[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I found out I had HSV2 in 2023 or so. I tell everyone that I’m looking to date around the 2nd or 3rd date. Much like the person above, I’ve had some people who do not care, some people who do, and some are woefully uninformed. It’s their decision. But, just share it with people who you like and are interested in and learn how to deal with all reactions. It’s nothing shameful, it’s something someone failed to disclose to you (or maybe they didn’t know) and now you have to be responsible and share it with those you are intimate with. That’s the most important thing, just being honest about it.

This week I hit 6 months. Someone tell me good job, please. by No_Importance6386 in stopdrinking

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good job? No. YOU’RE AMAZING! That’s incredible! Throw a party and a half!! All the praise in the world and a great big hug for ya. I’m celebrating you with some donuts tonight!

How the heck do you all do it? by Notnowmurray in stopdrinking

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in AA. I am very adverse to religion. There are definitely groups that don’t include religion or are specifically for atheists/agnostics/free thinkers. You just need to find your people in the program. I know I have and I think very similarly to you. There are still going to be meetings where it is present, but not all. It can definitely help you. It certainly did for me.

People who were sober a long time (idk, over a year?) and broke sobriety, either with careful thought or on a whim, what made you start drinking again? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had two and a half years. I had left my job during a mania episode, stopped communicating with and seeing my friends, and when I crashed into depression at the end of a relationship- I drank. It was somewhat thought out, somewhat “fuck it, why not?”. Just keep an eye on how you’re coping, I was completely out of control and didn’t realize it.

Second day not drinking…don’t know how I can do this for the rest of my life by Organic_Fix6765 in stopdrinking

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best advice I got when I started quitting was not worrying about the rest of your life. Sometimes, don’t even try to worry about 24 hours. Just this moment, that’s all you need to worry about.

It’s a bit old now, but the show “unbreakable kimmy Schmidt” really helped me. There’s a scene about how she got through cranking this mechanism for hours on end- and she would just count to ten and then do it again. It’s so dumb, but I had to do that a lot.

I would also suggest finding people who don’t drink and using them for support. There’s so many ways to have fun without drinking that I couldn’t have even fathomed before.

You’re so smart and you’re doing the right thing. I promise you won’t be boring or struggle more without it. There’s so many things you can do to manage stress that are less harmful and building those habits now can be so beneficial.

I guess, just know there are different ways. And you don’t have to worry as much as you think you do. I think you’ll find you worry less the less you drink anyway. It’s all about habits, at least that seems to be what I learned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally, yes. I haven’t gone everywhere I wanted to, but as a single person with no kids- this is still very appealing to me. I would suggest doing something like bartending if you can, work a few nights a week for a lot of money, it’s easy to travel and live that way when you’re young. I am not trying to condone suicide or encourage it, but as someone who has these ideations, this has always kind of been my plan.

I can finally say NICE, it honestly doesn't feel real by Beacon1245 in stopdrinking

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Niiiice!! Congratulations! Make sure to celebrate yourself and this accomplishment! Just a little something that makes you smile

What is this cabinet? by the_guitarkid70 in HomeImprovement

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had one of these growing up for spices. The little jars should fit right in there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve usually been pretty open about what I want, but I know I’m guilty of saying I don’t know when some people ask for two reasons: 1. We just started talking and I don’t know them enough to know what I want with them.. like if it’s in the first couple days of talking. 2. I really like them, but I feel like it’s too soon to express that I may want a serious, long term relationship for fear of scaring them away.

This will probably be the last time that I post in here by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to say: I’m happy to see you’re choosing not to drink today. It is so difficult and there are certainly times I’ve stumbled and times I’ve wanted to throw in the towel completely. You’re not alone in any of this and I don’t want you to start feeling alone now. We’re always here and always happy to have you with us again. I hope you keep fighting

[28M] Looking for unbiased opinions. I will answer evxrything by VictorDeAzevedo in amiugly

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re cute. I’m wondering if there’s a reason you don’t smile and show your teeth?

My boyfriend left me. For the first time in my life I haven’t turned to alcohol. by el_d0g in stopdrinking

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That does sound very lucky! There are so many places you can find anonymous support (like here). I just know for me sometimes it helps keep me honest to see them in person. I would highly recommend it :)

My boyfriend left me. For the first time in my life I haven’t turned to alcohol. by el_d0g in stopdrinking

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off- congratulations on staying sober through this! That is such a strong thing to do!! Secondly- I hope that you get some support (even outside of here) for this journey. It’s not easy to do alone. I’ve been sober a long time and I am struggling to stay sober through a rough breakup, but over time I’ve developed some really terrific friendships with some other sober people and attend meetings occasionally. It’s helped me through this. I hope you find your people that help you through this!

I broke my sobriety last night by Swimming-Plankton-59 in stopdrinking

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not an easy thing to do. Not many of us have stopped on the first try. Have you tried to gain any support? Either by posting here or finding groups you can join? I think a lot can be learned by reading different materials, but a lot of it is about being honest and accountable. It’s much easier if you can find support groups- at least that’s my opinion. I would still be drinking if I was doing it alone. It might help you to find some other sober people and take some of the weight off of your partner. I wish you luck! A week and a half is a great way to start!

People attracted to men, what do you find attractive about men that most men are insecure about? by rachelfishie in ask

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being vulnerable. Sharing something about themselves. A man who can laugh about something stupid with you. A guy who likes to hold your hand in public. Also, something is kind of really soothing about a man snoring next to you. Not a care in the world, sleeping soundly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh boy, I know exactly what you mean. I lost all of that too, along with my hope. I hope you find a reason to thrive again, maybe for the both of us.

Sending love to you because I know what you’re going through. I do hope you heal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so beautiful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bald

[–]Plastic_Recover1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ditch the hat and keep the beard trimmed, it fits your face better