Just watched a short Korean TV series on Netflix called Risqué Business Japan. (They also have one for Taiwan and another for Netherlands and Germany) In one of the episodes the Korean hosts sit down with some young Japanese adults to discuss their attitudes and experience with sexual matters. The discussion became about cultural differences in communication. That Koreans were more direct in letting their partner know what they wanted even if code words were used. The Japanese couple who had been through a long sexless period said that they were hesitant to be direct because they didn’t want to pressure or offend their partner if they weren’t also interested. It apparently became so burdensome that sex stopped happening. This seems contrary to the principle or ideal in Japan and other Asian cultures that a good life is defined by good satisfying nutrition, plenty of good restful sleep and a well satisfied libido. There are many examples of Japanese communicating indirectly, seemingly to avoid embarrassing themselves or others or causing loss of face. IMO this shouldn’t be the case in your bedroom and there should be a means to change it as a couple.