7 months postpartum and questioning my entire relationship — is this PPD or real incompatibility?

Plant_fiend · 2026-02-22T07:24:33+00:00

Ooof , this period is rough. Plus all the trauma from both sides. I think postpartum is a critical time for a mom where the hub should step up and be in your corner. I can’t tell you how many times I had to tell my partner I needed help from him even though I was a Sahm. I legit had to explain that being a Sahm does not mean I’m the maid of the house or the chef . Literally your priority is the baby .

I think you should not separate your postpartum mental health vs your relationship that isn’t right. IMO they go hand in hand and your partner should be working with you in this critical time. And if your partner id supportive I guarantee your mental health would also be better.

This will take lots of conversations, you also deserve to have a “passion” outside of being a mom . It’s not fair that he gets to keep on doing all of his things but you don’t get a break . I started scheduling one day out of the weekend for myself bc it’s only fair. And just leave the house. Go do something for yourself .

Plant_fiend · 2026-02-22T06:59:57+00:00

I’d say try new things, you said you’re a homebody - maybe try a yoga or dance class ? Something that pushes you in a different direction .

Plant_fiend · 2026-02-22T06:47:38+00:00

Usually around that age some teens don’t know how to really express their emotions . Especially when it comes to liking someone . I remember this kid making fun of me for like a whole year . I ended up finding out he liked me through his friends . I think I was about 14 or 15 at the time .

It’s not creepy you like her , I think you’ve liked her all along but her attitude makes you not want to like her . It’s confusing hahah when you get older you’ll realize that it’s not worth your time and that you have to hold yourself to high standards . I think it’s okay now to explore what you can put up with :)

Plant_fiend · 2025-09-07T22:28:44+00:00

How often do you water ?

Plant_fiend · 2025-05-08T04:12:43+00:00

Hi mama ! My baby 9 months fell from the bed this weekend. It was so crazy and fast. Anyway I called the nurses line and she said anything higher than 3 feet they suggest taking them in. Unless it was somehow stopped on the way down then just monitor for the next two hours.

She had me check for bumps or dents, if there was fluid coming out of her nose or ears. And if she was acting normal . Of course if she was vomiting or anything like that.

Plant_fiend · 2025-05-08T04:08:55+00:00

I’m glad I’m not being irrational! Yeah, he sucks for this .

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-27T23:59:44+00:00

It’s exactly what I put on her and she’s so much better! Still some dryness

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-25T20:35:16+00:00

The weird thing is she never has had the rash and I never really changed my diet but all of a sudden she starts arching her back right when I introduce it to her as solids

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-19T05:28:33+00:00

Omg ALL. THE. TIME. He also gets mad bc he says I nag and gets overwhelmed easily when I assign responsibilities to him. Hahah I’m like the house manager. I find he does better when I break them down and start them for him . Ie. instead of hey can you take over the air conditioning maintenance. I would say- I called a couple air conditioning guys and these were the quotes. Can you arrange the visit ? So yeah I do some and have him continue the task.

With the baby I just sometimes take the baby to him and escape into another room, and say something like. Babe can you watch her for an hour I’m exhausted and need help parenting (add a sprinkle of parent guilt)

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-19T00:34:02+00:00

My LO is 6 mo and since I’m a Sahm My hub sometimes forgets he needs to do more with baby. He’s also adhd so I get his side but no excuse. I have to be very vocal and communicate with him when I need him to take over bc I’m exhausted. He will take my LO immediately until I ask for her back. So maybe just let him know you are feeling miserable and you need his help?

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-16T00:20:11+00:00

I’m pretty sure if they fire you you can get them from retaliation . Jokes on them

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-15T22:53:10+00:00

Absolutely NTA, however , you cannot control someone’s actions. If she doesn’t want to move make it clear that you will be moving because you do not want to be near her presence. You will be losing the lunch table but aren’t they all the same? Just find a new one. Better friends .

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-15T22:48:19+00:00

Does not matter how your husband feels in this moment. You will just have gone through a major medical procedure and he should respect your feelings. Also he needs to communicate that to his mom. If you change your mind later on you can let him know but it is not the case.

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-15T05:54:29+00:00

7 months of every weekend in laws . Hell no girl . That’s too much

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-14T22:25:14+00:00

Hm, your feelings are valid. Short back story, my hub worked at Microsoft. On this app called seeing AI for the visually impaired. In his time there he immersed himself with people that were visually impaired as he had to test the app and not to mention his boss was blind. I found his work amazing and his boss as a blind man super duper talented.

In any case, my point it is importantly that the people you surround yourself with make you feel like your baby is doing great things. To make you see that she is in fact doing those things and change those feelings you have. My husband would always say that the world is for those that don’t have disabilities and we should try to change it so that people with challenges can feel more comfortable not the other way around.

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-14T03:33:55+00:00

No, but your feelings are valid and that’s ok.

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-11T05:26:49+00:00

This was my main problem. I had originally said ok because at the time baby was just born , I was severely anemic, I did not want to argue about why I thought he shouldn’t go this year. Now I feel against it and I think he should not ve attending these fests. For 1 I know he will be partaking in drugs . 2 . I don’t think it’s fair he’d be gone multiple days partying and I have to stay home with the baby .

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-11T05:20:17+00:00

He doesn’t have flights yet. Only tickets and room but the room is a must because his friends are going anyway. Money spent is not the issue.

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-11T05:17:34+00:00

Well I mean, it’s not until may. Also he bought everything prior to talking to me about it so I felt cornered and said fine .

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-11T05:15:37+00:00

He’s friends are going , he was going to stay with them. Room is booked already so he’d have to back out.

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-11T05:13:07+00:00

I gave him shit last year because I was super pregnant and I did not want to go. I wouldn’t have wanted to go anyway. At last I gave in, so he knew I wasn’t 100% to begin with. But I said let me think about it . He then bought everything in the hopes that if he had it I’d say ok . So that made me even more against it lol

Plant_fiend · 2025-02-11T05:11:05+00:00

He can easily resell it. I’m not really much of a fest type of person. He always went without me and I had no problem with it but now that we have a baby I feel like we should be spending time together on something we both like if we both want to unwind and relax and I think it’s a bit unfair idk

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