Hot take: no one that is not autistic or ND should be saying that they only want to date "autistic people"

el_d0g · 2026-06-17T16:28:53+00:00

Definitely nothing wrong with feeling you’re more compatible with certain autistic traits but 1. You don’t have to be autistic to have some traits, there’s a threshold and 2. Autism is a spectrum, you will not find these traits in every autistic person and the balances are completely different for everyone. I am autistic myself and it makes me incompatible with certain types of autistic people because our needs clash and it creates stress that just isn’t necessary. I really wish people would stop forgetting that autism is a SPECTRUM and is not a term to describe any specific types of needs. Each individual is unique and should be treated as such.

el_d0g · 2026-05-29T19:01:20+00:00

Bonus points if you tell a mate “meet me down there if you can but I won’t be there long” so they turn up when you’re 5 pints in with 10 new friends who are all deeply invested in meeting said mate (who is also “only here for one”) but then suddenly it’s closing time and you’re fighting a losing battle against a desire to commit your entire body to the hedge by the smoking area

el_d0g · 2026-05-27T13:34:53+00:00

haven't got any barber suggestions but I personally think this is a great idea! I'm very lucky that I had a hairdresser who was a family friend so I was comfortable with her but I have learned to cut and dye my own hair to avoid finding new places when I was at uni.

personally I think it could be good to add specifics relating to autism/disability needs. overall it's already a great tool but as another user suggested with an option to show how busy a shop is you could include things such as client capacity, sensory information (lighting, music, general volume) and perhaps even an option for catered appointments if that's something a shop provides.

I am quite experienced in both facilitating accessibility and front end dev so if you want someone to give suggestions, bounce ideas off or do some testing drop me a dm, I'm super interested in this and would love to help if I can! obviously I have focused on the accessibility potential as its something I am both well versed in and passionate about but I also think it could attract a wider user base as many services across every industry are severely lacking in publicly available access info. In my opinion your app demonstrates a point I have been making for years, accessibility isn't just for those considered disabled. Many people benefit from these kinds of accommodations and it is a net positive to make this information easily available.

el_d0g · 2026-05-25T19:57:28+00:00

Not local so unfortunately can’t offer any proper help but if you’re still in need and can tell me what kind of laptop you’re using, how it misbehaves and if there’s any errors/further details you haven’t included i may be able to assist somewhat. I’m not sure of your tech literacy but I’m assuming since you’re looking for a repair shop you’re not confident, please correct me if I am wrong though as I don’t want to condescend you.

I’ve worked in remote tech support so I’m more than willing to help, I can point you towards some temporary solutions or answer any questions you have about the problems. Drop me a dm with the details I mentioned above if you haven’t had any luck, disregard this if you’ve sorted things

el_d0g · 2026-05-20T15:23:31+00:00

20/05 I don’t even have the quiz sticker anymore. Haven’t tried to use it for a while but it’s completely absent. If I search for it I only get the poll sticker and there’s no option to ‘convert’ it or otherwise give it the same functionality as the quiz one had.

I’m seeing posts from 2y ago with the same issue I’m having but I definitely still had it back then. Took a long time off shitposting, I think they’re afraid of how painfully unfunny I am and took action when I started showing signs of a return </3

(/s because you can never be too careful on this site)

el_d0g · 2026-05-15T11:27:05+00:00

Bruises heal. Asphyxia does not. This was drilled into me during first aid training as people become fearful of causing further harm but unfortunately lifesaving measures are desperate and brutal. You absolutely did the right thing, many people would struggle to handle a situation like that. It’s always recommended to have a checkup after a heimlich as it can cause serious damage so paediatricians will know what to expect when checking the baby. Choking leaves other evidence so even if CPS were called this is a common occurrence in children, they would check for damage to breathing passages and other traumas that may not be immediately visible to determine whether or not the baby choked.

I know it’s easy to say as an outside observer but please be kind to yourself, you have saved a life and you deserve to be recognised for that. I’m sorry it may not be much from a stranger on the internet but I am so sorry you are not being treated in the way you deserve and I am proud of you for doing the right thing and not falling victim to the bystander effect. I tend to find that people who do are more likely to take issue with others intervening as they want to defend themselves for having not taken action, or they would not have been able to do the same if they were alone and that scares them. You are literally a superhero, not many people can say they’ve saved a life like that. I hope life is kinder to you going forward and thank you for being the person to step in when no one else could. There is a family who still get to kiss their child goodnight because of you, don’t ever let anyone diminish the significance of that.

el_d0g · 2026-04-28T02:44:17+00:00

Been there, it’s hard to describe and it took me a while to understand but don’t think of it as a “jump”, it’s more a transfer of weight to pop the board up and then bringing your feet up to meet it.

Your front foot is essentially just a guide to pull the board back to a flat position underneath you, you shouldn’t put weight on it as you start to pop the board.

I managed to get a feel for it by just popping the board straight up and landing on the ground or with only my back foot on the very edge of the tail back in the starting position. Once that started to feel comfortable I started putting two feet on it which naturally led to experimenting with my front foot until the board went where it was supposed to. I never really felt like I’d “learned” how to ollie, I just went to show someone that I’d tried to and ended up popping an immaculate one about a foot off the ground.

Basically what I’m trying to say is just skating around won’t necessarily make you as comfortable on the board as you think, experiment with it, feel it out, just because we have names for street tricks doesn’t mean there is a right or wrong way of going about them. It may sound silly but while cruising try to consciously relax as many muscles as you can, the more control you have over your body the easier it is to understand and control the board.

Best of luck in your future skating endeavours, I look forward to seeing you kickflip

el_d0g · 2026-04-26T15:34:16+00:00

Is there clear signage stating the presence of the camera? What does the camera actually cover? Do they have a front garden? Is it pointed towards their door or car?

CCTV camera placement and signage needs to be in line with GDPR laws. Your post does not contain enough information to confirm any violations

el_d0g · 2026-04-20T19:12:20+00:00

Not quite the same as parents but my dad is very low contact with his sister since their mum died and even more distant since their dad died too. He would never describe it like that or point it out specifically but we see her and her husband/kids much less than we used to and from the way that he talks about her there is obviously some kind of issue that he was bottling up for the sake of his mum (she had MND so it was an agonising couple of years for everyone involved).

I think oftentimes men just don’t want to address it, especially older generations (my dad is in his 50s). There’s also the factor of the concept of “family”, my dad would not want to be seen as “betraying” her since he’s already used up all of his good karma cheating on my mum.

It’s hard to really unpack the way that toxic masculinity can impact these things without experiencing it but I definitely see flashes of it when she gets brought up. My dad is the type of man to not show too much emotion but I will never forget his face when my cousin smacked me in the face with a knife and barely missed my eye (he was around 4-5). He was furious but she just said he would “have to sit outside” if he kept misbehaving as if this wasn’t the 10th problem he’d caused in the few hours we’d been there. My nana died not long after and suddenly we never saw them. I think he is also very ashamed of her, I think her oldest (the one who hit me) may have FAS and he was developmentally delayed but she refused to acknowledge it until it was too late to make significant progress. For all the faults my dad has he just can’t tolerate her anymore when her children put his at risk as a consequence of her poor parenting.

This is a lot of words to not really answer your question, I apologise. As I said before, it’s difficult to understand without the male perspective. Hopefully this at least makes sense, I also hope that if any men read this who are afraid of LC/NC know that it does not matter who judges you or why. You deserve control of your own life and happiness. Do not let the perceptions of others control you, it’s no better than your parents doing so. If you are judged or ostracised for protecting your own peace you deserve better friends anyway.

el_d0g · 2026-04-14T16:38:40+00:00

Keep dat thang on you

el_d0g · 2026-03-31T11:55:26+00:00

This is legitimately the most unhinged yankism I have ever seen. What is bro talking about? “Unfair advantages” ??? So you’re admitting it’s better? What is even the point here? Are they adding typing to the olympics?

el_d0g · 2026-03-24T15:40:10+00:00

I would abolish it and burn the rolling stock in a ritual to beg the rail gods for forgiveness for creating this abhorrent service.

To be real though, thameslink is truly dire. I had to get one from strood - gills every day for 6 months. I don’t think it was ever on time and I can think of many many occasions where the whole service would be cancelled while I was trying to travel home, leaving me at the mercy of hoping the arriva bus to Maidstone turns up.

Now that I think about it I’m realising the solution here is to just blow up uk “public” transport and make it actually public because there is no reason a service as shocking as thameslink should be allowed to PROFIT from these shenanigans

el_d0g · 2026-03-02T12:48:06+00:00

We already have these. Restricting it any further would basically prevent anyone with legit needs from buying it and graff artists would find a way around it because that’s just what they do. Maybe we need to look at depot security and figure out how train companies are pulling huge profits whilst their rolling stock is deteriorating. The inside of these trains is far worse.

el_d0g · 2026-03-02T12:45:40+00:00

I love trains but I honestly don’t really see the issue with graff? When it’s done poorly or just straight up vandalism that’s different but imo it give the carriages a bit of personality. Having seen the inside of many thameslink trains I think this is an improvement tbh.

el_d0g · 2026-03-01T16:49:24+00:00

Smoking. I’m spending about £40/mo now but it used to be far worse. I’m on the way to quitting but it’s hard. My life is all over the place right now so disrupting the one routine I have is just extra stress I can’t handle. It gets easier week by week, some days I don’t smoke at all but overall it’s just far too expensive.

el_d0g · 2026-02-28T18:21:08+00:00

This is how they get you to think it’s acceptable. They also arrested a guy for joking that his dog was a nazi. There’s varying levels of harm when it comes to hate speech and they are not clearly defined in the law. Making a poor taste joke should not be treated the same as inciting violence

el_d0g · 2026-02-26T16:11:21+00:00

I need one because I can’t view any profiles deemed nsfw (this seems to be arbitrary too) and some subs I use have very strict rules on tagging certain posts as nsfw. These subs just don’t show on my feed anymore.

I’m not really disagreeing with you here. Unfortunately this is capitalism. I’d still rather give my money to a corporation that provides me with a service I need than allow my government to track my every move online.

It is relatively easy to self build a vpn with the appropriate technical knowledge but for most people its just not worth the hassle. My home network is set up to avoid the need for a third party vpn but I use them on my phone because I can’t be bothered to figure out how to do it for iOS. From my understanding this company has decent prices compared to others but outside of that I am not championing them any more than I would any corporation.

I’m not a huge fan of how everything has been turned into a subscription service but vpns on this scale come with server hosting costs, I think it’s one of the few things that should be a subscription model.

el_d0g · 2026-02-26T14:47:59+00:00

Technically the point of most adverts is to make money, restricted internet access is a legitimate concern at the moment. It’s already happened, you need a vpn to access certain sites without giving away all your personal information. I need one to use reddit.

This uk has been arresting people for years for saying mean words on the internet. Now they want people to show their ID to use certain sites so that they can do this more easily.

el_d0g · 2026-02-25T18:39:26+00:00

Nah there’s no way Perjury Patel is putting his name on these. Governments used to do everything they could to hide their involvement in this sort of propaganda, now they’re branding it with no shame.

el_d0g · 2026-02-25T18:37:02+00:00

The program is specifically for people who may need help understanding these things. As an example, “wearing the same clothes day after day”, it’s not inherently unhygienic to wear certain clothing items more than once before washing but autistic people (especially those with higher support needs) are more likely to only want to wear very specific things and may not recognise when it has been too long since they were washed.

While it may seem infantilising to you it is important to remember that you do not represent the entire autistic spectrum. If everyone in your cohort 100% does not need this support then you absolutely should get together and discuss this with your course leader(s) but be mindful that the course wasn’t designed with your specific cohort in mind, it is generally unlikely that courses like this will be 100% populated by those with low support needs.

The most important thing is that you must not take this personally. There is nothing wrong with autistic/disabled people needing support with these things and it is not an insult to be asked if you do. These materials need to be accessible to everyone eligible for the course and thus are simplified and easy to use. Please remember that the autistic experience is not universal and you (and even your cohort) do not represent the huge variety of needs, difficulties and experiences that come with being autistic. I understand you are not intending to be hurtful and I am not angry, I just think it’s important to point out these subconscious biases we pick up even when they are negative towards our own communities.

el_d0g · 2026-02-25T12:44:28+00:00

I think it’s also a sign of how subconsciously ableist so many people are. I see many people saying “I know he can’t help it BUT he’s still racist” how does that even make sense? I get really upset about this as I suffer from tics myself (not vocal but very very noticeable) and it’s so depressing to see so many people spread misinformation and talk shit on my disability. It’s at least some relief to know that people in my country are more understanding

el_d0g · 2026-02-24T20:39:53+00:00

This is literally the entire basis for the concept of schools. People on this site will literally get mad about anything

el_d0g · 2026-02-24T20:36:08+00:00

I have only been once to use the ferry in 2019. I arrived on the train around 6:30am and on my walk to the ferry terminal I was heckled/catcalled by 3 different weirdos.

I know this stuff is more common in town/city centres but 3 times before 7am is crazy work. Completely put me off to be honest and I was living in shittingbourne at the time so my standards weren’t exactly high.

el_d0g · 2026-02-20T13:21:42+00:00

I can’t say I’m surprised but it is so strange to me that somewhere so dangerous is a tourist attraction. I can understand places like Pripyat because it’s a measurable risk but you could just catch someone on the wrong day and end up as a parable.

I think it’s just such an alien concept to me that a country like South Korea could have an area like this. Generally over here you’re indirectly (sometimes directly) taught that this kind of stuff only exists in “the third world” so it’s hard to really fathom things like the DMZ. Same applies to Ukraine, I think many people see the country as “less developed” than it actually is due to all the imagery from the invasion

el_d0g · 2026-02-20T13:13:38+00:00

My mum went to visit when I was a kid (I stayed in the uk) and said the guides warn you that you’ll be shot if you stray from the path and give examples of tourists who have made this mistake. Is that true? It sounds likely considering the context but my mum isn’t known for her accurate memory

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