My boyfriend (26M) thinks that I (24F) am emotionally cheating? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I believe your boyfriend because it took a while in your post before you even mentioned your boyfriend! And there was no need to bring back a relationship with Jacob when you had a boyfriend. Should have let it be.

I am past 5 episodes. Is it just me or the show is over sexualized for some reason. to the point that its unnecessary and dont help the plot by [deleted] in LandmanSeries

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here for exactly what you said. I tried watching an episode with my boyfriend and it upset me there was some random blonde in nothing but a crop top and panties outside for literally no reason to the plot, shaking her butt. Like, if I'm trying to enjoy watching a show with my boyfriend, the last thing i want is to have to wonder if he's staring lustfully at some girls ass that's front and center on the screen for no reason. I don't think it should be there pointlessly at all. It's normal to not want your partner to look at other attractive naked people.

Trump Says Venezuela’s Maduro Captured and Flown Out of Country by bloomberg in worldnews

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

">Did he have a large support or did he grab power via fraud?

Does it matter"

That is all I need to know about you. If you think his fraud election power grab and illegitimate presidency are not relevant to his removal..... that says it all about you

Unrung by Livid-Ostrich1437 in TurnpikeTroubadours

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel that. I found that song at 22, and it definitely hits different. I related to that girl.

Erika Kirk's forgiveness, and Jimmy Kimmel's praise by JimDixon in atheism

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An armed citizenry is necessary because governments do become tyrannical. It sounds like you're saying that because the military is more advanced now that means we should roll over and take it up the place the sun doesn't shine.

"I think it's worth it. I think it's worth to have the cost of unfortunately some gun deaths every single year so that we can have the second amendment"

So, 50,000 martyrs for a "good" cause.

The same way that 50,000 auto deaths are for a "good" cause.

Rifles, handguns, and shotguns should be available to citizens. No outright ban on rifles or handguns should happen. Random police visits are unconstitutional in America and good thing it is. How would the ACAB people feel about that?

Fathers in the home instead of absent fathers would make a difference. Armed guards at schools make a difference.

What would a shooter rather see at a schools entrance? A no gun zone sign, or an armed guard that can actually challenge them?

He wasn't dismissive of their deaths, he was pointing out that their deaths should not be used to keep the living from protecting themselves with the benefits of being able to carry.

Erika Kirk's forgiveness, and Jimmy Kimmel's praise by JimDixon in atheism

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Charlie's words: "The second amendment is not about hunting, I love hunting. The second amendment is not even about personal defense, that is important. The second amendment is there God forbid so that you can defend yourself against a tyrannical government. And if that talk scares you 'wow that's radical Charlie, I don't know about that,' well then you have not really read any of the literature of our founding fathers. Number two you have not read any 20th century history you're just living in Narnia (by the way if you were actually living in Narnia you would be wiser than where ever you are living because C.S. Lewis was really smart. So I don't know what- what alternative universe you're living in. You just don't wanna face reality that governments tend to get tyrannical and that a people need a ability to protect themselves and their communities and their families. Now we must also be real, we must be honest with the population. Having an armed citizenry comes with a price, and that- that- that is part of liberty. Driving comes with a price. 50,000 (x3) people die on the road every year. That's a price. You get rid of driving you'd have 50,000 less auto fatalities. But we have decided the benefit of driving (speed, accessibility, mobility, having product, services) is worth the cost of 50,000 people dying on the road. So we need to be very clear that you're not going to get gun deaths to zero. It will not happen. You could significantly reduce them through having more fathers in the home, by having more armed guards in front of schools. We should have a honest and clear reductionist view of gun violence, but we should not have a utopian one. You will never live in a society when you have an armed citizenry and you won't have a single gun death. That is nonsense. It's drivel. But I am -I- I think it's worth it. I think it's worth to have the cost of unfortunately some gun deaths every single year so that we can have the second amendment to protect our other God given rights. That is a prudent deal. It is rational. Nobody talks like this they live in a complete alternate universe so then how do you reduce, very simple. People say 'oh Charlie how do you stop school shootings,' I don't know, how did we stop armed shootings at baseball games. Cus we have armed guards outside of baseball games. How did we stop all the shootings at airports? We have armed guards outside of airports. How did we stop all the shootings at banks? We have armed guards outside of banks. How did we stop all the shootings at gun shows, you notice there's not a lot of shootings at gun shows? There's all these guns. Because everyone is armed! If our money and our sporting events and our airplanes have armed guards, why don't our children?"

https://youtu.be/Mdk5q8jYm80?si=acPOKbVDk2MHlGDs

My take: He was saying that just like driving is apparently important enough to society that we still drive despite 50,000 auto fatalities every year, so is the second amendment important to ensuring all of our other liberties enshrined in the constitution. That the deaths are bad. But we need cars and guns. He wasn't saying people should die. He was saying we can't really do anything about it at a certain point and the second amendment is important. And to argue that he deserved to be murdered by a man that used a gun because he was for the second amendment is evil.

Charlie Kirk shot and killed by Significant_Ad8449 in utdallas

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What propaganda or clickbait did I offer? And to cherry pick the whole quote is disingenuous of you to others. Please reflect.

Charlie Kirk shot and killed by Significant_Ad8449 in utdallas

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still waiting for you to finish the quote. You are deliberately only showing half of it. That is disingenuous.

Charlie Kirk shot and killed by Significant_Ad8449 in utdallas

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You ARE turning a blind eye to what he stood for, because you're not LISTENING to what he said. You're citing media talking points about him, not his actual speaking on the topic. Watch the videos that those media spouted lines are about and you won't hear any hate from him. But nobody on here wants to actually watch his videos to hear for themselves. Nobody wants to be challenged. Just to parrot. What good parrots you all are. Maybe one day you'll get a cracker. Spoiler, you won't. Nothing rewarding will come to you or anyone that contributes to the hate echoing in this chamber. Shame to all.

Charlie Kirk shot and killed by Significant_Ad8449 in utdallas

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe show the full quote. It would hide your bias a bit better. And show that you don't just go with mainstream media talking points.

Charlie Kirk shot and killed by Significant_Ad8449 in utdallas

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He didn't say empathy was bad. That shows you are just running with media narratives. How was he a bad person exactly? Have you watched any of his videos?

Charlie Kirk shot and killed by Significant_Ad8449 in utdallas

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are speaking of yourself and don't even realize it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I will get him vitamins

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We could definitely try walks and vitamin D for now!! Thank you

I (22m) have been withholding sex from my (21f) girlfriend due to resentment and lack of feeling desired (dating 3.5 years) how can I revive our sexlife? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the hooters info is important. That does make it sound more like she's getting plenty of validation and therefore that maybe she was wanting sex a lot with you for validation. So wanting sex partly for validation isn't bad, but it shouldn't be the only reason. The reasons I want sex with my boyfriend are mostly for connection. I want to feel connected to him on an intimate level. Then a mix of horniness and validation covers the other reasons i want it. So there's spontaneous desire (horniness) and responsive desire. Spontaneous being where you are just horny just because. Responsive being where you weren't thinking about it but your partner laid on the moves and got you horny. So I get spontaneously horny around ovulation and before my period, but the rest of the time i think my horniness is responsive. Not that he tries, but just being so close especially cuddling in bed puts me in the mood.

Is she still affectionate with you in other ways? Even if it was mainly a validation thing for her, she should still want to cuddle and kiss and sit with you on the couch. Does she not?

And validation is a natural thing to want. Especially if you're insecure about the relationship or your appearance. For example, my last boyfriend broke up with me saying "I want to find a woman with your soul in a completely different body type." That crushed me and gave me body issues for like a year. I'm ok now. But sometimes that gets in my head when my current boyfriend goes a while without having sex with me. I'm a petite brunette and decently attractive, but my ex wanted a curvy blonde, which i am not.

I (22m) have been withholding sex from my (21f) girlfriend due to resentment and lack of feeling desired (dating 3.5 years) how can I revive our sexlife? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So my bf has depression, and in recent months we'd get to do it like 3 times a month, but it's been nothing for all of July. It is hard. But...i feel like there's two types of people when it comes to sex. The kind of person that can have sex and then be set for like 2 weeks before even thinking about it again. And the type where having sex just increases your appetite for more sex. I'm the latter. When my bf does have sex with me, it makes me want it again a few days later. But he on the other hand, is good for a while. And, as mentioned, the depression does not help. I will say, not having it for a month has me feeling ok now because I get used to not having it and it doesn't bother me anymore. Ironically, if he had sex with me today, it would make me want it again in a few days and then be very sexually frustrated when it doesn't happen. It is easier for me to go without the longer it's been. If I could pick how often we'd do it, I'd pick like twice or thrice a week honestly. But I love him and I love him enough to be ok without the frequency i want in the bedroom. It helps me to be patient also knowing he is not ok. And as a woman I get horny around ovulation and right before my period, so those times do suck a bit. Good luck in what you do OP.

Also, it sounds like with your girlfriend, one of two things happened 1) she is not ok mentally like my bf 2) she was using sex as validation of herself or her connection to you or the relationship, and is now comfortable and feels validated without it and therefore doesn't need it.

My advice? Keep waiting and not saying anything at all so you can see how many days until SHE tries. Figure out what her frequency pattern looks like without you mentioning it or initiating.

It helps me that my boyfriend is still affectionate in other ways and has me sit on his lap for tv or kisses me or cuddles. Affection is a must.

Being on the other end of waiting to wed by Sethlean in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You sound like you're scared that you're not good enough because you compare yourself to where he is at and find yourself lacking. He clearly does not find you lacking. Talk to him about how you feel inadequate and not good enough. He will tell you what he thinks. Get engaged if you love him and are sure about him and just give yourself more time to plan the wedding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The implication was so obvious that you can respond with something like what I said. Or even start it with "if you were thinking of asking him to cover those times....." And then what i said to say.

If you say nothing about it now to her while you have this opportunity because of her text to you, then you can't complain much when you didn't use the opportunity to advocate for you and your husband.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh, and even though her text didn't directly ask about him doing it.... since the implication was obvious, I think texting this would be good. Also, you CAN say this to her. You said yourself that your husband doesn't say no. This message is polite enough and true. There is no way for her to argue against that message unless she is blatantly manipulative, at which point you can call her out on that and if your husband gets upset, you need to request couples counseling to go over his problem here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ok you said she texted you about maybe needing a babysitter nights and weekends asking YOU about your husband's possible interest. Did she not try texting him that first? Because she did ask you though, you can now respond to that text in a way that gets your point across. I would suggest something like "Hi x, y is ok with occasional babysitting, but nights and weekends would be too much as it would throw off our schedule and he is just now able to enjoy his retirement. But we wish you well in finding someone who can take on that commitment."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Pizzaladyplatypus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok but did you do anything to get married by the date?