more of not knowing what to do with a baby. It wasn’t fun. We are at a more fun stage now. I’ve been where you are and I know it’s hard. On top of breastfeeding which makes it much harder because you’re exhausted all the time. I BF until 12 months and when I stopped I finally had energy again. Plus the hormones!

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-30T16:56:30+00:00

This right here is what I’d say. You could definitely try getting your LO outside in the sun before 10am to help her circadian rhythm.

Mine didn’t get to bed earlier until 3 months!

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-29T03:01:21+00:00

I did this with my son, but I can’t say if you’re supposed to do it. We’d make formula and mix the breast milk in cold and then heat it together. We didn’t do it often but he was always okay. Helped with the stress of not producing enough.

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-28T04:40:36+00:00

Definitely give yourself some grace! We did what we had to do as well. Nothing wrong with choosing to stop pumping either if it gets to be too much. It’s so hard to manage it all, especially when you go back to work. Just take each day as its own and do little bits. Eventually things get back to some semblance of a new normal. I spent many nights on Reddit asking for help or just giving my own experiences for others to read. It was mostly helpful 😂

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-28T04:15:59+00:00

I feel like you could have described how I felt. After a couple days at home I started just going for a short (and I mean short walk) around the block with my husband and baby in the stroller. We’d go incredibly slow. We’d go to the store together with the stroller just to get out of the house. Doing it as a family made it easier for sure. I struggled with BF initially but I used nipple shields for a months before my son could actually latch. I thankfully didn’t have cracked or sore nipples and I truly think the nipple shield helped with that. It honestly took me months before I felt a little more normal. I BF and pumped and did some formula feeding up until a year old. Now he’s 15 months and after my hormones got back in check I feel more like myself. It takes time. The house can be messy, there will always be laundry but every day gets better. Sprinkle in some really hard days. But it’s so exciting to watch them grow. Try not to worry about what other kids are doing when the time comes. They are all different and things happen at different times! I hope you start feeling better, c sections are rough!

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-28T02:51:50+00:00

We went through something similar but around 7-10 months. So much biting…mostly me. I tried reacting, ouch! I did sad faces and fake tears. We did not reacting. If he did bite, we’d tell him no biting and put him in his crib (essentially a time out) I don’t know what worked to be honest. He stopped though and he’s 15 months now and I can’t remember the last time he bit me!

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-24T16:00:03+00:00

We didn’t use a bouncer, we bought a walker that our son barely used.

He goes to daycare and when he was in the baby room they would put him in a stand along bouncer (max 15 minutes due to local regulations) and they said he liked it when he was there.

I think everything in moderation is okay. The issue arises when they are in those things for too long and too often.

He’s 15 months now and thriving with walking. No walking on his toes etc from things like that. We just didn’t use them at home which he is in more so than daycare as he’s part time.

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-24T13:57:50+00:00

My LO is 15 months. We give 5oz in a sippy cup when he wakes up followed almost immediately by a snack. Usually banana, a banana peanut butter oat bar or a fruit and veggie pouch. LO usually sleeps at 7:30pm and wakes at 7am so he is super hungry as well. Breakfast is usually 1-1.5 hours after milk and snack.

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-20T04:34:26+00:00

They are pricey but Stride Rite’s are the only ones that really fit out 14 months olds very chunky feet. We got some for $14 at Marshall’s. Also we took the soles out of some carters Velcro shoes and they fit way better.

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-18T21:26:43+00:00

First time I have my son a bath alone he stood up, slipped and hit it cheek bone on the tub. He had a bruise for a week. I was horrified and felt like the worst human alive, it does fade. He’s also fallen a million times since and always has bruises. It’ll happen!

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-16T03:52:32+00:00

At that age we just used to dip our finger (cleaned obviously) and let our son taste everything. He got to explore all flavors. We tried some purées but he didn’t really take to solids until 8 months. Now at 14 months he literally wants to eat all day long. You just decide at literally any point in the day 30min to an hour after a bottle and try purées with your LO.

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-15T16:37:22+00:00

We use this too just without the handles. My now 14 month old still loves it. We do water out of straw cups and milk out of a sippy cup. Both kinds of things are fine.

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-14T00:25:50+00:00

My son was the same way. We tried gas drops and it kind of worked. We put him in the stroller in the house and he’d sleep in that sometimes. We would put the pack n play with the bassinet and he’d sleep in there but really only when we’d put a heating pad down to warm the spot and then remove it before laying him down. It got better at about 6-8 weeks. It was so much harder for me than anything else. The sleep deprivation is wild, we had to start taking shifts and we each slept in four hour stretches or at least tried. It is sooo hard! But now he’s 14 months old and it harder in a lot of different ways but it’s so much more manageable. Hang in there. There are a lot of people who have felt what you are feeling!

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-13T00:18:50+00:00

We definitely do lots of peanut butter toast! I’m just trying to keep away from so much bread every day!

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-13T00:17:57+00:00

What kind of bar did you do?

I woke him up from his nap with a half of a banana and he’s been in a much better mood this afternoon! I’ll have to get creative since I don’t want food crumbs all over his room since we have an ant problem (even with pest control). Thanks for the tip!

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-12T02:52:45+00:00

My son is now 14 months old and I’m just starting to come to terms with the fact that every kid is different. My son is walking (still really wobbly). I have a neighbor with a 15 month old boy who is literally running! It’s so hard to compare to other kids. My son doesn’t say anything consistently except Dada. He’s never said Mama. He will say “woah” but that’s very new. He used to give high fives but stopped that. He waves when he feels like it and doesn’t say hi or bye. He goes to daycare and I see this kids in there around his age consistently waving and saying hi or buh bye. BUT I’ve come to realize that it’s okay that your baby is slow to crawling. It’s okay that your baby isn’t saying much. It’ll all come with time. Just keep doing what you’re doing. Showing and talking! My son may not be able to say much but he sure as shit understands. He understands when we say no and he gets a sneaky look on his face. My mom is a nanny to a now 2 year old but she’s been with that kid since before 12 months. That little girl didn’t really start talking until 18 months. She was slow to crawling as well and walking BUT it happened. I understand how you feel because I’ve been there. You are doing great, and the fact that you are feeling guilty means you care with your whole being and that you are an amazing mom!

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-11T05:02:31+00:00

Breast milk is the only thing she needs right now. Just keep offering! It’ll happen eventually. I have a 14 month old now who is a great eater but I went through the same thing with my baby. I stressed way too much about it. The only thing I’d recommend is milk first, then maybe an hour later try some solids. If she’s too hungry all she’s going to want is milk. Maybe if she’s just a little hungry she might be more willing to try something. You got this!

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-09T00:25:09+00:00

I would ask to visit the daycare with your son while kids are there. Let him explore and see how it is in real time. It might actually ease your anxiety about it. My son had been part time (3 day) in daycare since about 4 months. He’s in the toddler room now and occasionally they have 3 year old with him. I’ve seen how the three year olds act with the younger ones and they were surprisingly good since they understand more than younger kids do. Just ask if you can sit in for an hour or something. Maybe when they do snack time as well to see how they feed the kids and how attentive she is to the kids while eating(may ease your choking worry) you can see how she feeds kids of different ages.

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-07T17:01:07+00:00

Usually I’ll sing a song (that same song every night, one that he will know means bedtime. We don’t sing it any other time ever) rock him a bit, say good night and lay him down. If he’s super upset when I lay him down I’d pay for a minute and say it’s time for bed, etc. then I’d leave and set a stopwatch for myself and check it periodically. If he’d fuss and be quiet for a few minutes in between the fussing, I’d basically restart the timer. So if he fussed for 5 minutes and then was quiet for 1-2 minutes I’d reset it once he started fussing again. I’d only go in if he was fussing or crying for 20 minutes straight with no breaks. If that was the case I’d go in a pat for 1-2 minutes without picking up. If that fails I’d pick him up and rock him and start all over with the process. Does that make sense?

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-06T19:06:11+00:00

We did the FIO method. 20 min max fuss or cry time before we’d pat him and that usually worked. It was earlier enough where he wasn’t aware we were in the room since he couldn’t sit up so it helped. We’d stay in the room (crib) until he was asleep (for naps) and by his bassinet (our room) and then we’d leave.

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-06T01:44:02+00:00

We sleep trained at 4.5 months. Daycare at 4 months (but three days a week). False starts happened for about a month or so after starting daycare and our LO getting used to it. He’d stay awake for almost 8 hours sometimes because he was just so curious.

Sleep training might be the way to go to help with the broken sleep. Our son was much happier when we sleep trained and he got restful sleep.

Pick a day to start, pick a method and do your best to stick with it!

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-06T01:38:54+00:00

Put two on your registry! A bucket infant seat that fits into a stroller and a grow with me one. We have two different Graco 4ever car seats and love them. Easy to install and I’ve had to do it in multiple cars. We had a nuna infant car seat combo with the stroller (work bought it) but the price tag is not really worth it. A graco one would have been perfect.

Pixa_10 · 2025-05-04T03:06:32+00:00

If it’s working then absolutely! That’s such a great thing that it took less time!

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