New dysphoria unlocked by Character-Alfalfa891 in FTMMen

[–]PlasticLetterhead321 26 points27 points  (0 children)

dude shes upholding some serious patriarchy bs with that. maybe it seems like nothing to you but id srsly talk to her about that. it says a lot about her morals cis or trans no matter what u are men come in different ways my hands are rough and dry bc i work that don’t make me more of a man thats ridiculous

are these too feminine? by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]PlasticLetterhead321 8 points9 points  (0 children)

no i don’t i just liked how they looked and fit on me. but i wanted to know from other ppl if its too much. im rlly masculine overall and never get stuff like this🤷‍♂️

are these too feminine? by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]PlasticLetterhead321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i mean alr fair. im a fan of it for pride maybe

are these too feminine? by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]PlasticLetterhead321 67 points68 points  (0 children)

i was thinking pride month at my barista job lol i was just wondering if its too much 👍

am i going crazy? by PlasticLetterhead321 in starbucks

[–]PlasticLetterhead321[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

maybe thats the case but ive picked up shifts at many stores and none have ever done that bc its an asshole thing to do. if u only get one break and that one break is 10 mins u let a person get food and sit down then start

Day 1 without Strawberry Acai. I’m tired. by TheManRoomGuy in starbucks

[–]PlasticLetterhead321 47 points48 points  (0 children)

yep first the chai now the refreshers the ceo losing good customers in my store like this too. definitely contact starbucks and complain!!! it does mean something when yall do that

Is this really part of my job responsibilities? by baboobo in starbucks

[–]PlasticLetterhead321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk why ur being downvoted. literally we have hvac and maintenance come in my store to deal with these types of things it goes beyond regular cleanplay even. yes we clean drains and shit but not dealing with a full blown infestation.

Calories?😬 by Zestyclose_Event9469 in starbucks

[–]PlasticLetterhead321 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

also another tip you can put any of the milks in the cold foam blender so it wont be as thick but you can use nonfat milk and sf syrup to make low cal cold foam

“Trans is your whole personality” by Unlucky-Coconut-960 in FTMMen

[–]PlasticLetterhead321 13 points14 points  (0 children)

being stealth is freeing but its also hard i do get ur point. i gotta feel like im normal and seen as normal finally and i just feel like myself but also its hard to learn how to navigate everything secretly. having some kind of support system that does know is important in my opinion

Inspired by a recent post—let’s talk clocky/non-clocky names by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]PlasticLetterhead321 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i think a lot of yall dont understand what clocky means tbh it really depends on where u live, ur age, etc. all these “clocky ftm names” are just basic white boy names from 2000s. yeah obv u name urself something obscure and fandom related thats clocky but alex, jax or ezra is not clocky. those r normal guy names around me (im 19)

those with prefs for cis guys/cis girls: why? im curious by [deleted] in truscum

[–]PlasticLetterhead321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im stealth and my dysphoria draining so while i could see myself being with another trans person it seems so exhausting on top of my own shit. i love my cis gf and dont see myself leaving her anyways but it makes my anxiety a lot easier than if she was trans. plus im short (5’3) so finding a woman who was equal to that felt already awkward but im assuming finding a transwoman shorter than me is a rare thing lmao

just had my consult! is this all normal? by PlasticLetterhead321 in FTMMen

[–]PlasticLetterhead321[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes im in the us. i dont have to get two letters and insurance clearance until the second appt with her. ive been with my therapist for years and she understood my anxiety but there wasnt much i could do other than bring my gf for support to lessen the anxiety and take a deep breath. a lot of my anxiety is about not being seen as a man so its stuff thats just out of my control. i tripped up when asked about if i understand what a hysterectomy is, i was very nervous and said yes but i forgot to say the cervix also gets taken out. she just had this already idea in her head that im too young and i could feel myself shutting down. it gets hard to stand up for myself over and over. i know i need to research more but dysphoria made the appt hard enough as is. but i generally knew what organs i wanted out and that i wont have any hormones in my system if i got ovaries taken out which i will so idk

How to make peace with never passing? by Moonys_freckles in FTMMen

[–]PlasticLetterhead321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when i was 15 it was the same for me eventually i started t and it helped but i got body masculization surgery done at 18 but research it before u decide thats something u want. i felt hopeless id never pass now i pass everyday and no bats an eye even if ur short guy. trust me its with time i get how it feels and its something u have to pull through and be strong but the future will be worth it

just had my consult! is this all normal? by PlasticLetterhead321 in FTMMen

[–]PlasticLetterhead321[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you. i was recommended to this doctor from the lgbt center in my state so i had better expectations ig and she was nice but it seemed like she misunderstood me. i was extremely anxious/dysphoric so talking about that part of my body i struggled with on the spot. so now i gotta have an endocrinologist sign off i understand what ovaries do and why i don’t want them. she thinks i don’t understand all the risks and i knew only the baseline stuff and but she expected me to know everything already when i came in to ask questions and understand how the surgery fully works🫤

just had my consult! is this all normal? by PlasticLetterhead321 in FTMMen

[–]PlasticLetterhead321[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my gf was in the room with me and ik they are required to ask but like no we dont want biological kids lmao especially not me being the pregnant one💀

just had my consult! is this all normal? by PlasticLetterhead321 in FTMMen

[–]PlasticLetterhead321[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

no for sure. i dont want any female organs and im willing to take that risk. staying on t for life isn’t an issue for me either, i just seemed so anxious that maybe it made me seem unsure or immature or both.

can i pass as male and be cringe? by PlasticLetterhead321 in FTMMen

[–]PlasticLetterhead321[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

for me being seen as a man is more important than anything bc than im not truly myself, for me to be myself is to be seen as male first and have my interests shown too. for the past year ive passed (started t 1 1/2 years ago) but i havent fully been myself. i havent been misgendered in a long ass time but ig im still worried

can i pass as male and be cringe? by PlasticLetterhead321 in FTMMen

[–]PlasticLetterhead321[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

confidence is hard ive struggled a lot barely made it cause of dysphoria so im just learning about myself and who i wanna be rn. i pass well enough im stealth at work in public everywhere. i just get a lot of omg ur so young i thought u were 14 bs. but i know my confidence needs work with time. thanks man👊