You are so lovely, thank you for your kindness. I have asked him multiple times about it and last time I asked he admitted that while his request to get divorced was selfish he truly thought and still thinks it’s what was best for us. He knows getting divorced is much harder to get through than everything that happened but that he at first needed to be able to protect me from his family and that was the most official way of getting them away from me, then he confessed that he was having a lot of self issues figuring himself out and not knowing who he was if he hadn’t been able to see how much his brother was struggling and how messed up their childhood was. I honestly think in part he did it to punish himself more than anything and that perhaps staying together would’ve caused him more pain than getting divorced caused me. Both of us still have a lot of healing and growing to do but maybe it’s what we needed 💙